Yes, absolutely I am asking men to be responsible. All adults must be responsible and take responsibility for their own actions - and in this case the stakes are particularly high. I understand what you are saying about men thinking with their other parts and how it is harder for them because of that. But the bottom line is that we can only be 100% sure of our own selves and our own actions, and when we ask others to be responible for us, we are at their mercy. When others fail in this arena it is our own fault for giving away our power. This is Codependency 101.