My point is, no one should be dictated to by anyone, man or woman. But the remedy for that is not to turn the tables and become the dictator yourself. We are all supposed to be free creatures. As I read more of your posts, I see a man who got a raw deal. And, I am truly sorry for that - it is not right. But to take your situation and extrapolate it to all women being stupid and incompetant whores is pretty darn unfair. You can't possibly believe that all men are perfect and all women are scum!! I agree that if the man is more able to keep the kids, he should, And I agree it is unfair that the courts are behind the times in seeing that - but as was pointed out it is changing.