Re: Get a grip on yourself 79513. (EDITED)

I don't think I'm being naive at all. The simple fact is nobody makes you drink or do drugs, nobody makes you have unprotected sex. Those are all choices and choices each party has to take responsibility for. End of story. Those are just cop-outs.

I do understand that there are women out there who target men and try to live off child support, welfare or what have you. The majority of women are not like that. Most women do not seek out men to trap them only for child support money. Let's not fool ourselves...no amount of child support can pay for a womens monthly expenses. She would have to have a lot children in order to bring in that kind of money and on top of monthly expenses she still has to take care of the children...school, clothes, food, medical care etc... You say how hard and unfair it is for the man, what about the woman? My parents got divorced when I was born and I am an identical twin. My mother had not one but two children to take care of by herself. I think my father paid her, maybe $200 a month for both of us. Do you think that even bought groceries? Eventually my father remarried a woman who had 2 children and he was so busy taking care of them that he couldn't afford to pay his child support. My mom thankfully remarried after several years and she had some help but even though she was married there were years where times were tight and my mom didn't know how she was going to pay everything and still buy us what we needed. She could have used help from my Dad. I love my Dad and didn't know this was going on as a child. We have a wonderful relationship but I know that he didn't do what he was supposed to do, his children should have come first. It's a mad cycle. The father of his step-children wouldn't pay his child support so my dad had to compensate and didn't have the money to pay his own child support. So if you think that the man who has to pay child support gets screwed and the woman gets off scott-free, that is very far off-base.

My original point in this post is not to say that women don't trap or scam men or to say that there are not women out there like that. My point is that all women who receive child support are not soccer-mommy whores and super sluts that spread their legs to pay the rent. Women do not deserve that comment. It is disrespectful and demeaning and just out right uncalled for. There are hard working women and single mom's out there who deserve that child support, who need that child support to support their children. When a man (or woman) doesn't take care of their child everyone suffers, especially the child. Tweet