Update

The spath has determined to proceed with the charges of domestic violence.  This could ruin the rest of my life as far as getting employed.  He's doing it because his mommy (THE target of his deviances) is urging him to do so.  Oh, well .... it is what it is and I'll just have to get through all of this, somehow.

I still don't have computer access, so I am only online so infrequently, but if anyone out there has read past posts (WAY past), and the most recent ones in an attempt to define their own situation of abuse, please take this to heart:  no matter how angry we get, we have to just walk away instead of taking the course of action that I did.  If it's too much to bear, leave or have THEM removed - do not make my mistake!

The horrific discoveries were bad enough.  Ending this seemingly idyllic relationship is worse.  Realizing that this person that I loved so dearly and trusted so completely is a 100% fraud was worse, still.  But, facing charges of Domestic Violence only compounds the situation by zillions, and the Law is static - it does not recognize depth of betrayal, abuse of joint finances, dishonesty, or shattered trust.  The Law only says that any attack is wrong, and I will have to stand accountable for that, in Court. 

I'll make it through this, whichever way it goes.  I thank CureZone Members for their support and encouragement.  And, I thank Great Creator that this discovery happened now, instead of later.

My very brightest blessings to all who are in despair and lost.