Re: I love you, but am I in love with you any longer?????

I'm deeply sorry for you unfortunate experience, but before you read on, please understand, what I said might offend someone, although I don't mean to be offensive in any means.

I've seen all the replies and they've all trying to "bad mouthing" the husband, which I think is not really being helpful to her, although what they've mentioned could truly, but before it does you should never assume it did or else your situation will only get worst, therefore some suggestions from above about openly questioning daughter for abuse, etc, in my opinion would make the situation worst(again all I write meant no harm/offensive to anyone else)

What I think you should do(before you do anything going the "ending rout")is that you should tried every single method in order to save the relationship first, I always believed that any conflict cannot be the fault of a single person alone, what was the reason the guy became the way he is now? what switched the button, and why he is behaving the way he is now, try, maybe you have done a lot of research, but try to do it in another direction, I think one of the audio tape I came across might really help you, named: "Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love" and I totally agreed with above who said love and sex are 2 totally different thing. My point is, he had hit on your sister, and he apologized to her that he don't meant to do it, think about it in an optimistic way, he might have a biological/hormonal issue, some people are addicts because they cannot control themselves due to their own hormonal or biological response, he does it but he is very guilty afterward, I see it that he seriously needed some help. what I don't understand is that he seemingly understands he had a problem， you mentioned that he said he is worried that he might not be good enough for you, and he did valued this marriage, but he does not have the will to solve this problem.

Another side of it is that, the "button" that switched, while not very likely, it could also be a sickness that's biological in origin, I know that hyperthyroidism, could caused emotionally unstableness, as you mentioned, he became a completely different person, as he became easily irritated and even yell at his friends, and people who had or before they had cancer(I hope this is not the case)also had emotional shift, as it did to my father and grandmother, they both had became extremely illogical, and emotionally unstable before they were diagnosed with cancer, I've seen this first hand, and I'm sure there are other disease, that would've caused this, bottom line is, from your post he seems like he is helpless, and he needs help, but doesn't have the courage to face it. I seriously hope that is the case for him, try everything you can to give him a push, not in a harsh way, it never works for a manly man, try to use strong hint, try to display use what a women is best at that gets a man to do what he wants ;) something about women that man just naturally attracted to, you had to bring all that out, support him emotionally, he knew he had the problem, make sure he knew he had to fix it or else there's no future to the marriage, give him the courage that he can do it. And If all that fails, you should read this http://my.psychologytoday.com/blog/strategic-thinking/201206/why-quitters-win


Best.