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20 Epic MARRIAGE ADVICES. A MUST to read !! :)..


A Divorced Man Wrote These 20 Epic MARRIAGE ADVICES He Wished He Could Have Had. A MUST Read (!!!)

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Obviously those ones can and Should be applied Not just by Men but women Also. :)..

Below are 20 Wise Marriage tips from a man that was recently divorced. You wouldnít normally think that a divorced man would give good advice on being a husband, but this man has been through enough hardship to know what is worth fighting for:

MARRIAGE ADVICE I WISH I WOULD HAVE HAD:

Obviously, Iím not a relationship expert. But thereís something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different: After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, hereís the advice I wish I would have hadÖ ~ Gerald Rogers
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1) NEVER STOP COURTING. NEVER STOP DATING..

NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your Love.
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2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART..

Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for Your Wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.
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3) FALL IN LOVE OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN..

You will constantly change. Youíre not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESNíT HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you donít take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to WIN her Love just as you did when you were courting her.
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4) ALWAYS SEE THE BEST IN HER..

Focus only ON What you Love(!).. What you focus on will Expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you canít help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the Luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.
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5) ITíS NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER..

Your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether itís what you wanted or not.
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6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY..

Take full accountability for your own emotions. Itís not your wifeís job to make you happy, and she CANíT make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.
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7) NEVER BLAME HER IF YOU GET ANGRY..

NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them: when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.
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8) ALLOW YOUR WOMAN TO JUST BE..

When sheís sad or upset, itís not your job to fix it, itís your job to HOLD HER and let her know itís ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that sheís important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you: DONíT RUN-AWAY WHEN SHEíS UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you arenít going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.
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9) BE SILLY..

Donít take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.
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10) FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY:.

Learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.
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11) BE PRESENT..

Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.
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12) BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY..

To carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.
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13) DONíT BE AN IDIOT..

Donít be an idiot and donít be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. Youíre not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.
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14) GIVE HER SPACE..

The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing:. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)
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15) BE VULNERABLE..

You donít have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.
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16) BE FULLY TRANSPARENT..

If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING: Especially those things you donít want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you donít know i she will like what she findsÖ Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK: If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.
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17) NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER..

The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.
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18) DONíT WORRY ABOUT MONEY..

Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.
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19) FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY..

Forgive immediately and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Donít let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.
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20) ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVEÖ

In the end, this is the Only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.
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... In the end MARRIAGE isnít about Happily ever after. Itís about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.

Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

Take CARE of Each other !! :)

~Nadia
 

 
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