It seems like he may just respect your freedom, and hey what are you doing in clubs with g/fs when you could be spending that quality time you talk about with him?? Looks like maybe you feel its not right to dress up like that without him there? Why not? You must do what feels good for you and if you feel good clubbing on the dance floor, theres nothing wrong with that! So what if your b/f doesnt have a problem with that, you should be glad that you can be whoever you are, thats called freedom, one day you may change and you would want him to accept that too, wouldnt you? And what does he do with his time when it isnt quality time with you?