I am going through the same situation that you are. For the last 2 months she has been hanging out with these other guys from work and coming home at 4 to 5 in the morning with flakey excuses why she was out so late or didn't call. She lived with me so she could have at least been considerate. One of her excuses that she didn't invite me was that she wanted to smoke pot and she knew that I wasn't really into that. I still trusted her until I saw they way she looked at them when they were talking. I too tried to initiate sex more because I noticed that she wasn't interested anymore. She was hardly ever home. She was always working or "practicing" her dance routines. It was almost a test just to see if she would say no. Now I am a very trusting person. She had cheated on me a year before with a very wealthy guy and I took her back because she swore up and down she only wanted me. She left him to come back to me so I felt thay she had learned her lesson love is more valuable than money. Things were great at first, but once you know that someone has the capability to cheat, it will always nag you. I caught her a couple of times lying about hanging out with her old boyfriend. She would call me paranoid at first, but when I finally caught her in the lie she would tell me on a need to know basis. She said she lied because she didn't want me to freak out. So I still don't know if anyting happened. Toward the end she was never home, and when she did come home, she was always tired. Sex is usally a good barometer of how the relationship
is going.

I knew something was fishy but I wanted proof, because I didn't want to ruin a relationship by being a jealous stalker if she was innocent

I told her the night before we broke up.
" If you come home at 5 in the morning from "your friend's " house we are through. " Well she rolled in at 4:30am and when I got mad, her defense was " you said 5!"

At that point I didn't care if had proof or not so I ended it. better now than later when we were married and had kids. I know that I put up with a lot more than most guys would have, but I was really in love with her. It was really hard to give her up but it was for the best.

I think the reason she was getting high, staying out late, and cheating on me was that she didn't have the balls to break up with me. She knew she was under a lot of pressure because of the circumstances that I had taken her back so subconsciously she may have acted in such a way that forced me to break up with her. The odds are not in your favor if you take her back. You are her stability in her life. She wants to run around and have her fun and come back to you if things don't work out . That is why she is calling you. You deserve better. She will only stay with you until someone better comes along.

Hi

I've just been browsing the internet trying to find some stuff to read about after my girlfriend left me on Tuesday...I was a single dad for a year before we got together and she made my life complete and I loved her more than anything else in the world (i still do), along with my daughter. Only 4 months ago we bought a house together and moved in. Now she is gone and I'm left with a hefty mortgage to pay and the weight of looking after my daughter on my own again. I just wanted to post this message because everything i've been reading in this thread I can relate to. About a month after we moved in together she became distant, started going out a lot more, critisizing me, paying less attention to me, my daughter, the house, not bothering to do any housework at all and not wanting to have sex with me. I knew something was up. Turns out she was too young and not ready to settle down into this kind of relationship, but it took her a few months to finally tell me it was over. It was like she was treating me really, really badly and she made me extremely depressed and confused. She became a completely different person almost overnight. She was trying to think of ways to justify the way she felt by putting me down and critisizing me and making me hate her in the process, probably to make it easier for her to leave me. I now have zero self esteem and zero confidence. She's battered me down into the ground and made me feel like a worthless piece of dirt. It's really hard because the last couple of months I had been spending lots of money on her, showing her so much love and attention but it was all a one way thing and it almost drove me to madness. I hated the person she became. But I still love her even though I know she's not coming back. Anyway, I could blabber on for ages, just thought I would share my thoughts on this subject, as I'm going through a similar kind of thing.