Of course! I’d be happy to help you come up with a romantic and unforgettable date idea for you and your boyfriend. Here’s an idea for a private date night that you could consider: Plan a cozy indoor picnic: Set up a romantic picnic area in the comfort of your own home. Clear a space in your living room or bedroom and decorate it with fairy lights, candles, and soft blankets. Prepare a basket filled with your favorite foods and drinks, such as cheese, fruits, chocolates, and a bottle of wine or champagne. Play some romantic music in the background and spend the evening enjoying each other’ ...
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I can’t see your fault in anything that has happened, you can’t stay in abusive relationships anymore, you won’t be happy this way. Unfortunately, if he is not making any steps towards you, there is not much you can do. It takes two people to build a relationships, so I would recommend you to   [End]
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Hi Jess, I had a somewhat similar experience, basically, mine involved my aunt (who I was extremely close with) marrying my ex-bf and I was lied to for two years. It was beyond hurtful and it took me so many years just to revisit- that is how I found your post. If you want to talk, let me know! Best wishes, Jessica   [End]
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Hi There, Your not going crazy, I have the same problem. Just buried my late father. I have known for sometime something was going on. I did ask er some time back. She said i was being stupid. It’s a long story. The funeral came they were all over each other in front of my relatives and the cares that that looked after my father before he passed away. They cam e to me at the funeral and asked me what was going on. I no long have any more dealings with her. Put it this way, i find it said my mother has done this. One day she may realiaes this is wrong. And come and talk to ...
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The original post is over a decade old. If you are involved in a similar situation, I strongly, strongly recommend engaging in counseling therapy, and to visit the following blog sites for in-depth articles and discussion on betrayals and convoluted behaviors and thinking: www.180rule.com www.familyarrested.com This type of situation is not as uncommon as you might think, but it’s rarely ever discussed because it’s such a dreadful betrayal that the victims typically believe that nobody will support them, and that they somehow ”did something” to deserve such a betrayal. Best wish ...
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Hi dragonheart, I’m not sure how old this post is but I just came across it as I was searching for answers on how to deal with a similar situation that I am going through in my life at the moment. Your story sounds so similar to mine, but I was actually still with my fiancé when he and my mother started their affair. I also have a child with him. And the rest of my family act similar to how you explain your family. If you would be up for having a chat I would really appreciate that as I really have no idea of how to handle this situation and I have never come across anybody that has b ...
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You were broken up, plain and simple.   [End]
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you need to get some guy friends, put yourself in her shoes... would you like it if the tables were turned?? dude, you can never make a girl happy in the situation your in.   [End]
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Tell her simply what the rumour is and ask her if this is true.   [End]
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Bro, divorced women are looking for any quick lay after they get divorced. I mean come on she has been tied down to a guy that she obviously didnt love for years. divorced women are the easiest rebound there is. I wouldnt take it as serious as long term or marriage by any means. If you take a step back and look at the big picture for a minute, in any situation, you’ll most likely see a different view. I’m not trying to tell you what to do but simply trying to get you to look at all angle of the equation before you make a final answer. Best of luck and keep me updated.   [End]
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funny.. i sware someone posted this exact same thing about this time last year.. how odd... I bet it is in the archives, whatcha think?   [End]
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Amanda, I would simply tell him to grow up and stop acting like a 2-year-old. You should be with a man, not a little boy, and this behavior is childish. - dc   [End]
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well one thing that does confuse me is the fact she is still talking to me as if nothng has happened. i asked her if we are cool as in still ok, she says that she dont wanna think about that yet - she just wants to talk to me , but not talk about what happened, she shud be back just after the new years - i guess that wud be a good time to sit and talk about this can u recommend anythng for me to control my anger - i swear im not a women beater, i never have and never will, i dont get ticked off easily - but when i do it brings out the worst in me, its almost like by the time i angery an ...
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Seems she should know better to push peoples buttons like that ythere is a thing called passive aggression and people who have been abused somehow fall into that trap without really knowing what their doing or that their doin it! The bar seen can bring out the worst in everybody and and if you two want to continue your relationship you both need to address your individual issues your jealousy and pushin your buttons takes two ya know. You seem aware of your problem at least! Does she? Grog   [End]
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neither do i mate - but when we got back, i tried hard to apologise about my behaviour, instead she get on crying and acting like she was really scared of me - she has had problems of abuse when she was younger, i got more wound up and said things that i shud not have, how do u take back what u said - how do u put things right, sometimes i think she i better off without me, but i dont think im better off with out - ill let her leave if thats what makes her happy - we are talking and she’s at her parents for xmas, but i dont know what will happen in the next few weeks all she had to do w ...
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interesting...i too was gonna post about heavy metal detox, since i’ve done all the cleanses yet something is still off. i am currently trying heavey metal cleanse by renew life. it’s 2 step program; in the morining one dose and the other in the evening...so the cleanse is not that complicated. i however can’t stomach the morning dose (vitamins) like they suggest on an empty stomach. it makes we want to vomit right away. so i take it with food. so far...just a lot of breaking out and loss of energy. maybe it’s working, but i really won’t know thill the second week.   [End]
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ya maybe you should’nt have lost it , but I do not under stand your mates response at all ! Ya know in a bar talkin intently to some strange guy and she could’nt take the time to either take you aside and explain that she was in council on a mission to save her g.f. from some guy that she could’nt handle but your mate could! Why did’nt she ask for your help Or something besides just telling you to get away. I don’t get it! Grog   [End]
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for me personally sleeping with someone is not to be taken lightly - if u are with someone and u say u love em, then it must come from the heart - it has to have meaning and not just say it to get laid. further-more if u are with someone and u say u love him and then sleep with someone totally diff then that person u with dont deserve that and they are better off with out u. u say u had been broken off with each other for 2 months when u slept with ur ex, well that sounds familiar cos my gf did the same thing, but i understand cos we were off, then out of the blue one day she calls m ...
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Hi I’ve just been browsing the internet trying to find some stuff to read about after my girlfriend left me on Tuesday...I was a single dad for a year before we got together and she made my life complete and I loved her more than anything else in the world (i still do), along with my daughter. Only 4 months ago we bought a house together and moved in. Now she is gone and I’m left with a hefty mortgage to pay and the weight of looking after my daughter on my own again. I just wanted to post this message because everything i’ve been reading in this thread I can relate to. About a mont ...
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I don’t subscribe to the ”we’re best friends” theory of matchmaking, but beyond that...you’re question is so right on the money with what I used to do. My honey hated the fact that I would openly, without any hesitation blurt out ”look at those tits!” whenever I saw a nice rack. For some reason, in person or watching a movie or TV, if I noticed a pair of pert jugs I would have to comment on them. She got pissed. She was so hurt by something that I was too stupid at the time to realize that I made a ”cold turkey” change of that behavior. Women don’t like their guys salivating over othe ...
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I never was the jealous kind of guy, for whatever reason. My thinking is that if she ends up with someone else...good riddins! And this mindset paid big dividends in my dating scene and acted like a magnet or something. The more I didn’t care, they more they did care. Funny how that works. I didn’t care to dance, she wanted to so I told her to go out and dance it up. Sincerity and trust between us is what we have. She hasn’t screwed up and neither have I. That’s why it works for us. In my mind, some other guy was doing the job for me that I wanted no part of. She got to dance, I ...
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OK I’ve got the same problem with my husband after he read my diary. He found out that I was sleeping with another guy during our break up of several months (while we were dating 10 yrs ago). He knew about the other guy cause I told him but I lied that I didn’t sleep with him. Now, that we are married, he became so abusive (over a year) and we are only 3 yrs in a marriage. I can’t understand his behaviour anymore. He’s calling me a lyar and does not thrust me a thing, he’s checking the milage on the car, recording the phone conversation etc (I was always honest with him, that incident was ...
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Thank you all of you for such a wide and secure information source. No wonder how CureZone.com has become this popular... Concerning heavy metals, like lead and mercury, we did since january try out the new detoxifying methods, and have seen the most wonderful results with using the Japanese original detox-pads, together with chlorophyllum, rooibos tea (evt charcoal/lipoic acid (thioctic acid while preparing for a dental clean-up in the same time).... The same company offers a herbal remedy that improves brain health... this product got several awards and showed the most tremen ...
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YES! Cilantro, taken on a daily basis, for a couple months, is an excellent way to get rid of heavy metals out of your body... check the internet for other types of herbs and vitamins to take too...   [End]
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i can understand exactly how you feel you want to talk to them all the time and make them understand how much they mean to you. i am going through a similar situation but he finished with me he says how much he loves me but doesnt know how to talk about all the things we need to discuss.i have talked to him every day since we broke up but know that it wont help unless i give him time and the space he needs to heal.   [End]
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HI, I am very sorry about your situation. However, you need to be aware that the decisions that you make may have consequences. It seems like you acted a little fast and now you are back peddling. I would suggest that you write her a letter and let her know exactly what you were feeling and how you are feeling now. I suspect that she is not responding to your calls as she has not heard what she needs to hear. Are you telling her that you will work on the relationship? Which may entail going to a couples counselor and working on issues. If you really love her as much as it sounds lik ...
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HI, I am very sorry about your situation. However, you need to be aware that the decisions that you make may have consequences. It seems like you acted a little fast and now you are back peddling. I would suggest that you write her a letter and let her know exactly what you were feeling and how you are feeling now. I suspect that she is not responding to your calls as she has not heard what she needs to hear. Are you telling her that you will work on the relationship? Which may entail going to a couples counselor and working on issues. If you really love her as much as it sounds lik ...
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Thanks. I saw my doctor last week. I’d gained another 15 pounds and he told me that I was obese (ouch!) although I seem to be in good health apart from that. I tried dieting but it didn’t last and then I end up eating like crazy. [Image Embedded Here]   [End]
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Well this is kind of an update to my last post. Its now been a month and a half since she broke up with me. Ive been trying to move on with my life and havent tried to make any contact with her except I had a little too much to drink one night and tried to drop off a card and letter I had written. It wwas pretty late at night (around 3 or 4 am) and as I was walking up to door to put the note there a friend of her Dads saw me. I know he knew who I was so I turned around and got in my car and went home. I never did put the card or note on her door. I thought about it on the way home and deci ...
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If this woman is attracted to you despite the great age difference, you have to be suspicious on her motives. Perhaps she is trying to be seen as more mature by being with you. Or she wants to play housewife with you since you already have the things like a house and steady income that the friends her age don’t. Things may be great for awhile but what happens when she wants to hang out friends her age and they hit you up to buy them beer? Are you ready to go to booty clubs with her? She may grow out of this phase and want someone her own age and then you might have a messy divorce ...
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I am going through the same situation that you are. For the last 2 months she has been hanging out with these other guys from work and coming home at 4 to 5 in the morning with flakey excuses why she was out so late or didn’t call. She lived with me so she could have at least been considerate. One of her excuses that she didn’t invite me was that she wanted to smoke pot and she knew that I wasn’t really into that. I still trusted her until I saw they way she looked at them when they were talking. I too tried to initiate sex more because I noticed that she wasn’t interested anymo ...
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A mate of mine whose been my best mate for 6 years has told me, that someone told him who knows me and my girlfriend, that she has been seen kissing other blokes in a nightclub. My best mate doesnt trust her and when he told me this i just wanted to breakdown and cry. Should i confront her or leave it?   [End]
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Oh gosh, I feel your pain... I hate to sound like a jerk but it’s nice to know I’m not alone. I also am madly in love with someone I can’t have for reasons I also choose not to go into (she also feels strongly for me, but cannot act on her feelings or it would turn her life upside down). I, like you, have also had to sever contact with this person and it can really crush the spirit... especially when I begin to compare every new love interest with this one person whom I cannot ever be with. I wish you luck... knowing a love can never be really sucks!   [End]
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People can have a go at me all they want but i was in a situation where i was in love with a girl and it was wrong for me to be in love with her for reasons i wont go into. The way i solved the problem was by severing contact with her, experiencing many sleepless nights, ingnoring her when i had to see her, and eventually over the years the pain gets less but it doesnt go away. Some times i still think about her but i know it could not and can not ever be. My head is stronger than my heart and though it hurts its just something i have to live with. If you can live with the pain of letting ...
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Tom, Hello! Gosh, maybe things happen when the student is ready to jump in and get wet. Your feedback reminded me that ”silly” (meaning fool) and ”holy/hale” came from the same older English. Hm... Thank you for the appreciation, especially! Take care, Autumn   [End]
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LMAO! That was so funny! Hey i bet it worked!!!   [End]
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Okay, check it out. He broke up with you? A month after he breaks up with you, you sleep with someone else. Were you still talking to him? Trying to get him to come back? or was there no contact during this time? If you were begging him to come back, and then slept with someone else... the person you should be concerned with is not your ex, but yourself. You don’t know what you want. Or even worse, you only want what you can’t have...   [End]
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i found this through dogpile.com i think you should dump her once a cheater always a cheater   [End]
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i found this through dogpile.com i think you should dump her once a cheater always a cheater   [End]
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Uh.. in my opnion.. you shouldn’t have cheated on your first gf at all... no matter how bad you two fought, that’s just not right.   [End]
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Heh, you remind me of myself when things went sour with Jack. I was paranoid clear up until the very end, mainly because like your gf, he was acting very strange. There’s no real way to tell whether or not she’s losing interest, maybe seeing someone else, or she may just be stressed out over you not trusting her. There could be LOTS of reasons why people distance themselves. Some people get distant when their hearts are broken. I don’t know. In my opnion, if you two break up, you’re going to end up trusting her a lot more than you did when you two were dating. As far as being suspicious ...
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I just got my hair test kit...I am going to do my daughjter first...She is much severe symptoms of mercury poisoning than me....I hope we caln lick this thing... : )   [End]
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It seems like he may just respect your freedom, and hey what are you doing in clubs with g/fs when you could be spending that quality time you talk about with him?? Looks like maybe you feel its not right to dress up like that without him there? Why not? You must do what feels good for you and if you feel good clubbing on the dance floor, theres nothing wrong with that! So what if your b/f doesnt have a problem with that, you should be glad that you can be whoever you are, thats called freedom, one day you may change and you would want him to accept that too, wouldnt you? And what does ...
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ok, but he has now broken up again and still comes round as a ’friend’ and asks me if i phoned this guy yet or felt a need to sleep with him. He is so cold to me, this didnt happen straight after i told him, this is about a month later. I am so confused by this guys actions. He comes over as soon as i make any contact with him, or he finds an excuse to come over, yet he dont want to touch me, at all. What is he thinking? I cant seem to be able to communicate with him now he has gone all cryptic and secretive. Please guys, is this cave man behavoiur? What do you guys think of when a w ...
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i see what you are saying, but this is different in that he doeesnt go with me. i go with my girlfriends and he doesnt go. crazy and different right! i wouldnt want to go to a club with my man, not some place i would wanna go spend quality time with him at   [End]
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I, myself, rarely bring my girl to clubs, but, as a friend of guys who are like your b/f, it’s not a question of jealousy at all and it has nothing to do with it. It’s sad but most guys I know do what your guy is doing for the reason that having a sexy girl half-naked on the floor with you is kind of an ego-booster, a trophy you could say. It’s like saying look at me, I’m with ”something” you want, yuou envy me, etc. It’s basically an ego thing. Well, that’s my take on it as well as several other people I know.   [End]
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My two cents worth. If I cannot play first chair violin, I do not want to be a member of the orchestra. I have said these words to a man before. (I also have said shit or get off the pot) Blueduck   [End]
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I’m not sure if he’s aware of the fact that he could get married or not. Personally, I have some health issues... so I wouldn’t be able to go with him if that were the case. I dunno. According to him, he never stopped being IN love with me. That’s another reason why I’m so confused. I have issues. For me, moving on would be devastation and failure in my future relationships, ’cause I already commited myself to him. :(   [End]
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I FIND IT HARD TO TALK TO A COUNSELOR IVE TRIED THAT BEFORE IM SCARED,IF I LEAVE WORK HE SAYS HE WILL TRACK ME DOWN,HE HAS ACESS TO MY HOME ADRESS PHONE NUMBERS ETC, iVE COME TO REALISE THAT WHEN IVE WITH HIM ALTHOUGH HE BRINGS ME HAPINESS TAKING ME AWAY FROM THE FEAR OF MY FATHER WHO HAS BEEN AGRESIVE ANDF VIOLENT TOWARDS ME IN THE PAST,I GUESS IM A\T A VUNERABLE POINT, i FIND MYSELF TO BLEME FOR THIS WHOLE MESS WITH MY MANGER ITS GETTING OUT OF HAND,YES I DO THINK HE IS A VERY GOOD TALKETR,EVERY TIME IIM AWAY FROM HIM I THINK TO MYSELF IM GOING TO WALK AWAYSFROM HIM I END UP COMING ...
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If he loved you in all truth he would take you with him. Marines are allowed to Marry and live in Base Housing with their wives and have little babies. Life is very much normal. Marines do get called away but it is usually for 6 months or a couple weeks here and there. I liken it to a much needed marital vacation. (lol) Alot of Marines are still able to sustain their quality of family life. I agree with rudenski...your boyfriend is using you as insurance. He loves you and the idea of you, but he most likely isnt IN love with you. You need to cut that soul tie and move on to a Higher more ...
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That’s how I felt with my ex. All the b/f’s I had before him didn’t want guys to look at what was theirs - but not Jack. Nope. He trusted me and didn’t get jealous. It pissed me off!!! It felt like he wouldn’t care if he lost me. Girl, guys like these are enigmas. We’ll never know why they do these things, unless they were taught to share through-out their life.   [End]
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The guy I am dating tells me that its ok if i go out and dress sexy for other guys at the clubs as long as i dont touch anyone. he is totally ok with me going out with the girls and dressing half naked. he says hes not a jealous guy and he trusts me. for some reason i think most girls would love this, but i want him to not be this way, lol, i want him to be like hey i dont want other guys seeing what ive got. but what do you guys think???   [End]
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I am sorry i think i can understand cause i am a quite jealous and paranoid person as well. but the thing is, your gut isnt just acting up for no reason. arent there times when you dont have any gut feelings? and now you have some? it means something! i just think you should make this a conversation with her and ask her to not cry this time, this is a serious thing you need to talk about. let her know everything you feel and think. make decisions according to what she says.   [End]
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Hello, thanks for the response. My gut could be right on this, but it could be wrong. Like I said, I’m a paranoid person and jeoulous guy too, so I think the objectivity of my feeleings could be biased. She’s the sweetest girl that I know. I’ve known her for over a year before going out with her and we were rather good friends. The thing is this feeling comes up often and when I talk to her she cries and says I don’t trust her and so on, I feel extremely like crap and awful but at the same time justified. Ah hell...   [End]
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I wanted to add that i HAVE had experience witha guy who lied to me left and right. its funny how you want to believe them but some of their lies are just so down right lame (ie. your girl and how her phone is busy somehow, and the walk in the woods” that you know in your gut they are bs. they are hard to believe when you are told the actual truth.   [End]
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Something that always works is to listen to your gut. I think that she might just be cheating on you if she is changing her ways and not doing it for your extra attention. Does she mention how she is going to look hot for you? or any comments like that? honestly, listen to your gut. I dont think i have ever been cheated on nor have i cheated so i cant give any expert advice here. but i think your relationship is on the rocks. you can sit down and talk with her about EVERYTHIGN and try to start anew or just cut it now. good luck!   [End]
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But you didnt cheat on him, right? if you are broken up that isnt cheating. i dont get what he is doing. maybe hes just sad you slept with someone else when you werent together?   [End]
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Sorry if this is fairly long, I’m just hopeless Hello everyone. I’m looking for some guidance. I’ve been with a girl for over 7 months. We have been problems for some time now Actually it’s been nearly 1 month. I was stopping smoking and starting a new job and I was quite heavilly stressed. I came out as being agressive and even mean sometimes. Well, that was a hard time but we worked hard at getting over it. she says, it was especially hard for her and everytime a little thing happened she’d get upset more easily because of accumulation of bad discussions or arguing, etc. The prob ...
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Sorry if this is fairly long, I’m just hopeless Hello everyone. I’m looking for some guidance. I’ve been with a girl for over 7 months. We have been problems for some time now Actually it’s been nearly 1 month. I was stopping smoking and starting a new job and I was quite heavilly stressed. I came out as being agressive and even mean sometimes. Well, that was a hard time but we worked hard at getting over it. she says, it was especially hard for her and everytime a little thing happened she’d get upset more easily because of accumulation of bad discussions or arguing, etc. The prob ...
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I just realised tonight, the guy that i am supposed to be in love with? He is mad about me sleeping with someone else when we broke up and doesnt know if he can trust me. Please, if there are any men out there, tell me, when you break up with a woman, do you still expect her to be faithfull to you for a while at least.It was two months after we split that i slept with an ex boyfriend, who really cares for me and I got sucked in. I dont care the same for this man and have made no contact with him again, and just want my man back. I think, if i did not sleep with this guy, my man would not ...
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Thank you, you have a way with words. I could see that when I read about your NDE. Jack (my ex) told me the only reason why he’s not trying to get us back together right now is because his life is mixed up, and he’s leaving soon. I agree with you, and plan to move on.. but I know myself, and I know I’m going to end up waiting for him deep inside. I don’t want to end up waiting forever. He’s going to meet a lot of people when he travels the world for 4 years, and we plan on writing to each other. I also wanted to tell you that your NDE had a very significant impact on me. Before I read ...
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I personally wouldnt put up with this BS. i think hes messing around with you playing with your head. move on, you dont need this loser   [End]
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Amanda, My take is, your guy is very insecure. If he can’t get constant feedback (via your jealousy) proving your affection for him, he withdraws and sulks. It is not likely that anything you say or do is going to give him the self-esteem he obviously lacks; this has to come from within. Can you stop reacting with jealousy and hurt when he teases you in this way? That would deprive him of the feedback he’s craving, and possibly minimize his hurtful comments. In my experience, it is a mistake to continue in a relationship with the hopes that your partner will change. People us ...
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It is a form of control. Everyone wants to be loved. I would be concerned about his motives for maintaining his very distant relationship with you. I believe he really does love you. But, he moved on. You keep it going and...and he is not going to deny himself love. But you are...Open yourself to love again...consider how you were two souls who came together to help each other out and still love him....but move on. An African once told me that he viewd lovers who seperate as being two rivers flowing together and becoming one river... only to seperate ...they merge to form one river...when ...
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hi, Let me tell you about some reliable advice I received about the female mind about breakups, from a female friend of mine: After a woman breaks up with a man and places him in the ”FRIENDS” category, the man WILL NEVER LEAVE THAT CATEGORY. If you want my own view man, here it is: She moved on. I’m sorry to tell you that, but she LEFT YOU. Even if you can’t accept that, you must understand that she will NOT come back to you. Let me repeat that: she will NOT come back to you. Take an honest look at how she has changed now though. Do you find a woman who is now into drugs ...
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Amanda, First of all, I sincerely think you have MANY positive attributes in you relationship. You both seem to communicate well, stay open-minded to each other, and foster a healthy honesty together. I strongly feel these are great ingredients for a healthy relationship. I just have one or two thoughts to offer you. How well do you think he reacts to your noticing of other guys you claim as ”hot?” Perhaps, now just perhaps, he honestly, somewhere deep down inside, despises the way you notice other men? IF this is so, then this could explain why he goes kinda far in noticing oth ...
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Hello, (I’m responding sincerely to offer some help) You must figure out for yourself about how truly devoted to your woman you are. It seems quite obvious as to why she gets upset by your friendships. I’m sure you understand her perspective. If you truly are devoted to your woman, perhaps, now just perhaps, spending less time with those OTHER women might not be a bad idea. Now if you deep down inside, truly are devoted to her, DON’T TEMPT FATE. Don’t be alone with ANY of those women. Don’t set yourself up into a dangerous situation man. Don’t ever be alone with one of those ...
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Hello, (kind of a long response) I am a man in my mid-twenties and I’d like to give you my male perspective. If you are meeting guys who are in their early to mid-twenties, I must admit to you that it’s very possible that many of them are not the committing type. I’m not saying that ALL men at this age are like that, just it’s wise to believe that many of them at this age are somewhat ”young and reckless.” It IS safe and wise to keep in mind that you may encounter many men like that--young and reckless. Also, like the previous responses to your posting have stated, the environmen ...
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he loves you but he is playing you as an insurance policy.... in case someone else doesn’t take your place?   [End]
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I’m almost 100% sure he doesn’t have another lover, mainly because when we talk, he tells me he avoids women altogether...and that none of his relationships ever work out because he ends up coming back to me. You really think he still loves me? That makes me feel better.. cause everyone else I talk to thinks he’s full of it... I guess what i really want to know is.. does he still love me? Of course, you don’t know that, but 4 years is a long time to wait for someone.. and if I somehow find out he does still care, I’ll wait those 4 years, and I’ll do my best to get him on the right t ...
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If you maintain maturity, honesty, and VERY good communication skills, it is very easy to fall in love without having met. I met my lover on the Internet and when we met in person, all of the feelings we had for each other just blew up, and it was probably the best day of my life. Except now, because we’ve broken up after a year, and I can’t stop loving the asshole, and he keeps playing games with me. First he loves me, then he doesn’t etc etc... I just got done ranting about it in a post, lol.   [End]
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If you maintain maturity, honesty, and VERY good communication skills, it is very easy to fall in love without having met. I met my lover on the Internet and when we met in person, all of the feelings we had for each other just blew up, and it was probably the best day of my life. Except now, because we’ve broken up after a year, and I can’t stop loving the asshole, and he keeps playing games with me. First he loves me, then he doesn’t etc etc... I just got done ranting about it in a post, lol.   [End]
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Greetings. I met my lover on the Internet as well. Although he drove 300 miles to see me many times (and I did the same for him) the trust issue is the hardest part of a long distance relationship. I say, you’re very fortunate that she is being honest with you about her relations. It appears to me that she’s insecure... and seems to ”need” a guy to be with her. She seems to need constant affection... if you need to prove to her that you trust her, show her that you trust her, if she does something to betray your trust while you trust her, then it probably wouldn’t be a good idea to take ...
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Let’s just call him ”J”. He’s playing games with my heart and it’s ripping me into many pieces. We fell in love in December 2001, and it was *the* perfect relationship. Once, he even traveled 300 miles just to see me for an hour. This was probably one of the most mature relationships I’ve ever witnessed/expereicned. Then, he suddenly left me last August. Now my   [End]
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Hi! What a tangled web we weave... From the sound of your post, you both have a pretty strong relationship, far better than most I’ve seen. So don’t take my philosophizing here to mean that I think your relationship is doomed. What I’m going to say is meant to explore some concepts, not label you. Most of it doesn’t apply to you at all but is useful for exploration, so please keep that in mind. It’s easier to think about pure white light if you break it into its spectrum and see all the colors distinctly. It’s also easy to see how pure the white light really is this way. The ...
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I think it’s very sad that nowdays it is so important to have to prove that one is open minded and that all can be tolerated. If there’s any show of weakness or intolerance in any area then the person is automatically closed minded and insecure. In my ’humble’ opinion, this is a bunch of crock. In a relationship, trust and fidelity are essential, and this faithfulness is not limited to the material/physical alone. We have minds and spirits. When you begin paying with things like making mention of the attributes of someone outside the relationship you are crossing boundaries that s ...
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I am totally in love and happy - so i am not in need right now, but I read it and I hope I can keep your words fresh infront of my mind always. very nice! Love & thanks!!   [End]
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I think you want her so much more because how bad she is treating you. its a natural human response. i would suggest you break it off and find someone you can actually see on a regular basis-atleast 2 times a month minumum. good luck. youve got to see you are digging yourself into a hole here, please realize that. joanne   [End]
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I have told him how i feel. I said if you are going to act different around your friends, then i dont want to talk to you when you are around them. is this wrong? but i mean its rude of him to treat me different when they are around. its BS! also i know he could never say ”i love you” in front of his friends to me either, if that day should come. ugh! ive never had this before, all the guys i have dated didnt really care what their friends thought. thanks for the advice joanne   [End]
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Hey girl, Well i am dating a guy that comments on other women, but i just put a stop to it. i wont put up with it, its rude and disrespectful. i think this seems to be a big issue in yalls relationship. how does stopping his comments on other women get rid of his lifelikeness? i mean, its very simple. when yall are out, talk about other stuff, dont mention others of the opposite sex, its not that funny and its rather hurtful if you really look at it. why dont yall just focus on complimenting one another? joanne   [End]
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you want the truth I will give you the truth!!! I have been a Model for years and NEVER found happiness,, It does’nt matter who you are partnered with,unless you adhere to nature, happyness is not yours to have or keep No one of western civilization knows what genuine ”Love vibrations” mean from a body with clean blood composed of such ingredients that produce electric currents and static electricity sent out by a pure body. Clean your inside body and that of your sigificant other and Happyness is surely yours. Every person has the absolute nessesity to do what is freely givin to them . # ...
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I’m not really sure how to explain this, or even where to start. I want to try to present an unbiased view of the situation, but obviously, that’s nearly impossible. Anyway, here goes. My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years. We’re best friends, and honestly, our relationship is wonderful. It’s just so much fun , based on a foundation of mutual love and respect. It’s the kind of thing that gives you that warm, fuzzy feeling at the same time it makes your head spin and your heart race. We’re very open with each other. Neither of us have a problem with tell ...
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if he acts immature then he is... but some people just arent into stuff liek that...dont force him to change just let him knwo how u feel about it directly and bluntly so every thign is clear.. some times it takes time to get to that level   [End]
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well u can always give it ONE last chance...if if u dotn see improvement...then u knwo it isnt gonna happen the 3rd forth fith or sixth time arround. tears and words dont always mean she loves you or even cares... its the actions that prove all wordes to be true and false...so if u want give it a shot..and if your fed up as is then say good bye   [End]
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Nothing immature about that. People are different and have different ways of expressing their feelings.   [End]
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i am not sure exactly. I love her, she makes me feel like no other, just by talking to her, which is all I have really done. this isnt like something i can choose, i know that if we are not together, i will be totally devastated, and may never really recover. This is such a hard thing to explain, as it does sound ludicrous. She is so much a part of me it is actually scary :P i need her, but im not sure if i can last thru it all, emotionally and physically.. thanks for the responses guys. keep em coming. i need advice!   [End]
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she will cheat on you again, i would just drop it all. how can you love someone you havent met? does it work? let me know jalex   [End]
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I think you and her could come to an agreement to drop everything that has happened in the past and just start clean. If you guys really want it to work, then it can if you make it work. I think she could use a cleaning up of her messy ways though! jalex   [End]
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Hello all, I am new here. anyways, I am 21 and the guy I am dating is 26. we have just been dating about a month. Well the problem i am having is that he wont and cant say ”i miss you” or call me ”babe” as he usually does when he is in front of his friends, whether its in person with me and his friends there or whether its on the phone with me and his friends are in the room. I dont want to come off as a nag or bitch but i think this is stupid and immature of him. so junior-highish. he wont do these things because he doesnt want to get made fun of. any ideas would help on how to stop this ...
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Well, she says that she loves me now and that everything is different. she says she hasnt been with anyone else, and she cries a lot too. i just dont know what to think..   [End]
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its VERY hard to get trust back once it has been destroyed and to me it dont look liek she loves you...or consideres how her actions would effect your heart befor she does things...simply inconsiderate...so why be with some one that treats you like that. i know how hard it is to walk away but it works out better when you do   [End]
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It is heart breaking to see so many people in this forum having problems with their relationships. To have a wonderful and very meningful relationship with someone is hard, because both have to keep eachother happy and always give 100% to their 50% of the relationship. I found this out after it was to late in my marriage of 26 years and because I realized too late that my marriege was falling apart, it did - we divorced 3 years ago. During the marriage we became (without realizing) too complacent with eachother, too comfortable, too used to and maybe even tired of eachother and eventually ...
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Can I get the same results from eating raw cilantro? : )   [End]
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Aloha. I met a girl online who I knew immediately I felt something for. She was in Tennessee but has since moved back to hawaii (where she was born). We met in Jan, have been ”dating” since february. I had told her I loved her and that I would always stay with her, which was totally true. She said the same things to me back. Anyway, during her spring break, she chatted with a guy on the net and ended up meeting him with friends for dinner and a movie. SHe had told him everything about us and that they were only going to meet as friends. During the movie, which just happened to be sca ...
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tks paL for yr kind reply...Actually after some thoughts 2day. If I choose to carry on the relationship with the matured woman.... other issues like my family will start to kick in....I think at this moment the onli solution rite now is to have a solemn talk with my gerfrd and see wat’s next....tks~ ya   [End]
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Here’s info from LEF site. Cilantro is an herbal extract from the plant Coriandrum sativum. Used for its detoxifying properties, cilantro facilitates the ability to remove mercury and other heavy metals. The herb facilitates the ability to remove heavy metal from the body using other dietary supplements such as chlorella and other chlorophyll containing herbs such as nettles and alfalfa. Essentially, these herbs aid in detoxifying by denaturing the toxins, protecting and restoring normal cellular functions while promoting elimination. Best wishes, Tom   [End]
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well if you are in a commitment you need to amintain soem distancne from your other female friends. Might sound harsh but thats the reality of it all.   [End]
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well if you are in a commitment you need to amintain soem distancne from your other female friends. Might sound harsh but thats the reality of it all.   [End]
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Don’t get into a relationshop with this friend just because she is the only one around- seems like a thing on the rebound. Give yourself some space. get way from both and think rationally. Focus on other priorities like work till you feel more composed and can think clearly   [End]
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Its simple- tell him how you feel. Stop feeling insecure- if he loves you enough, he will come back.   [End]
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Does she love you? Does she want you? if no, move on with your life. commitment and love are two way streets- walking alone ends up being too lonely a walk and not worth it.   [End]
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30 is pretty late in life to be so confused about something like this. Stay in a commitment or stay out of it. Don’t mess around. People just seem time fillers to you. See where your heart is and quit all other temptations. There are words like faithful, loyal which should be more a part of our lives than ”confusion,” ”flings” etc etc. If you love your girlfriend, be true to her. If you don’t- don’t mess her life.   [End]
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Hi to all brudders here. Have encountered with relationship problems lately & hope any seasoned brudders like bro jack2003, blurcock, KID278 or vice city can offer mi any solutions. I have neglected my gerfrd of 5 mths after some quarrels & disagreement. Secondly I have involved in a sexual-relationship with a ger frequently with no string attached.(meet up abt twice a week if not less due to work) Lastly have known a late 30s divorced woman recently & and both of us have special feelings towards each other. I knew this is quite impossible for both of us to be 2gether not due to mi, but my ...
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Those are great sites... ty vewwwy much.... rudy   [End]
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Rudy, Here are a few more links with additional info and products for self-chelation...including clay for the baths, a cilantro recipe and a complete mercury detox protocol: http://www.magneticclay.com/index.shtml http://www.kitchendoctor.com/articles/cilantro.html http://home.earthlink.net/~jedcline/cilantro.html http://www.mercola.com/article/mercury/ This last link is especially useful...Dr. Mercola is a highly respected doctor who is having great success with patients...I would surely trust his advice. Please keep in mind that I have not attempted this protoc ...
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Thank you PTree, I am contracting with myself to investigate everything I can about mercury poisoning...I want to test my hair first. When I get the results back, I am going to begin the process of clensing my body. If the results come up negative..I will still purse a blood test...Either way...my 13 year o;d daughter is also Autistic Aspergers... You mentioned cilanto ? Can you get more info on the mud s...a web site...ty rudy   [End]
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Found it! http://www.eytonsearth.org/mercurytoxicity.html   [End]
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Thanks, Tom. I know all about choices, trust me. I thought this would be an emotionally ”safe” situation for me based on what my lady friend told me before moving out here. She knows it wears on me sometimes, so she’s sympathetic and tries to accomodate me the best she can, but this is something that’s out of her hands. After all, it isn’t her child, it’s her child’s child, and I do understand on a couple different levels, but I just sometimes feel like I’m being pushed by her. She wants her family to be the way she wants it. Even though I’m sure she knows I make her mother happy, ...
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Hi Rudy! Yes, you can get rid of heavy metals! There is a Chelation Forum on this site that has information about removing heavy metals from your body...also lots of info on the Autism Forum and the Vaccination Forum. These forums don’t pop up regularly when you log on...unless they’ve been posted on in the past 24 hours...so you have to click on ALL FORUMS from the main menu and then scroll down to find them. There are several natural protocols that you can do yourself...using clay baths, chlorella, cilantro and also oral or suppository EDTA chelation. There are also doctors who ...
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Lapis..ty....i guess iwas a leetle anxious there : P   [End]
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Absoulutely! I may not know the answer to the rest of your question, but I can certainly tell you about intravenous chelation therapy. There is a forum around here somewhere, but there are also lots of websites that describe this wonderful treatment. I.V. chelation, as opposed to oral chelation which IMHO is not nearly as effective, is primarily used to remove heavy metals from the body. It also dissolves plaque build-up in the arteries and has saved many folks (peeps :-} ) from having to go under the knife for bypass surgery. This I can testify from having personally met many s ...
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Yes..email me. I have left my addy in the political forum. There are several ways.   [End]
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I have been asking in diferent forums but I can’t get a response. I have aspergers(autism) symptoms and I realize how profound this condition is on interpersonal relationships. I wonder if getting rid of heavy metals including mercury might make me more capable of identifying body language or other interpersonal signals? This might be kind of like a breaktrough for men especially and females who ”can’t relate” on the femenine emotional level? *I think this is important* Does anyone know how to get rid of heavy metals out of the body?   [End]
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Claudia, A lasting relationship has to be anchored on solid ground. Nothing about this whole affair has ever been solid and please don’t lie to yourself. The man has been giving you mixed signals because he wants the freedom to do as he pleases with the comfort of someone always there for him, but with no commitment on his part. This is not love, not even close. It is selfish and self serving. Please allow me to quote something from the bible only for purposes of illustration: ” A double minded man is unsteady in ALL his ways”. Be strong and take some time out for yourself. ...
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Dear Pinky, Your message makes me very sad. I agree totally with the two responses before. You are young and looking for love in the wrong place. Every man who is trying to get a girl sweet talks her until she gives in. DOn’t you yhink he did that to his girlfriend? Perhaps she knows that this is not the first time and she’s afraid to comfront him because she feels trapped. I agree that you need to get another job and away from this man. Everything he tells you is complete hogwash, trust us on this! So you need to get away before you cause yourself and this other girl anymore pa ...
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Men are bastards and women are helpless victims... that kind of thinking leads to solutions, doesn’t it? :0 ”If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” -Mother Theresa ”We all suffer from the preoccupation that there exists ... in the loved one, perfection.” -Sidney Poitier ”Love can sometimes be magic. But magic can sometimes...just be an illusion.” -Javan Best to all, Tom   [End]
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How many woman do you know who doesn’t care what their man is doing? What he is able to do today to his girlfriend and to his kids, he will do the same tomorrow to you (and to your kids). Avoid that man! HE IS BAD! Just forget him, you deserv better person. Would you like to be in relationship with a man that is behind your back kissing other girls? That is eactly what he is doing behind his girlfriend’s back! Never, NEVER make kids with such a man! It is easy to leave a lover ... but it is not easy to leave a father of your kids!   [End]
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Hi TinKnight, Thank-you for opening up and sharing your thoughts and feelings. There’s nothing I can add to what you have already expressed so well. It’s true , ”We must remember not to forget what’s important”. Best wishes, Tom   [End]
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Hi Likkle Miss Upset, Freedom from all the things women do that drive us crazy. ;) It’s a very individual kind of thing. If you want the specifics, here’s my suggestion. Ask the man (or men) in your life... afterall who would know better? Ask ”What specifically do I do that drives you crazy?” Listen closely to the answer... don’t get mad or hysterical at what you hear. Then ask ”What can WE do so this is not an issue that creates problems in our relationship?” Now before you call me sexist... it works just as well to substitute ’men’ in all the places I said ’women’. Best wi ...
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AAAAARRRRRGGGG! Sorry had to let that out after reading your message. ;) Men are accused of not understanding women... well, is it possible the reverse is true also? Seems so to me. It can be very hard to get a man to talk about his feelings...absolutely right. Men are secretive and protective of their feelinss. Can I tell you why? Conditioning while growing up, expectations, violation of trust... all these and probably more. Every man has his reasons... take the time, make the effort to find out why. I guarantee, men do have feelings. The ”benefits of having a lady to sleep wit ...
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hi ya,cheers for the advice!thts really heplful!i gotta tell you i have very low confidence,and self esteem,and as i say to her,the main reason i worry about it,is becuase I dont feel im special comapard to ne 1,and tht she can do better,i do trust her,and i know i can,but i still have the feelings tht she can and will find sum 1 betta thn me!jus b4 i got wiv her,i had just split from a 2 year relationship,where i fort i would neva do,loves a very funny thing!   [End]
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Be very careful, he has more experience than you are. Before he really gets your body and soul, he will do and say whatever that will toch your tender heart. Once he gets you, he might get cold and distance from you and find next targert. Avoding you getting hurt, you might want to consider quit the job and have some distance from him. I can see the same old pattern with this kinda office romance. He might abuse his power of being your boss. Overall, for seeing thing clearly, you need to stay away from him first. Have him to solve his problem with his girlfriend. He needs to be a man first ...
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My girlfriend of 11 months recently broke up with me. We have had problems in the past but always managed to stay together. We have actually known each other for 13 years and dated around 6 years ago. Back then we only dated for a few months and I broke it off with her to get back with another ex. Her ex dumped her a year ago and we started seeing each other. He wasnt a very nice guy and cheated and lied to her all the time. Finally he made anohter girl pregnant and she ended it with him. She cheated on him with me by the way on new years 2k. Anyways Ive always loved her and I always will. ...
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im seventeen and think i have fallen in love with a guy of 24 hes my bosss at worked who hasmade a ply for me since i first started last septmeber.,the problem is he has two small childern and a girlfrerind that he is living with. Im fidng it hard to deal with as i love him as a person very much,he kept pesterin ng fome for a date konwwingthere was such stong chemistry beetween us both. I kept saying nobecuase of many reasons ie he practically a married man,that gihis girlfreind would be upset if she found out,Ithought asbout how she would be feeling bring up 2 kids when her boyfrein ...
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So what do you mean by Freedom!!!! Explain please....   [End]
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So what do you mean by Freedom!!!! Explain please....   [End]
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Yes maybe I do but I don’t want to be with him anymore. Things have gone too far. I would like some male company with no stress and no attachments.   [End]
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Thank you for your message in response to soem of the comments you have made I’d like you to know that I am very very tight. And thats why I think I have problems. I have been told many times by many guys that they think I’m a snob. As fo rthe chap I was talking about in that email I have been in touch with him since the end of last year, but I find that most chaps my age just don’t make the effort and they don’t know how to. Sinc ethen I have met him again but have decided not to persue it. Yes you are right what ty pe of guy am I expecting to make the effort? That I don’t know. But ...
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I’d like to thank you all for your messages.   [End]
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What is your common ground with this person. Start the communication there. Explore intrests, dreams, aspirations, goals, philosophies, etc. Make short term plans, take a class together that you can discuss. If you are passionate about what you like to do and what means something to you it should be infectious and inspirational. That can make a big difference in a relationship. In otherwords, live with passion, spark, energy and see if that ignites things. Are there other things going on in your lives that are impacting the relationship?   [End]
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Hi- I am so sorry you have to go through this! Your situation sounds a lot like mine- Only I married him (knowing it was not forever and couldn’t wait for it to be over) AND have 2 kids. Same deal. Workaholic turned into not being a workaholic anymore and being a liar with a really good excuse. I was (and still am) financially dependent on him- I am truly afraid of what is going to happen when he doesn’t have to pay for us anymore! But after our house being forclosed on, bancruptcy, repossesed cars, stolen 401k- Am I really worse off- try to divorce someone who is too lazy to fill ...
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well i am kind of new at this... i am an 18 year old male who has been in a relationship for about 7 months and my girlfriend said this whole time she hasnt had the friendship aspect in her life from me.... ive noticed this too... we talk on the phone everynight but if you combine the hours of non-talk we have every night.... about 1/2 of the phone call is complete silence... please help... i the last thing i want to happen is lose this relationship... i just want to make things better...   [End]
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