i divorced a jezebel 34 years ago. in that so-called relationship i paid maintenance
for two children that i thought were mine until they were old enough to fend for themselves. jezebel was not in the equation, period.
i then had to put up with not seeing those kids, plus at the end lose them completely through the poison from jezebel, plus being 'out of sight ,out of mind'.
to get through that mess i had to (in my mind) pull the shutters down on that part of my life, not easy, but the only way to not hurt the children.
jezebel and i were not compatible, end of story.
i learnt nothing from that experience and was fortunate to find another partner who was compatible.we have survived for 33 years and had two sons.
that's life i'm afraid. if i had taken the other road (the one you speak of) that would to me made jezebel more important than myself and my life, but i didn't. tomi.