Men who watch p 0 r n. I REFUSE to date one. First off, I’m not interested in a man who finds the objectification and abuse of women arousing. Secondly, the acts shown in most if not all p 0 r n is a twisted perversion of reality and morals. 3rd for all you men who think whacking off to some chick...pretending it’s you on the video...these videos for a 15 minutes portion can take up to 7 hours to film and up to 48 hours ( literally 48 solid hours of straight editing / fixing/ slimming / beautifying. For filming theres makeup, wardrobe, hairstylists video editing ( editing of bodies & ...
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Hello. Need some advice. I want to save my marriage. The fact is that my husband and I have been married for 5 years, and I thought that everything was fine with us. However, recently we quarreled, and I thought that this quarrel is the same as that of others, that we will reconcile again and everything will be fine. But when I took his working computer, I saw that he was search a review of online divorce services. I was surprised and depressed. I really want to save our marriage, but he doesn’t even want to talk to me. Tell me what can I do? I’m very afraid of losing it.   [End]
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I know that the divorce process is very hard to cope with when you have to fight for your right to child custody. I feel very sympathetic toward you. And I've got a little advice for you: to ease this process and spend less money, turn to   [End]
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To be Happy one thing I need is.... ☝ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. Myself 💚. .. Because Happiness is not obtained from outside. It is INNER.. and for that you do not need someone. You need someone to SHARE it with them!.. I know most of life perhaps the majority of us got to believe that it is something another person can give us who is our close friend or the one we Love.. but the Truth is we do not need someone to be Truly happy we just need to learn how to be Happy whether we have that someone in our life or not. Ones learned we just Can SHARE it but no ...
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How to write THERAPEUTIC LETTERS.. 3 💚💙💛 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . This Practice helps when: 1) You have many unspoken words, emotions and pain towards particular person. 2) You are not able to solve a problem with a particular person because they are not willing to open up or simply ignores you (if that person died but still there is something to tell - do so). 3) You want to solve the problem in that relationship but just do not want to involve that person in that. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ...
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This is a very nice video! A lot to learn for many of you posting questions in this forum! 6 Strong Signs You Have Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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Very educational, short video. You may recognize some sociopathic trends in some of the people you know. 5 Signs You’ve Met a Sociopath But Just Don’t Know It [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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www.thehotline.com You are living in an abusive relationship and your children are learning how to be abusive by watching the interactions between you and their father. White Shark is spot-on.  Get out, regardless of money.  Money will not ever buy this man a conscience, nor will it ever buy you and your children safety.  There are agencies and organizations that will help you and your children to get on your feet.  Additionally, avoid ALL relationships for a couple of years after you’ve been legally divorced.  Get involved in some counseling ...
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The answer is yes ... he is a psychopath and a narcissist. He is not a good man, not good to you or to your kids ... and it will get worse. Run for your life while you still have some life! That man is not good for you! WS   [End]
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Hello. I’m in a desperate situation, married since 6 years with 2 children ( 8 m and 3 y). The life with my husband is at the moment a living hell. I want to divorce him but I can’t because of financial reason( he is the provider and I’m a home staying mom) and because I’m afraid I will loose my children duo his lies and manipulation. I’m also in his country with few friends but no family. His family support him and believe all the lies he is telling them. His parents even have pushed me away in our apartment a few days ago, while having my daughter in the arms. I can’t tell nobody about t ...
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I’m recovering from a heartbreak. I thought I would never make it ! I want to encourage those who are in the same situation: it is possible to make it and recover from it. One book has actually helped me a lot : ”How to Overcome Emotional Pain” from Nassera Victoria, a counselor. and now I can say : I’m back to life ! Changed forever, but back to life ! Hope you will be too.   [End]
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Revenge Your Ex Each day hundreds of men and women seek revenge on their ex-mates for a variety of reasons, usually because they got dumped or where cheated on. Revenge comes in many ways. It typically starts by using social media to vent, and then escalates from there. Now sites like ”Get Revenge On Your Ex” for a fee will help you get pay back or revenge. So what is the best way to get revenge besides slashing her tires, posting nude photos of her and so on. The best way according to the web site Right Choices 101 is to live your life well. This is true no matter who you a ...
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if we can live the dictum of giving to each their own due (give to Caesar---) and realize that the stage of emotional maturity determines our personal, our neighbor’s and our societies requirements, we can more easily find the power to mentally and physically allow that which might not be to our choosing or seems unfair or destructive, knowing that the most important life lesson and challenge is in learning to carry our own burden, without directed at others, blaming anger, remorse or self pity, and in learning how to let, rather than force, unhealthy destructive self oriented desire based ...
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Ham-cereal, I’m so sorry to read about your situation, and I’m sorrier that there are 3 children involved. Borderline ....... has she been diagnosed as borderline, or does she exhibit the symptoms?  There are specific dangers with regard to borderlines depending upon which cluster they fall into.  Some will threaten suicide while others will attempt suicide as a provocation.  Physical violence is not uncommon, regardless of gender. If you are done with this marriage, I would strongly encourage you to become involved in individual / private counseling.  A lot ...
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So I’m leaving my BPD wife, we’ve been married for almost 4 years, together for 8. We have three children together, 5, 3, and 4 months old. As a lot of you may have experienced, your SO with BPD might go through cycles of mood changes and their frequency and intensity will fluctuate depending on the person. Well my wife had been stuck in a cycle for a while, and I’d grown too accustomed to just keeping my mouth shut and not objecting to things I would normally, so as to not escalate an unnecessary blow up. So my wife lets our 3 year old do whatever she wants, including disrespect me, wal ...
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But, to have compassion, some need a lot of energy.   [End]
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Such a beautifully written article even though in reality many men will not follow this suggestions :) I’m very lucky to have a very loving husband who always put his family and I first. But even with that due to my own parents who didn’t get along during most part of their marriage, so I didn’t have a good example to follow when it comes to my own marriage. Thus it took a lot of trial and error for me to learn to make my marriage works, and I’m still learning, good thing I’ve a husband who is very willing to make the marriage works. Recently I came across a free ebook teaching people how ...
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re: the thread question. How do we create a society that has more compassion, when we live in capitalism? Whether it’s our body or our society, uncontrolled parasitic activity contributes to a systems imbalance, and if unchecked, it’s ultimate downfall. In our bodies, bacterial infection, virus and fungi affects. In a society, one or more peoples gaining and gaming for self serving advantage, control of one or more of the physical living necessities, land, food, water, air or fuel.(Whether by self agrandizing destructive dictatorship or by monopolic monetary driven privatization of ...
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hah, crisis, healing, that is the intention now to be all for lives, ya, thank you men for facking me.   [End]
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the energy of life that is coming to now is changed to an energy to come in the future and that makes men greedy and thing to be made by men for substitute of that nature in man and around. the vibration of love is the reaction that has no time and not for tomorrow as a reward and love from the ones that you or me have to. A projection of men not that of God and his creation, power from within and not for shows. all that evil which is not evil but natural suppressed would come to be seen and too late all action in vain. is done by men, very sick indeed. joy vs pleasure. truth vs ideas to ...
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the going and doing and waiting is not for a fruit that comes into conscious to truly a want to have. The now is not lived any more and the natural instinct has become that of a dragon, to see what man can believe and question and experiment and nothing real. Like here in curezone hoping for help to heal oneself but controlled to be defeated. All controlled but no compassion at all. no loving energy to stop us from going far into angry energy and what is forced to come out of it. God vs Satan. Love your next to come, ban wars weapons poison greed money haste ideas just for deception mone ...
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Compassion can make all the difference in how pain feels. When people are indifferent, or judgmental, if they do not have the capacity to be kind, or etc. This must be avoided. It makes one feel isolated and then pain becomes increased. It is something human, but also I think true for animals. When there is compassion for pain, it is so helpful. How do we create a society that has more compassion, when we live in capitalism?   [End]
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Wilson, Please post the actual link address. diseaspintcenter.tk cannot be found with google. DPC.com cannot be found by google, either. Grizz   [End]
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Hello, friends this is my newest website. i developing in now currently i am working from this site to maintaning this more knowledging and informative for ohters. so please suggest me how i can more impreccive and knowlegdeble to this site. my site name is DPC (diseaspintcenter_dot_tk) please reply me THANKS WILSON.   [End]
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In October, I posted facts and statistics about Domestic Violence and Abuse (DV&A).  Because tomorrow is "Thanksgiving" in the U.S., it marks the beginning of the "Holiday Season" for most of the largely recognized religions, as well as cultural observances.  During this time, DV&A is increased at an alarming rate, and there are reasons for this. The abuses that are ramped up during this time of the year typically involved the " unseen " abuses.  Religious, sexual, financial, emotional, verbal, and spiritual abuses inc ...
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My fiance and I kept on getting into fights all of the time. We were close to breaking up a few times. I knew that we needed something to stay together because he was pulling away from me day by day. Dr Baba really helped us stay together and become a closer couple. He did a love binding spell that worked perfectly! He started making more of an effort to talk to me about how he was feeling which helped us work through our problems so much better. My fiance tends to shut down whenever there is conflict and this spell helped him communicate with me. I can also tell that he is more attracted ...
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I don’t agree with you, when one has to go through the pain of divorce life becomes very difficult and one can’t just forgive the partner. I am going through divorce and fighting for justice with the help of divorce lawyer Fairfax, VA and will win for sure.   [End]
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That is so true - the lawyers will be paid regardless of the negotiations or judge's rulings.    [End]
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I think you make some good points. I wasn’t familiar with the history or ostensible purpose of no-fault divorce and as you say, it might not be a bad idea if it were amended somewhat to accommodate punitive damages. In any case, only the legal system and the lawyers really win.   [End]
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Wat?  I seriously do not understand your post, on any level.  Sex is the reason for divorce?  Is that what you're typing?  And, that circumsision has something to do with this theory?  ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Sit in a Family Court, for a few days, listen and observe.  Divorce rates are so high because of "No Fault" rules in nearly every State in the U.S. (48, I believe), and in Europe.  This is a relatively "new" legal concept that was adopted about 60-70 years ago ostensibly to protect housewives from destitution ...
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Hey All, I’ve noticed that a lot of people like to focus on studies that find that women who had sex with men with and without their foreskin experienced different levels of sex. That basically means you’re looking for an experienced women which can be a bit difficult to find. I’d like to propose an easier way to find a link between sexual pleasure and circumcision. Divorce rates. Compare the two groups and see who wins out. After all, sex has a lot to do with divorce. -Ron   [End]
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I believe that these advices are all true. It will not be easy to do them all but then let’s keep trying! Thanks for this post!   [End]
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Yes, indeed the turmoil affects them. I have 4 children, they are now all adults and they are all messed up. One is a narcissist worse than her mother. Their mother brain washed them to never, ever resolve conflict, but to run, hide and blame. I see them in many relationships that don’t last now. I’m not an advocate of meditation, when in a relationship with a narc or sociopath, most find it impossible to meditate in peace. Secondly, if you can find the peace, it is but momentary. Though some do have success with meditation, I found it to be more harmful than helpful as it led to ...
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Rule #1 stay away from him, do not contact, period. I have little faith in counseling and therapists in general. I have been through it too and all the good it did was make the payments on my therapist’s Jaguar. However there is hope and lots of it. EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques is superior to therapy. It is self help and it is totally free to learn. There are good support forums that can help you use this new tool. It looks a little silly, but one self session can do you more good than a year’s worth of ”therapy”.   [End]
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”It is a recognized behavior with long-term trauma survivors that they live in the past and the future, at all times, and this is what creates the cycle of depression and anxiety.” wow, that’s me, living in the past and planning for a future that never happens. I thought i was the bad guy.   [End]
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Hello Forum.. Ok, being an Admin on one of the FaceBook pages.. some time back I posted my own article about SUICIDE. One guy contacted that FB page in order to find Help from Doctors to die quick... He tried to make it happen by drinking couple of Hundreds Sleeping pills but Doctors Saved him and he turned to that page. I am Extremely HAPPY that I saw that post of his even Not being an admin of that page by then. So I answred him and tried to talk Sense to him.. So here is a copy of that article. :) ......................................... SUICIDE… What comes on your mind wh ...
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October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month Someone, at some point, determined that October would be named as the national "Domestic Violence Awareness Month" in the U.S.  Here are some statistical facts about DV&A: 90% of all DV&A occurs in front of children 60% of all DV&A occurs in the home or dwelling 1 in every 4 homicide of a female is committed by their intimate partner 60% of female teens have experienced violence or abuse by their intimate partner 40% of all teenagers (male and female) know someone who is bei ...
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So, I married/divorced/moved away from a sociopath... One of the things I’ve been doing in therapy is working on redirecting myself. I write. I’m a great, honest writer. I’m a poet. I love it. So, using that strength, we are relating it to rewrites. I started out with a beautiful work that was me. Well written, complete, for a rough draft, acknowledged by self that it needed a little tweaking. Then one day someone picked it up, without permission, said they were doing me a favor, read it, cut it apart a little at a time, rewriting it bit by bit, until it was hard to recognize ...
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Namaste by the way. That hurt this causes a mother (or father, they do exist, in my real life support group, so I know) is real. And only someone who’s experienced it and is in touch with it (facing it in reality) could write what you wrote. Namaste.   [End]
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Thank you. Coming to an online support group, beginning the difficult for me process of speaking, and having it attacked was very reminiscent of well, why I’m here. People project. And I forgive that. Thank you for hearing me that I’m calm, not blaming or trying to ’fix me’. Or doubting my very hard to write experience. I didnt come here because I wanted the opposite which is what society gives us. Judgement. Sticking up for myself, saying how I feel, really feel, in the face of someone telling me that calm (and with PTSD, staying calm is not easy least like it used to be) is ...
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I am new to this forum as a poster, but I read it and a few others for support from my experiences with two narcissists/psychopaths in my life. First, I want to offer my support and sympathy to peace please7. Although I have never been physically harmed, the mental and emotional abuse, especially using my children to get to me, have been so unreal and devastating. It is the most unfathomable feeling when the abuser manages to take your children away, even when everyone around you knows that you have been the primary parent and their role was minimal and even that you and the children ...
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Exactly. Thank you. :’) That. That right there is the painful present that is hard to face. Because its a mothers pain in not being able to leave the kids there in it. If there were no kids, I would have been long gone and never looked back.   [End]
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i meditate but I think the issue here is why it might help her it doesnt help the children.Children are affected by living or expeiencing this type of situation and it seems he wont allow peace using the children to hurt her . In the end the kids get hurt. He doesnt care about the emotional well being of the kids just hurting her.Sociapaths donot have the ability to love anyone - though they seem to have a love hate relationship with themselves so her fear of him having custody is warranted. Most mothers would go to great lengths to protect and nuure.Emotionaly seperating yourself form the ...
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peaceplease7, I am no expert of any kind. This is how I think I would feel better. If you can learn to meditate, it will help you heal. SoulfulSurvivor is right, get some counseling. I have experienced this many times in my life, that when someone does anything wrong to me, I first think revenge and then teaching them a lesson, but I only felt good when I let it all go an forgive them for their actions. Forgiving wholeheartedly and accepting what is, is a sure way to be free. You may not think that you are living in the past or future, but when someone is hurt as you are, your mind ...
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The funny thing is and I’m sure you can relate, but I’ve always been that calm, wise human being. Even when my ex is convincing people otherwise, even when I am crying and shaking and so flipping scared, I know I am a calm wise person. Who had these symptoms and scars added by another not so calm and wise.   [End]
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PeacePlease7, I've been where you are, believe it, or not. I've been contributing to this, and other sites, and advovating for victims of domestic violence and abuse for many years, now.  It has taken me this long to finally experience recovery and actually begin the healing process. With what you are experiencing, it's no wonder that you're in a vortex of fear, depression, and anxiety.  It might be an option to apply for every program of public assistance available where you live.  If you are in the US, apply through the  County Human Services ...
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I’ve been to both the domestic violence center where we used to live and here also. I had counselling back then and went to a support group until I found out he was talking to my counsellor, and started showing up at my support group. I’m in therapy now. Its a free service through DV center, as our custody schedule prevents me from working full time now and I have no insurance. Its hard to get past the part when it keeps being re-tried over and over and he keeps financially and emotionally draining us. Its been constant restim. The present is painful as he won the last two times in co ...
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PeacePlease7, I don't know if you saw my response to your earlier post, but it might be a very good option to look into counseling therapy with a licensed specialist who works strictly with trauma.  It is a recognized behavior with long-term trauma survivors that they live in the past and the future, at all times, and this is what creates the cycle of depression and anxiety.  It is.  I know it from my own personal experiences in recovery and healing........ Two blog sites that deal specifically with trauma survival, domestic violence/abuse, and survival o ...
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So I married a sociopath... I’m just going to go there. I live in fear of what I say, do, damned if I do-damned if I don’t these days. But here, I will speak up. My social media, email, mail, gets tampered with and used against me in court year after year, my own family and friends who are discerned as threats to showing the truth against his lies are targeted and often successfully alienated from me, even my eldest son’s father whothough we didn’t stay together we stayed friends and supportive of each other now is using his same attorney and has successfully ruined his relations ...
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PeacePlease7, I'm very sorry that you've had such awful experiences.  The "reason" that spaths get such a kick out of abusing the legal system for their own entertainment is because their victim targets react so perfectly to their designs.  It's not that we want to react, but long-term traumatization creates a host of behavioral and emotional issues that can cause us, the survivors, to appear   [End]
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Lost girl, there seems to be a rash of legal abuse perpetrated by sociopathic exes. That’s why I’m here too. I keep thinking ’OK. I made a mistake. So I married a sociopath. So why am I still being pursued for destruction 7 years after we divorced,with 1 to 3 suits for custody a year, still tearing down my and the kids support systems, keeping us impoverished and always in high tension, etc. How much karma is there really, I mean I made a mistake, right? So I married a sociopath.’ The truth is, as a friend put it, people don’t understand abuse or domestic violence as much as they ...
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Hi, David Thank you for your response. I read the information you’d posted about vitamin C with interest. This triggered a memory; when I was in great health, I remember preaching to family (all allopathic doctors) about the wonderful benefits of taking high doses of vitamin C. I don’t remember what I had read at that time, but I know I was in great health and employing a large variety of good health measures. Thanks... I am taking C-500 daily, in addition to multivitamins, and will upgrade my dosage. Kefir helping an enormous lot too. Best wishes, Xenyen   [End]
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Hi, Xen, If it were me, I would employ the information previously posted below: http://curezone.com/forums/fm.asp?i=2188184#i I hope it helps, Xen. Best wishes, David   [End]
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Hello! I’d done a lot of cleanses and zapping many years back, achieved superb health (never tired!!), perfect figure, peaceful mind, etc. Well, divorce, moving continents, and other issues later, where for several years I totally forgot my health, I’m back to working this stuff. I’d like to ask: while I’m sorting out which herbs / where from , etc, I’m using: Water soluble herbal artemisia absinthius, drunk in hot water (wormwood) In this I’m putting essential oils of Clove and Walnut. Do you think this would help? The local Pakistani walnut tree is variously termed Jug ...
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A Divorced Man Wrote These 20 Epic MARRIAGE ADVICES He Wished He Could Have Had. A MUST Read (!!!) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Obviously those ones can and Should be applied Not just by Men but women Also. :).. Below are 20 Wise Marriage tips from a man that was recently divorced. You wouldn’t normally think that a divorced man would give good advice on being a husband, but this man has been through enough hardship to know what is worth fighting for: MARRIAGE ADVICE I WISH I WOULD HAVE HAD: Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s ...
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I agree that you need to have the test ran to make sure the child is yours. Then go from there.   [End]
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Cheating isn’t a ”mistake”. A mistake is failing to sign your tax refund check. A mistake is forgetting to pay the water bill or not putting the Mastercard bill in the mail when it needs time to make it to destination. You screwed another woman because you wanted to. You both are liars and have no business being married. Nothing new under the sun...you’ve created a mess, congratulations.   [End]
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awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   [End]
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During the Holiday Season, abuses increase at a dramatic rate.  Gas-lighting, coercion, verbal/emotional abuse, spiritual abuse, and sexual abuse are at a fevered pitch, while the statistics on physical violence drop, dramatically.  Why? A Holiday or special event is the most perfect time for an abuser to work non-violent abuses.  Typically, there will be more verbal abuse in the form of threats, like, "If you don't _____, the children won't get any presents, and it will be your fault."  Fill in the blank with anything that you can think of, whe ...
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wow. here are the words that I could not find. Thank you. I’ve just begun the journey...trying to get me back. Like you - to become the person that I should have been before my ”inner child” suffered the damages that she did, as well.   [End]
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Given the choice between a motorcycle and a spouse, what would you choose? Bob White of Virginia is letting the Internet decide for him. The Charles City man is selling his Harley Davidson motorcycle or his wife on Craigslist for $5,900. According to the ad, posted on Richmond’s Craigslist this week, he’ll consider the best offer -- for either the bike or his wife -- and will also accept trade-ins. In the humorous posting, White, who owns a motorcycle repair company , gives a rundown of both the 2006 XL1200L Sportster’s and his wife’s features. "Sportster: Beautifu ... [Image Embedded Here]
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BlueRose is spot-on. There is an innocent child involved in this mess who had no choice into when (s)he would be born, and to whom (s)he would be born TO. This is not a concept. This is a fact: children do not have any options, and you may have produced another innocent life, as well. I agree that you’re both not at a level of selflessness to commit to a healthy relationship - for yourselves, and for your children. Dissolving the legal contract of marriage seems to be the most prudent option, and I would recommend that you both avoid entering into another relationship or contract o ...
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why is this on the Lyme forum??????   [End]
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It seems like you don’t respect or truely care for yourself, only when we have true compassion for ourselves can we have true compassion for others. Happiness comes from within us not from those around us. Guilt is useless will not fix the situation only eat away at us. Regret and renunciation will see it through. You are not a bad person, your behavior was wrong, big difference. No one is inherently bad, just sometimes we emotions cause us to behave in an unacceptable manner. This will all pass. Everything changes moment by moment. Just don’t get stuck in a past moment. It’s gone and can ...
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I feel very badly for your child. S/he is an innocent victim in all of this. It’s a shame that neither of you thought about your child when you cheated on each other. That said, while I believe that when there is a child involved, both parties should do all they can to make things work, in your case, I think it’s best to divorce. It seems to me that neither of you are capable of keeping your word. If you stay together, it will be the same thing over and over again. Meanwhile, your child will be the one most hurt by both of your actions. Also, given that you’ve both cheated, are ...
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Hello every one I need your up most honesty. My wife recently found out that I had cheated on her. We have done it both to eachother back and forth but it was all due to my initial mistake. I have been away from home for about 4 months now and really got my stuff together regarding the physical aspect. My thing is this my wife left me in march and she said we were getting divorced in my anger I sought out comfort point blank no excuses. I stopped talking to the woman on the last week of April when my wife said she wanted to work things out. I went home in June to visit my wife for ten days ...
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Although I admire your desire to help, suicide is the side effect of an illness of the organ called the brain not a weakness. I must take exception with your belief that suicide leads one to hell. Would any parent condemn to eternal suffering their dearly loved child who was so distraught that they feel killing themselves was the only thing that would help. No they would seek help for their child and love them all the more,. Surely God as our father is much kinder and merciful than us,m mere humans. if we would not condemn neither will God. If someone is saved and accepted g ...
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spot-on. This C + X + Affair = Disorder scenario doesn’t mention any little letters. That would be children. The ONLY reason to continue living together during a separation is strictly for financial purposes. Even then, a divorce action that involves betrayal will turn ugly-as-sin, without fail. Before either of these..............contractors.........attempts any construction of bigger, better, and stronger houses, they EACH need to get some better training so that they’ll have appropriate ”materials” to access for their next respective projects - if you get my metaphorical gist ...
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Sounds like C has always had the ”upper hand” and cares nothing about vows and the institution of marriage and has little respect for X. Obviously honor and commitment was not part of C’s plan. The house burned to the ground because X chose crappy materials and C lit the fire. Now X wants to rebuild the same house using the same crappy materials while still living with the same arsonist. X has permanent burn scars by C and will always be in fear of getting burned again while trying to put forward a facade to replace something that was never real in the first place. Seems quite hu ...
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Here’s a crazy scenario that I’d like to get other people’s perspective on... ”C” has a long (18 month) adulterous but semi-long-distant affair - met 5 times in that time, the first 2 were only visits/walks/lunch/movies - the last 3 meeting were for intimacy. This was 4 years after C carried on an emotional affair with same person. C is discovered by their spouse, X. Initially they discuss the terms of their separation but after 12 hours of discussion, X amazingly poses this question to C, ”Can this work out after all this?” C decides that yes, if X can work through this, it c ...
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Hello Forum... Ok, being an Admin on one of the FaceBook pages.. a few days ago I posted my own article about SUICIDE. One guy some time back contacted that FB page in order to find Help from Doctors to die quick... He tried to make it happen by drinking couple of Hundreds Sleeping pills but Doctors Saved him and he turned to that page. I am Extremely HAPPY that I saw that post of his even Not being an admin of that page by then. So I answred him and tried to talk Sense to him.. I will copy that article of Mine for you to read and also give a link redarding that one. I Kindly woul ...
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Wow.. that was wonderful. Must share. Thank you ;)   [End]
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http://thedianerehmshow.org/shows/2013-05-20/debate-over-ending-lifetime-alimony?page=3#comment-254164   [End]
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Hello Ladies and Gentlemen. :) Here we go! A few minutes of ur precious time to look at this issue under a totally different angle..... ;) http://www.dailylife.com.au/health-and-fitness/dl-wellbeing/the-body-image-video-every-woman-should-watch-20130417-2hz3v.html ;) Nadia   [End]
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Dear SoulfulSurvivor: Thank you for this informative and hopeful post. I appreciated all of it and have been down a similar path of emotional recovery in 12 step support groups. I wish that you had gone more deeply into your recovery process rather than the ”compound fracture” thing because, IMO, healing damaged feelings is way different than healing a compound fracture. I would have liked to see all the subtle details of fixing damaged feelings rather than a compound fracture although, in some ways, the process is the same. But then, perhaps just dropping a few hints for repairin ...
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Your right! That’s great decision divorcing your husband. Divorce is really costly, specifically if you have to hire a lawyer to look after everything and get you what you deserve. It is well worth the payday loan to pay your lawyer and make sure anything is fair. It is never good when you end up with the bad end of the deal in the divorce.   [End]
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I am SO grateful for your response to the original poster.  NO situation is "hopeless," and it sometimes takes many heads to come up with a reasonable, rational solution.  ABSOLUTELY, I would take this bull by the horns and turn the focus on him, starting with a consultation to a litigation attorney, and then to the HR Director.  Again, thank you for your insightful and sound response!   [End]
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I was head of HR for 2 large companies, and also had access to anything and everything. He is certainly not the top of the ladder, and if what you are saying is true, the company can be liable for his actions. You might want to contact another lawyer, and if it is true what he doing and the company is allowing it, you won’t have money issues for long. His actions can be traced. Turn the focus from him, to the company for the wrong doing of their HR manager.   [End]
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Sounds like you work at the same place.  I have no doubt that you’ve already considered another position with another business.  I am so sorry for your experiences, and it’s important to vent! One suggestion would be that you visit this website:  www.lovefraud.com I wish you the very best on your Healing Path.   [End]
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Thank you for your heartfelt support & advice. While I truly appreciate your wisdom, have basically done all of it! Somehow he is always several steps ahead of me. I am no longer a ”victim” but grow weary of fighting the good fight. I have 2 amazing therapists! I can’t have no contact since we have 2 girls together, my youngest has recently moved in with him. I have had 4 seperate bank accounts at 4 different banks. Same number of cell phones-”go phones” thought to be safe, wrong again! Have had locks changed, new email accounts, several different po boxes...to no avail. No point in c ...
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Lostgirl, I am so sorry to read of your experiences, and grateful for your recovery.  First, I would suggest that you change your CZ ID - you’re NOT "lost."  Did you ever engage in counseling therapy with a professional that "gets it" about what you’ve experienced?  I strongly recommend this option because there are some things the human psyche isn’t equipped to process without objective, rational, and insightful assistance.  To find someone that "gets it" about domestic violence and abuse, you can contact your local domestic violen ...
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I was married to a relentless, manipulative, lying, cheating sociopath for 23 years. I survived every type of abuse imaginable. He continued his abuse through the legal system. Then 2 years ago, my brain exploded. I had a double brain aneurysm. I should be dead. I am a living miracle! I have endured 2 subsequent brain surgeries. I am alive for some greater purpose. Yet, my ex won’t leave me alone. He sets up online accounts with my bank, my health insurance, my cell phone, my Internet, credit cards and then gains access to all my info. then blocks me from my pen accounts! He takes my mai ...
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Moderator, I would like to express my most sincere gratitude at your incredibly speedy response to my outrage. I found CureZone almost a decade ago, and it was a godsend to me, on every level.  It is no easy task to maintain the integrity of this site as it was originally developed, especially when over 20,000 visitors view this amazing site. Thank you, very, very much and brightest blessings to you   [End]
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I just noticed this casting call on the Divorce Discussion forum and I am absolutely apalled.  First, because a "production company" is trolling for divorcing couples on a discussion/help forum, but secondly because I cannot imagine what jackass determined that a divorce process would be a source of healthy entertainment. There is nothing entertaining about a divorce, regardless of the circumtances and anyone that would consider creating yet another negative reality show focusing on the heartbreak of a divorce process as a source of entertainment must surely be suf ...
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For anyone who has ever experienced the insanity of "Family Court" in a custody/visitation battle with a disordered ex, the links below will resonate strongly with them. Prince Mcleod Ram’s death is still under investigation, and the Judge that ordered the visitation did so without using one ounce of common sense, as the transcripts will reflect.  The judge made it crystal clear from his own mouth that he was only sitting in Family Court because he was required to do so - that he didn’t "like" hearing Family Court cases.  This, alone, is a glaring indicatio ...
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I’ll be blunt, a lot of women get lazy when it comes to making a guy cum. Guys like their cocks sucked, just like women like their clits licked to orgasm. It takes work, it takes a drive to succeed, it takes committment. I guarantee the world would be a better place if women, well into their marriage, would concentrate more on orgasmic sex than housework or other drab things of marriage. Guys want sex and they want it hot. Wives want the same thing, too, but after all the other things have been done. Sex for women in 15 year marriages is typically not hot. He’s probably bored with t ...
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The dissolution of a marriage is a legal act that may not always coincide with a couple’s emotional tearing asunder. Divorce is typically a painful process for all concerned. While it can take adults time to regain psychological equilibrium, whether or not children ever recover a stable perspective continues to be debated. Post-divorce hostility between adults, in addition to directly harming kids, is a sure indicator that the emotional split is incomplete. When the emotional toll of a divorce is taking precedence in an individual’s life, it’s important to rely on the legal services of a ...
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"I’m not very far along my healing path, and I stumble and falter, often...." An awareness or realization that one has pain that they’ve not worked on is 90% of the healing process.  Give yourself loads of credit for what you’ve learned and the direction that it has taken you in your healing journey.  I can’t remember her name but there was a University of Washington psychology professor in the Seattle area who had a call in radio program who would many times repeat her mantra "Life is three steps forward, and then two steps back" and it’s very t ...
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A contributing author of www.lovefraud.com lost her only son, this morning, while he was in custody of the baby’s father for unsupervised visitation.  The death is being investigated as a criminal matter, and no further details are available, at this writing. What is available are the archived articles written by "CappuccionQueen" on www.lovefraud.com about her harrowing ordeal within the Family Court system, and her vain attempts to warn judges, attorneys, case-workers, and every other entity about the abusive nature of the baby’s father.  Without engaging ...
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Dear SoulfulSurvivor, I've   [End]
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That was a really a disaster..   [End]
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Hello Soulful Survivor, I am happy to find your forum. It is needed. You are going to make it! I too have been involved with a N and have not extricated myself yet because of family business where adult children are involved. I, like you, know where I want to be and need to be emotionally but get frustrated that I am not there yet. Healing is a process We must be patient and trust in the higher power to guide us. You are loved. I hope you will continue to post.   [End]
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SS---Excellent post filled with helpful info for others! You’ve been on my mind and I’m glad that you posted this update. Please know that I send hugs your way and wish you all the best!   [End]
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I have been a reader and poster on CureZone for many years, and there have been times when this site was pivotal in my healing processes, especially where my health was concerned.  I started this board formyself and other people who were in doubt of their relationships with narcissists and sociopaths, and for those who struggling on their healing paths.  I never thought when I started this board that I would have married another sociopath of a different sort. It has been almost a year-to-the-date that I discovered that the person that I had been married to for ove ...
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Is your husband a ”gamer” (video games)? does he spend a lot of time on his computer. He might be getting his fill thru porn. Also Gaming takes up those precious few hours at night. Try making love in the morning.   [End]
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This is an older post, so I may be too late. All the answers you got were good ones....but I picked up on how you said this has been going on ”over the last three months”. That is very sudden. I think your husband should not only have his testerone levels checked, but he should have a full physical...and he should tell the doctor about his sudden lack of interest in sex.   [End]
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I’m deeply sorry for you unfortunate experience, but before you read on, please understand, what I said might offend someone, although I don’t mean to be offensive in any means. I’ve seen all the replies and they’ve all trying to ”bad mouthing” the husband, which I think is not really being helpful to her, although what they’ve mentioned could truly, but before it does you should never assume it did or else your situation will only get worst, therefore some suggestions from above about openly questioning daughter for abuse, etc, in my opinion would make the situation worst(again all I w ...
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Donna Andersen, author and founder of LoveFraud.com, will be launching a National radio broadcast to educate the general public about sociopathy.  If you believe that a person needs to be a serial killer to be defined as a "sociopath," THIS BROADCAST IS FOR YOU!!!! Mark it down and listen in.  Donna is a "regular person" who was targeted and defrauded by James Montgomery and has become a foremost expert upon sociopathy and the subsequent healing processes involved.  She speaks plainly and truthfully about her experiences, ...
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...that you found the site "biased."  The unfortunate fact is that men rarely report domestic violence/abuse and experience extreme criticism and ridicule if they file a criminal complaint, let alone try to discuss the issue with someone. There is information out there with regard to abused/battered men.  You just have to do some research to find it.   [End]
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Where may I obtain this ”education?”  ”Education” with regard to Domestic Violence and Abuse may be had by visiting www.ndvh.org, or by Google searching ”domestic violence facts.”   I went there and it automatically assumes that men abuse women. Little do they know, many women abuse men - mostly with words, throwing plates from kitchens, etc. The site is at least noble enough to suggest to people being ”abused” to get out of those relationships and seek help.   [End]
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Where may I obtain this "education?"  "Education" with regard to Domestic Violence and Abuse may be had by visiting www.ndvh.org, or by Google searching "domestic violence facts." Domestic as in at home or as a country?  Really?  It can be both - "domestic" in the original message refers to family violence and/or abuse.  Different countries have different views and approaches to the epidemic of family violence and/or abuse. Violence verbally, physically, or other?  If you need to ask this question, then it may b ...
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Where may I obtain this ”education?” Domestic as in at home or as a country? Violence verbally, physically, or other? Abuse, a redundancy of violence? Please clarify.   [End]
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You can write a survey, yourself!  It’s probably a really good idea to get all questions prepared and any links/facts researched.  GOOD IDEA!!!   [End]
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"Many have been the times when friends, family members, Law Enforcement, counseling therapists, and Judges have engaged in VICTIM BLAME...." So true.  As a child (male) who was sexually and physically abused by adults and siblings I learned that as an adult I didn’t dare approach a family member to talk about it, let alone accuse them.  Particularly the sexual abuse from an older sibling who, educated and working in a professional field I know would have literally killed me if I were to ever mention it to anybody.  He had a pistol and would have used ...
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Take a few minutes to take the Domestic Violence & Abuse Survey.  Options that have a BLUE QUESTION MARK ( ? ) next to them have additional facts and information with regard to the specific question. One participant commented that they found a particular question to be "offensive."  GOOD.  We should be offended when it comes to ignorance about DV&A.  Many have been the times when friends, family members, Law Enforcement, counseling therapists, and Judges have engaged in VICTIM BLAME .  Even in this age of information ...
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There is discussion group called I Live In a Sexless Marriage with over 20K members and reading those stories will help you a lot   [End]
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Don’t take it personally, that’s what happens in nature as males and females age, and as the relationship ages. Contrary to popular belief (in the US especially) love and sex are totally different things - they can be related but still they are totally different experiences. As a matter of fact the term ”make love” is very misleading and just sets people up for problems and disappointment - it says ”he doesn’t LOVE me unless we bump our private parts together”. Call it what it is - ”having sex” - so you don’t set yourself up to blowing it out of proportion if in fact his desire to bump ...
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Has he had his testosterone levels checked? Lack of sexua| desire is very common with this and low T is very common for men as they age.   [End]
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Sounds like you two need to sit down and talk. It could be monotony that could be issue here and you might need to change something up regarding to sex. Also it can be due to physical attraction between you and him. Regardless of what it is DO NOT blame yourself for anything. This is not your fault in anyway. As a woman you have needs and from what you have described he is not meeting them so let him know that.   [End]
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My husband used to want it two times a day if not more. Over the last three months we have made love three times. I’m the one who initiated two of those times. I have asked what is going on and tried to figure it out and I just don’t get it. I have not gained any weight I dress in sexy clothing. I have asked if there is another woman and he has told me no. He says he loves me and that there is nothing wrong with me, but I feel like I’m not doing it for him anymore. We have been married for almost 15 years. I don’t know what to think or do, what is my next step?   [End]
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Thanks so much, Blue Rose.  I have to say that this has been the most bizzare, terrifying, and heartbreaking journey, to date.  But, through working with this amazing counseling therapist, I’ve managed to avoid most of the pitfalls when ending a relationship.  Am I angry?  Oh, hell yes, I am.  Am I heartbroken?  Well, nope - not anymore.  Do I have hope that I’m going to be okay?  Yeah - after a long while (since finding that nasty bag in September).  I post to get this emotional infection out of my system - it’s sort of like a h ...
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SS---Thank you for posting an update. I have thought about you quite a bit and wondered how things were going for you. With this post, you have shown once again, what a strong woman you are. You’ve also passed along some very helpful advice for us all. By doing so, you’ve also shown once again what a generous, giving person you are. I know that in the long run, you are going to be okay. Your post was very moving. I found myself reading it with tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat. Please know that you will be in my thoughts. Do keep us posted. By detailing your exp ...
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It’s’ been a good while since I’ve posted with regard to my personal situation.  What this all has been for me was a very, very hard learning experience.  I’ve learned a great deal about myself through strong work with a counseling therapist - why I’ve made choices that I have, and how I cannot (and, SHOULD not) take responsibility for the soon-to-be-ex’s choices and decisions.  I’ve learned that a sociopath can present the most normal of facades and neatly compartmentalize the most vile truths imaginable.  I’ve learned that I had the ability to close the door o ...
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You’re a GOOD HUSBAND, and a GOOD MAN, and you CARE about your marriage. But… You’re in a tough spot. If you’re on the verge of divorce… Or if your wife is cheating on you… Or if your marriage JUST PLAIN ISN’T WORKING… Then this is the most important letter you’ll ever read in your entire life! You want the truth, so I’m not going to sugar-coat it for you… DIVORCE is one of the WORST THINGS a guy can go through. There’s: • FINANCES torn apart… • Families WRECKED… • DECADES of savings up in smoke… • HOURS of a long, drawn out legal battle in divorce court… • Watching in horror ...
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Soulful, your last sentence is the answer to the consequences you seek for the worm’s actions: You get to heal, he gets to remain sick, empty and pathetic. In the long, eternal and universal perspective of things, that’s punishment enough. Hell is real and he, pitiful creature, is living proof.   [End]
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Seek2, thank you SO much for sharing and for pointing out the Life Lessons that are to be learned.  Although this may sound nuts, everything happened the way that it did in my life for "A Reason."  Had the events not happened the way that they did, I would be in a much different and more horrific state.  I am truly grateful that I learned what I did and that I am rid of that worm and his sociopathy.  It’s "My Time," now - time for me to concern myself with my Self.  Time for me to begin the process of healing, learning, and growing - ...
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My absence of malice is how I was able to see the result of their presence of malice. Yes, eerie for sure - but typical of my life. Nothing much has ocurred that could be considered normal in my life until I changed my perspective, my thinking... It is unusual to have so many examples - I have lived long enough to have more than one man, and each was a lesson for me, each was ”not okay” in his own skin and visited upon me that which NO ONE deserves - yet I was victorious in finding the life lesson in it for me, while they went to their destiny...we do reap what we sow, and while I found ...
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I think what I’m seeking is affirmation of Kharma - we reap what we sow.  Your experiences and the subsequent results (for lack of a better word) are eerie, to be sure.  I don’t wish for the worm to suffer illness or death - just accountability and consequences.  If he were to suffer illness/injury as I had (and, continue to) and endure either/both alone, afraid, broke, and desperate, it would be just reward for the way that I was treated, absolutely.  But, what I would wish to see is for his sins to be heard in open court and for him to suffer consequences for his p ...
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I have a long list for you - each person in my life who has done extreme damage to me has met with tragedy. My father, who was irresponsible for the welfare of his childen and ”innappopriate” with me, died of brain tumor at 57 yrs. - asked my forgiveness from his death bed, said he felt he was dying for all his wrongs, actually blamed me in a sidelong parting shot - it is what narcissitic sociopaths do! Various husband/boyfriend types have died - one in a wheelchair for 20 years, etc. This is not gender specific karma - even females, including sisters. I have followed your situation ...
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I would love to read posts by CZ members who have experienced betrayal and abuse and actually saw their abuser held accountable.  I don’t mean people who have exacted their own vengeance, but members who witnessed consequences that were imposed as per the abuser’s own actions and choices.       [End]
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One should make it as enjoyable as possible. Sex should be safe.   [End]
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To a degree, I agree with your explanation of choosing partners - I believed my spouse to be "safe," loving, and worthy of trust.  I was chosen by him to represent a cloak of respectability, as a nurturing mother figure, and as a cash cow. I am addressing my own issues through counseling, and I have never claimed that I am "innocent," nor am I blameless for my situation.  There were red flags, all along, and I chose to ignore them or excuse them.  Although he didn’t deserve a physical attack, I did not deserve to be bil ...
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Soulful --- My heart goes out to you. I’m reading this with tears in my eyes. Whatever you do, please don’t be so hard on yourself. You’re only human. Sometimes we get pushed to the brink. I’d like to say that I wouldn’t have done what you did but I can’t say that with any certainty. When our daughter abused our trust and lied to us, I think back and am glad in a way that I didn’t find all this out until well after the fact. What makes me glad that I found out after the fact, is that I can’t say with any certainty that I wouldn’t have given her a whupping at the time. That’s how ...
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We choose partners based on who will give us an opportunity to express deeply hidden emotions. Your part in this whole story, which reads like a perfect example of passive-aggressive behavior by an ”innocent” wife, is much larger than you are aware or willing to admit.   [End]
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The spath has determined to proceed with the charges of domestic violence.  This could ruin the rest of my life as far as getting employed.  He’s doing it because his mommy (THE target of his deviances) is urging him to do so.  Oh, well .... it is what it is and I’ll just have to get through all of this, somehow. I still don’t have computer access, so I am only online so infrequently, but if anyone out there has read past posts (WAY past), and the most recent ones in an attempt to define their own situation of abuse, please take this to heart:  no matter how angry we ...
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Your situation is very serious but I could sense a real strength in you from reading your post. I’m so sorry you are having to go through this at this time in your life. Sounds utterly horrific! xx You have been chronically deceived and betrayed on so many levels. But it’s a good thing you have gotten to some of these truths. You HAVE WHAT it takes to make it through this and I think you know this deep down, and that it makes you feel guilty, b/c your husband may not. He may die from his addictions. You must survive this. He has made his choices and so you must too. The rage at ...
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 Thank you for your support, Mod....I really don’t have the words to describe where I’m at, right now.   Thank you, so much.   [End]
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Soulful!  I can only imagine what must be going through inside of you at this point.  You feel betrayed to the hilt, you feel helpless, unprepared, violated, raped, mocked, direspected, ripped apart, etc., etc., etc.  Try as I might, I would like to think that in a similar situation I would hold myself together, but I suspect I would go ballistic a lot sooner than you have. All that being said - DON’T YOU DARE COME DOWN ON YOURSELF FOR HAVING REACTED OUT OF YOUR PAIN AND SHOCK!!!!!  COME OUT OF THAT SELF-DESTRUCTION. -- )))NOW(((  !! You didn’ ...
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Since the original post, I discovered email evidence that clearly indicated that my husband had been involved with someone else as a BDSM playmate.  He even addressed her by her dominatrix name in the email, and asked to "resched" their planned get-together.  To say that I was finally emotionally eviscerated would be an understatement.  I finally accepted that I had loved someone for 13 years that had been leading a double life and violating one of the most serious taboos for my stability in a relationship:  porn.  Not only was it porn, but it was of the ...
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Your username says it all................... So sorry. You are loved.   [End]
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...And probably when you least expect them. My best. Fledgling   [End]
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Thank you, very much, Blue Rose.  This has been a true "eye-opener," as They say...whomever "They" are. Four people in Real Life are aware of what’s transpired, and they are not involved in my everyday life.  My son has no idea, and I don’t intend to inform him unless I take action. At this time, my fury, hatred, and meanness have simmered down into this soup of hyper-watchfulness.  I’m watching my spouse to see if he truly intends to make changes for himself.  And, I’m taking it one moment at a time - I’m not looking towards the futu ...
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SoulfulSurvivor --- You so eloquently explained how things are currently going for you. Reading through your post, it is plain to see that you are on the right track. Keeping a journal is an excellent idea. That way when you meet with his therapist, you will have a written record of your thoughts and feelings. Much as we say to ourselves, ”I will remember all this when it’s time to discuss the matter”, we often realize that we forgot a crucial topic that we wanted to discuss. Whatever you end up deciding to do, please know that you continue to be in my thoughts. Sending more hu ...
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Just an update on what has transpired since my unfortunate (or, fortunate) discovery.  Unfortunate because it has shaken me down to my very core, and fortunate because I can finally explain various things throughout our marriage that didn’t seem quite right. I’ve been managing my fury in the most positive way that I can by turning that intense energy towards my work.  I’m still trying to wrap my head around what my spouse’s deceptions have meant with regard to our relationship.  The implications are far-reaching and I am still behaving as if I intend to follow through wit ...
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How can we possibly know that someone might be a malignant narcissist or a sociopath?  There’s no outward, physical symptoms, so what are the some of the common traits of sociopathy?  From the website, www.lovefraud.com, the list below is a good start: • Glib and superficial • Egocentric and grandiose • Lack of remorse or guilt • Lack of empathy • Deceitful and manipulative • Shallow emotions What the hell does "glib" mean?   When someone makes a "glib" comment, it goes something like th ...
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hi as far as i think i advice you to be loyal to your husband because marriage is a relation that only works when the both of people be loyal and dedicated to this relation and as you mention you have a normal marriage life then dont make it mess . we are the common people who make mistake but god give us chance to learn from them so please dont feel bad because you still dont do anything wrong , Spread the word... Divorce doesn’t have to be devastating http://knowingdivorce.com/   [End]
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hi , your husband is very low category person who really have no heart disgusting , you have to hire a good lawyer who can help you to get your rights and monthly allowances that keep you going , Spread the word... Divorce doesn’t have to be devastating http://knowingdivorce.com/   [End]
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Hello, i feel sad about your situation. I cant picture a man hurting her pregnant wife! You should seek for legal advice. Its for you and your kids future. there are lots of informative websites online like divorce information which can help you answer the questions for your situation, I will pray for you and your kids safety. god bless   [End]
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if you do a quick google of online divorce, yes it does exist. if you need information you can check on the link i provided. hope it works well for you. :)   [End]
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Hello, I think this is a very usual problems between couples, we can never tell how loyal our  partner is. No question that were having a high divorce rate here in our country. Well, it happened and there is nothing we can do about, if she does it ones, then i think its ok, but twice? it is unacceptable. You should think wisely now, its hard to pretend she loves you but in reality she doesnt. its better to to get divorce and talk about children, just be smart and think of yourself and your children   [End]
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