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Red Flags [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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Master Manipulators [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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Jordan Peterson: Wimps, Alphas & Good men [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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Jordan Peterson: What women don’t understand about men [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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Advice for Strong Relationships from Jordan Peterson [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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Jordan B Peterson: How to Salvage a Relationship, and When to End It Jordan [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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One of the very important things to remember about an abusive situation is that it is a life-or-death event to leave. Any hint of leaving to any friend, family member, the abuser, the abuser’s ”friends,” mutual friends, or children cannot occur. Nobody should be informed, even though the victim may feel that they need to tell someone. Tell the Victim’s Services advocate or the counseling therapist, but tell nobody else, including the children. Children are the most vulnerable of all and they should never, ever be saddled with such heavy adult issues. Their tender souls and their par ...
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This message had been posted a number of times over the years, and it's always helpful to anyone who might be confused or living within the environment of abuse and domestic violence. Just because special holidays or milestones come up does not mean that an abuser's promise to "change" or "get better" is going to come to fruition. It won't. https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=796401 Read on: "'Tis the Season for victims of abuse, narcissism, and/or sociopathy to be WARY. Holidays are the perfect time for an abuser to act ou ...
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I know what it says in the bible but the Church is much more open about this today and there is same sex marriage now. Times have changed and so have people’s attitudes, people today are much more accepting today than they were years ago. If you really feel you have sinned then just ask God for forgiveness and if you want to be forgiven he will forgive you, you really don’t have to feel the need to share it unless you really want to.   [End]
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what ever you decide, or wish, have done or havent done be in peace. guilt doesnt help anybody!   [End]
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someimes we feel this is the end of the world, but it isnt. read abou codependency and try to be as independent as possible. we live only once and you deserve to live in peace!   [End]
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Thanks for sharing the useful matter.   [End]
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Just kidney pain on and off, usually happens if I exert myself. Fatigue, and weakness. I lost 20 pounds since detoxing, so I think my kidneys are over burdened. I read on here that herx reactions can last months to years if you’re really toxic. I have been taking chlorophyll and soil based probiotics a lot, so I think they are causing the reactions.   [End]
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That is far too long to be suffering from die off symptoms. What exactly are your symptoms? Grizz   [End]
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I read its good for prevention of cancer and it also detoxes metals, and bad bacteria, toxins, etc.. I can’t handle the detox from iodine its very strong, I thought if I use less strong chelators and detox methods I could handle the herx reaction, or die off. I am still hurting, my kidneys hurt a lot now I think I developed stones, or they just have a hard time cleaning up what got kicked up by the iodine. By the way do you have any advice on how to recover from die off symptoms quicker? I have been going through detox symptoms since September of last year. Thanks.   [End]
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sman, Why the Hemp Oil? Grizz   [End]
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Colloidal silver along with hemp oil are on my list for the next detox supplements I’m getting. Also hygiene is certainly good but our ancestors never washed their hands or anything and we evolved from their strong immune system developed from that. I am not saying don’t wash hands after using the restroom, especially if in food service to avoid contaminating yourself or others, but I think once in awhile skipping a shower or not washing hands is not as bad as was once thought. This is of course after strengthening ones immune system with detox supplements like Iodine, silver, an ...
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All of those things are nice but will not protect you from the MAJOR causes of illness: Your immune system must be healthy to ward off diseases. Major sources are people coughing near you, and you breathing in their germs. You need to boost your immune system using these tips: Optimal Health: https://sites.google.com/site/iodinereferenes/optimal-health And then you need colloidal silver to kill germs, virus & fungus when you do get sick. Colloidal Silver is safe & no side effects, better than antibiotics. Details here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1wfnslQKQDd3i3ZK5B6jnW2 ...
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WHO wants to be sick? At the very least, an illness is an inconvenience and an expense. You not only feel bad, but when you are sick, you may not be able to go to work or school, earn any money, or look after your family. You may even need someone to look after you, and you may have to pay for expensive medicines and treatment. Well has it been said that “Prevention is better than cure.” Some illnesses cannot be avoided. Still, there is much you can do to slow down or even prevent the onset of illness. Consider five things that you can do today to get on the road to better health. 1 ...
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Edited and done.   [End]
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Madsheila, I’m sorry that you’re discovering this at this point of your life.  But, this is what typically happens when people get to a specific point and finally begin doing some self-examination. If you’re unhappy in your marriage, it may be an option to speak to someone that could provide some objective insight.  Been there, did it, got out, lost everything, gained everything that’s important, and I’m firmly on my Healing Path.  If fear is a great presence in decision-making, it is 100% rooted in the codependency and probably requires the help of a matu ...
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I am a recovering codependent, a pretty serious codependent. What does one do when one realizes that they truly married a passive aggressive narcissist more than halfway through their life with no way just yet to support themselves and that you probably don’t love this person anymore (if you ever really did)? I feel like a ton of bricks came crashing down on me.   [End]
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no. it did not shut, since you are alive Lol. Seriously! You can basically wrap it up if your work suffers and keep in mind it is only one of numerous fasts. Or you can try to go until the end, if your body allows. You are now exchanging the hardened waste for water weight and more functional tissues. I’d recommend colon cleanses, to move stuff out, if you did not eliminate much so far, even more so, since the diet you had makes people retain waste in their intestines on a high scale ... which makes one of the components of a larger waistline.   [End]
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DesertLili, thank you so much for your response. It’s a very busy time at the office right now and all the software developers are needed. I’m more than a 100% sure they won’t give me time off even if I request it. Workload is crazy. I’m worried my metabolism has been shut down . Haven’t lost a pound two times.   [End]
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Good morning Mase, I recommend always to have the option for staying in at least for the second part of a fast. I have done it both ways, though when I did not have the possibility to not work. I stayed in for the last days of my long fasts, since muscle cramps don’t allow me to even sit for more than 2 hours - imagine me telling ”I can only work today on the couch in a lying position” LOL I tolerated much better walking with pauses, than sitting; but not so much walking up stairs - my heart would race like in a sprint. Everyone is different, though, and you may very well be able to wo ...
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Bless, you are heard and loved, both by this fellow christian and our Father and creator 3 I have struggled with sexual sin too- I have found in my walk with the Holy Spirit that what He desires is a will to turn away from the sin (180 degrees) and a contrite heart.. After those moments (sometimes it is tears in prayer) there is comfort and complete guidance. May you ever grow nearer to the pure love and intimacy that is our Father, the person of Jesus our king, and the gentle power and guide (and sometimes mothering, correcting and persistant person!) of the Holy Spirit.
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Hi Hilare, You somewhat remind me of myself. I was also independent when I was your age. It is tough when others rely on you for emotional or financial support. It seems to me that you feel a sense of guilt if you say ”no” and I think you seek emotional support from others too. In a way, you are all in need of each other. However, there comes a point where it is going too far. Both people should benefit from a relationship and it seems that you aren’t. This is when you need to remove yourself from the person. If they don’t value you and appreciate you, then this is unhealthy for you and ...
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I couldn’t have said it better! Bravo for an honest post. And the codependent CODA are free. So is alanon which is an excellent treatment. That’s so true YOU MUST PUT YOUR CHILDREN FIRST,and the best way to do that is getting help for you. The healthier you become you will get out fir good. Never loose hope   [End]
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Here’s the thing though. When you call them on it they NEVER admit to what they have been doing to you. Its malicious and cowardly. They nearly always play innocent. And the sad part is the majority of people in the United States of America re like this today.   [End]
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I need to confess. I’ve never seen myself as a lesbian, but I committed lesbian sexual acts with a close friend at times for a couple of years, and since I’m an active Christian, this fact has been a huge burden in my heart. My family and several other people have suspected something ”different” going on, and this friend and I have seriously decided to repent from the sin of homosexuality. I really don’t want to start another debate on this topic, I simply personally believe that homosexuality (in my case, lesbianism) is a sin as it’s not what God created us to be. I just need to confess t ...
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It’s too late for most of us when we finally figure out what we really have been dealing with. We have already given out information that they can twist and use against us. In hindsight, I would be very careful about what I disclose to coworkers. It’s hard to believe that some people are so dark, but they are. Follow your gut.   [End]
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awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   [End]
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During the Holiday Season, abuses increase at a dramatic rate.  Gas-lighting, coercion, verbal/emotional abuse, spiritual abuse, and sexual abuse are at a fevered pitch, while the statistics on physical violence drop, dramatically.  Why? A Holiday or special event is the most perfect time for an abuser to work non-violent abuses.  Typically, there will be more verbal abuse in the form of threats, like, "If you don't _____, the children won't get any presents, and it will be your fault."  Fill in the blank with anything that you can think of, whe ...
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I have never denied my actions and I have written about it, extensively, on this site, as well as others Suffice it to say that you do NOT play well with others and your ”area of expertise” isn’t reflected in your ONLINE behavior. What a nasty, juvenile, and cheap shot. Grow up.   [End]
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What a story. You have turned something so very bad into helping others. What a blessing you are to others.   [End]
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Thanks, Southern Belle - DV&A is a subject that I am only too familiar with. I have experienced every manner of abuse and violence with the exception of a broken bone at the hands of the former abuser. As a Survivor, I can honestly say that I always held out the false belief that ”something” would happen - a personal epiphany or lightning bolt from Zeus that would ”change” the way that things were. Well, it wasn’t going to happen. The moment when I came to accept the fact that the former abuser wasn’t going to change was NOT when he shoved a loaded .357 in my face and threatened to ...
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Excellent post!   [End]
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October has been designated ”Domestic Violence Awareness Month.” It behooves every human being to understand what Domestic Violence and Abuse is, what it isn’t, and how to take steps to break the cycle. Domestic violence has several subcategories: * intimate partner abuse * family violence and/or abuse * spousal rape * battering * dating abuse DV&A is typically a pattern of behaviors that results in the abuser controlling the victim. Some abusive behaviors are: * name-calling or putdowns * preventing a partner from contacting their family or friends * withholding ...
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I have had 2 girlfriends that fall into the cluster B. A Borderline and a Narcissist. Yes you get blamed for everything and they dont feel responsibilty, both of them broke up and within a month they were engaged or pregnent with other men whom they called ”the love of their life”. Best thing to do is laugh it off and feel sorry for the next douchebag that knocked her up.   [End]
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Anytime you work with memory using hypnosis you can and do plant false memories whether it is going back five lifetimes ago or dealing with something that happened just before you put yourself under hypnosis.  It is a common side effect even when professionals use it and Loftus (second article below) is an expert in dealing with it. There is even a false Memory Foundation. http://www.fmsfonline.org/ Here are some articles on it. http://faculty.washington.edu/eloftus/Articles/sciam.htm Scientific American September 1997, vol 277 #3 pages 70-75 Creatin ...
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Here’s a link to a very insightful article with regard to ANY addiction: http://familyarrested.com/a-newer-way-of-looking-at-addictions/ I believe that it is well worth reading for anyone who is either struggling with an addiction, or someone who cares about an addict.   [End]
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There is no single technique or approach to recovering from any addiction. There isn’t. Hypnosis may temporarily break the cycle, but it is not a long-term ”cure” for any addiction. So, please.........stop the debate and offer the original poster some sound suggestions. There are too many excuses possible to avoid entering into recovery, and THAT is the hardest step for an addict to take: admitting that there is a problem and that we are powerless to control it.   [End]
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" Total Garbage. Are you sure you’re not working with that dumba$$ at Quackwatch? It takes a session of relaxation to suggest anything to your subconcious because your conscious mind is being bombarded with hundreds if not more stimuli every second and you think somebody can walk up to you in the conscious mind  and suggest something that would harm you when they haven’t set it up with a SH session beforehand. Get real" Total bull shit.  Have you read any of the dangers that I’ve posted?  When you learn spiritual healing you learn spiritual protec ...
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Do you see now why self-hypnosis can be potentially dangerous? Imagine leaving your house and giving your key to a total stranger. Would you do that? Why then would you leave your mind in such a vulnerable state for others to slip in the odd suggestion every now and then? Worse still, if you don’t know what you’re doing, you may very well leave your mind open to suggestions even after you think you’ve secured your mind once the self-hypnosis session is over. Total Garbage. Are you sure you’re not working with that dumba$$ at Quackwatch? It takes a session of relaxation to suggest a ...
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You can post all the links you wish on the benefits of hypnosis, but you never post the possible side effects which include depression and suicide - which are also possible from hypnosis. Here’s the last paragraph from the article: "Hypnotism has been helpful for many people in breaking bad habits and overcoming phobias. In recalling memory, however, the problems of hypnosis must be considered as well. The creation of pseudomemories makes the manipulability of our minds frighteningly real. We learned in class about our own ability to shape our minds, but knowing that o ...
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At the time I learned self hypnosis from a medical doctor in private sessions, I obviously learned how to hypnotize others.  During that time I was a full time student going to school in the G I Bill but having to work the graveyard shift unloading box cars to make ends meet.  I was married at the time with two small children and my wife did not work.  I was busy.  My wife hated doing dishes and they stacked up in the sink continuously.  So - one day I asked her if she would like to get over her hatred for doing dishes and she replied in the affirmative. ...
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http://news.harvard.edu/gazette/2003/05.08/01-hypnosis.html http://www.hypnosis.edu/articles/healing-power http://www.triroc.com/sunnen/topics/healing.htm   [End]
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We just posted at the same time.  I posted more on hypnosis on this thread. " Sorry, I,m not buying it. If I were a betting man [which I am], I would bet anything that you have never done SH." I was taught self hypnosis by a medical doctor in private sessions.   I have read about SH and how to practice it.  I have done self hypnosis and in fact used hypnosis on other people and know what the results can be and they are not - in the long run positive. I have over thirty-five years of spiritual healing experience - both giving and receiving.& ...
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For everything that you do to cure or change yourself/other person with either hypnosis or self hypnosis, it will eventually have to be undone.  Hypnosis does not change or in any way modify the underlying condition.  So, for example, if  you or someone else hypnotizes you to always remember your wallet when you leave the house so you will always have your drivers license and other important information with you, it may work.  However, why are you forgetting it in the first place?  Hypnosis never solves that issue.  Your subconscious may now come ou ...
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Sorry, I,m not buying it. If I were a betting man [which I am], I would bet anything that you have never done SH. Within just a few days of that my self hypnosis quit working for me and I’m very happy about that. I redirected my search for who I am and after several years I ended up learning meditation and found myself as spirit - which all of us are. Through that I learned how to deprogram myself from hypnosis Each Self Hypnosis session is a session unto itself. There are several processes that are done in sequence to get you to the sub concious mind where you can reprogram bad h ...
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Hypnosis is like TNT.  It can be productive, or it can be very destructive.  Nobody, but nobody know what it is.  90% of the therapists who use it have no idea what they are doing. Self hypnosis isn’t quite as bad, but you have to be very careful with it.  I learned self hypnosis more than fifty years ago and my first use was during a college statistics course final exam.  I had taken all the prerequisites for the 200 level class at a Junior/Community college and my math instructor there didn’t even know some of the math she was teaching so she skippe ...
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Thank Goodness I didn’t read this before I learned self hypnosis, I probably would have never attempted to learn it. Audible dot com has numerous SH programs. They allow you to take a test drive [sample them]. Some are specific, some are better than others. Your first is free with a 30 day trial. Here’s an example: http://www.audible.com/pd/Self-Development/How-to-Transform-Your-Life-Forever-with-Self-Hypnosis-Audiobook/B0076BTA7A/ref=sr_3_20?qid=1379782517&sr=3-20 I have never used this personally, but listened to the sample, and he gives a better explanation about SH and ...
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Any addiction comes with a host of consequences, and losing your university funds is just one of them. The loss of money is combined with betrayals, lies, and manipulations, and I strongly recommend that you get help for yourself before you find yourself living in a cardboard box beneath an overpass and rummaging through dumpsters for food. I have empathy for your situation, but gambling is a choice, not a necessity. The previous articles on hypnosis might be helpful, but hypnosis is not going to address the core issues that feeds your addictive nature. Only strong counseling and ...
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A good article on hypnosis therapy. If you have medical insurance you might even find a counselor type who utilizes hypnosis in their therapy that your insurance will cover.   Again, be careful, and best to you in your future.  http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200910/the-trouble-hypnosis The Trouble With Hypnosis Offers a look at the field of hypnosis and effectiveness of its therapy. Hypnotic induction; Terms of endearment; Bringing out the power; By K. Harary, published on March 01, 1992 - last reviewed on June ...
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What I would suggest is to learn self-hypnosis and use that to see how it may assist you.  There are a lot of books, CDs, DVDs, available.  I used it many years ago before I discovered meditation.  There are many psychiatrists, counselors and others who would love to hypnotize your problems away.  Avoid them at all costs.  They program you and leave side effects that must be addressed.  Doing it yourself will allow you to go at your own pace.  Read as much as you can about self hypnosis before trying it.  If you develop other problems whil ...
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I have malabsoprtion and I have 35 years. My fathers pay me university, please help me, i lost all my money.   [End]
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Hi, I am starting a water fast today also. I would like to go as long a possible for health and weight loss. I have done a water fast for 15 days before, and several 3-5 day fasts.   [End]
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Actually, I’m trying to do a 40 day fast, and I’ve checked with people who say it’s safe, and I’ve even done a 20 day one, more than a year ago, and seeing this post just made me want to reply to see if at the very least, I’d have a buddy or if I’d have to go at this alone.   [End]
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Thanks!I am in united states I dont think its available over the counter here. I will try e-bay.   [End]
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I live in Holland, here it’s available over the counter at all pharmacies for a few Euros per 6 tablets. If it’s not OTC in you country ask your doctor for a prescription of 6 tabs (They shouldnt be too difficult about it, just tell him you found worms) but if thats not possible order some on ebay.   [End]
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RJGerard I ahve the same symptoms.Where do you buy mebendezole and how much do you take and for how long?   [End]
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Try Mebendazole, it’s a cheap, fast and effective treatment, you will notice some improvement. Herbs weren’t effective for me.   [End]
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See I have the opposite of fatigue, insomnia, and this tired but wired feeling, I can’t take naps during the day no matter how tired I am. Maybe ill try the mebendazole followed by aben then praz. Im going to try black wallnut hull, clove, garlic, pumpkin seed, with psylium first and see. I can’t do wormwood becuase Ive heard it will make tinnitus worse. Your tinnitus sounds just like mine, I think its a yeast or something becuase it happened after I took msm/went swimming and I didnt get the air dry drops for my ears, so i think the moisture let yeast grow in my eustrcian tubes.   [End]
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Prazi is pretty tough drug, I would start with Meben first. I’m currently on Prazi for humans (Biltricide). I did one course 3 days ago and it really took me down. Massive abdominal pains fungal rashes, feverish feeling, toxic diarea. But I do have some unidentified kind of trematode and some scattered critters I want to kill/have killed. But if your problem is only worms I would start with Mebendazole first, if you have a tapeworm or a fluke you can always bring out bigger guns. But from what I have noticed is that once one parasite has established, they open the door for other parasit ...
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I had tinnitus yes in combination with 1 sided headaches and extreme head pressure (like hanging upside down), and it was more intense after a meal or sugary snack. Worms caused this most likely, 3 days mebendazole’s cured me of both the tinnitus and the headaches. I don’t have hearing loss but also never had, I don’t think the problem was primarily in my ears like miniere but in my head. Symptoms do get worse first, but those are mostly fatigue and abdominal pains that increase.   [End]
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Thanks for your response, I noticed you said in a previous post you had tinnitus does it get worse with sugar or eating, do you have hearing loss? I want to try alvendazole and praz but afraid it will make my tinnitus explode as does all antioxidants as sugar.   [End]
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I think most worms can give you digestive problems. To know for sure is to strain your stool. Most GI parasites are killed fast and effectively and few side effects is with Mebendazole, if you have tapeworms you could try Albendazole or Praziquantel that basically kills everything more effectively, but has more side effects(severe die off).   [End]
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Hi Enthe, As ”grist for your mill,” are you aware of the almost miraculous results many tens (hundreds?) of THOUSANDS of people have experienced, dealing with MOST of the health issues known to humankind, from ingesting the powerful antioxidant, ascorbic acid? If you are seriously interested in finding a solution to your health problem(s), and gaining better health in ALL areas of your body, I STRONGLY encourage you to read [at least the first ten paragraphs of] this article written by Dr. Robert Cathcart, M.D. http://vitamincfoundation.org/www.orthomed.com/titrate.htm It may just s ...
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I’m thinking that I have a tapeworm, roundworms, or pinworms. 1. I think it might be a tapeworm because I have chronic constipation that gets worse when I take probiotics. I heard that roundworms or hookworms eggs hatch to larva and then feed on bacteria in soil so why couldn’t they in our intestines. 2. I think pinworms because sometimes in my stool it will have little lines in it like pinworms or maybe candida/mucin biofilm strings have imprinted the stool. 3. I also do not have fatigue or diarrhea (only when I take stevia) 4. Also my stools are very mushy, i have to wipe ...
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Hi , there is no harm if you do fasting as it helps in body cleansing . But it should not be done for long periods of time . Kulwant http://www.weightland.org   [End]
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I have kept it down to 694 calories today, Friday , may 17th... goal being to do 500 a day for a week, then 1200-1500 daily for a week, then 500 for a week, alternating, and cleaning up my diet on a permanent basis during all this so that eventually, I will be committed permanently to a diet which is non-addictive and thus makes giving up food (fasting) much more possible for me, if not exactly easy. I think this is a good plan for me, the alternating of weeks of low calorie and ”normal” intake. My body desperately needs to fast and since my being stuck in food addiction prevents this ...
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Tomorrow Friday May 17th will be my first day of doing a therapeutic low calorie diet. I will have no more than 500 calories a day, raw food only. This i will stick to until I have gotten some healing. It is sort of like a fast. I hope the diet phases into some fasting. I always feel much better when I do low calories. I look forward to feeling better. Really my body would like to fast but my food addiction is intense and my emotions as an addict prevent me from totally abstaining from food for a sustained period... and after brief fasts I sort of binge... I don’t like this, so , ...
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I wrote another letter to someone on Curezone about how I am using a raw-only diet to stop my bingeing and achieve a ”fasting way of life” (i.e., a way that includes regular fasts). The person asked about a high fruit and low fat diet as a specific strategy for doing raw food only diet. Here is the letter I just wrote: thanks!!!!! I appreciate the good wishes, Interestingly, when I was on raw food only for 2 years, May 2008 to May 2010, I sort of naturally followed a diet of much fruit/low fat. I was starting to be successful with fasting, just a bit, at the end of that period, ...
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hi, again, someone wrote asking me about my going raw. here is what i wrote back: hey... great to hear from you i actually have gone raw as of 8 days ago and am committed to it now as a life choice... i have 8 days , almost in day 9 raw now. i need to fast in order to heal generally (depression, liver issues, anxiety) and going raw is (has always been) the first step... next comes kicking calorie-dense/high-calorie/fat/sugar ”raw binge foods”/raw ’junk’ food out of my diet permanently... i am a severe chronic entrenched ”comfort eater” in spite of severe serious consequence ...
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hi!!! let me hear from you again! i started a fast but lost it on about day 3 due to inexperience/lack of focus/not checking in for support.../having other stuff going on... still, i have some good news... i have now after a lot of struggle achieved a committed raw food only diet for life and this took a lot of work. for 3 years i was eating processed food, relapsing from a ”food sobriety” of raw foods only diet that i had maintained for 2 yrs prior to that (may 2008 to may 2010... then may 2010 to may 6 2013 i ate processed foods, with may 6 of this yr -- 8 days ago -- being the ...
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Thanks for your words! God bless you.   [End]
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Hello Lucky. Have you been fasting before?, For me is my 3 long water fasting.   [End]
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Looking for a fasting buddy as well, im currently on day 5 so far. Alot tougher then i thought it was going to be.   [End]
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”Toxic” individuals drain our energies and create distractions from our own personal progression. They also feed on our vulnerabilities and despise what strengths we possess. Regardless of what a toxic person’s ”agenda” is, we have options, even if they aren’t pleasant. You may opt to engage in some strong counseling therapy in order to sort out your feelings with regard to your own personal experiences and to help you process through the grieving process of your experiences. I type this because I have an adult child who is 100% sociopath and it was an intensive grieving proces ...
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Hi. Today I started my 42 days water fasting. I fast like this every other year. I need this year extra motivación, because I feel a bit depressed and very fat. My ñame is Inma and I am 41 yo. I need to lose 60 pounds to be in my healthy and ideal weight. I hope i will lose at least 40 pounds. If you want we can do it toguether. Good luck   [End]
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Hello, Day 1 for me today,would love a buddy if you are still looking.I need to lose a drastic amount of weight and fast. I have been over eating and need to get back in control. Message me back x   [End]
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hi, I am fasting and seeking someone to post with or message daily-ish. more info upon request! I’m fine with posting it, just rushed at the moment. Fasting to address depression and some kind of liver issue. Primarily these arose from compulsive overeating/food addiction. I love fasting! Aiming to make it a regular part of my life. Let me hear from you!   [End]
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Hi Blue Rose, thanks for reading my post and trying to help me. To be honest, I don´t know what the problem is. Since my daughter was a kid, she was a very mad kid who always shouted to me. She got worst during adolecense and the last 10 years things have gone worst.She blames me for all her problems. She can´t find a good man because of me. I think that she got many traits from my ex husband, who was a macho, power oriented dominieering and controlling man. I might not be perfect but I tried to do my best. Her dad as well as myself come from a dysfunctional families. So we made a dysfu ...
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”No judging please” you say, but I’m not sure what you mean. I looked at your past posts to see if I could learn more about your situation. It seems that you’ve had a problem with your daughter-in-law for several years now. Back then, I saw that you got great advice in that thread, so I won’t go there now. As for your daughter---If you say that you mention to her about how badly she has treated you in the past, she doesn’t remember doing so. Possibly, she is a narcissist but I don’t know for sure. Have you tried sitting down with your daughter and asking her why she has a probl ...
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How much it huts, not sure if the sadnessnes will go away some dasy. I have two kids, and I expected much from them, but I´m facing my reality and letting go all my dreams of what seemrd to be unrelistic expectations about them, letting go all this dream is like mouring the emotinal loss of my two kids.My daughter is a stone hearted woman, who is verbably abusive, and if I ask for something she treats me like shit. She sees the way I react to her misstreast but , she is never awate of what she has done before. So all the blame is on me. I had a sweet loving nice son, but she married a co ...
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sound familar except I have daughter sounds familar with mom too except she had sons and I sum it up to they loved themselves more there crack beer sex c**k suckef ect ect than they love there family and children like Rick james put it best cocaine is a powerful drug. just pray and hope for the best for yourself from now on. No need for toxic zombies in your life they will eat you brain.Stay strong also   [End]
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This just breaks my heart. Here you are helping so many people. You do not deserve this. You are strong though. I wish I could help you get through this like you’ve helped so many others. What is wrong with these people? I hope you are alright SS.   [End]
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I suggest you to go away from him and also forget all the things behind which has happened to you. That is your past so leave things behind and move to a happy life. _______ love problem solution   [End]
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No one in this world can claim not having done mistakes. We do make mistakes and even bring the guild with us long term.   [End]
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Love is a part of life and at times can get overwhelming.   [End]
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I’m sorry that you’ve had these experiences.  Blue Rose is spot-on.  Document, document, document.  And, contact your State Bar Association and ask for a referral to several "Divorce Specialists," not just divorce attorneys.  If you live in a state that maintains "no fault" divorce, you may want to consider criminal charges if you have a means to support yourself.  A website that specifically addresses surviving sociopathic entanglements may offer you invaluable information and hope:  www.lovefraud.com Keep in mind that you ...
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 i know what you mean....how are you doing now? i just want to know someone can get out of one of these....wanted to talk to someone....   [End]
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I have been reading all morning on sociopaths. That is him to a T. I am making my plans to leave. Thank you   [End]
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I’m reading that you’re unhappy in your marriage and that you have two children with your husband.  I understand the fear of severing a marriage when children are invovled.  But, I can tell you one truth that is ugly:  your children are learning how to be victims or predators, themselves, by watching and absorbing the dynamics of this "family." Why are you resorting to manipulations to get simple needs met?  Manipulations are toxic no matter who’s having to resort to employing them, and for whatever circumstances.  And, your children are learning this ...
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WEll versed soul survior! I, too had to cut off my ties to individuals that are emotionally toxic and they have no boundaries at all. Some are so detrimental to my health that I found myself in bed and could hardly scrape myself off the floor for years. The best thing I did was stand up to them, call them on it, denial of course and until I forced them to own it. Then there are others as you say a waste of oxygen, they can be so draining if allowed to continue their abusive ways. When it is family members this is the toughest of all. I had to block many phone numbers recently an ...
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The benefit and purpose of "No Contact" is to put and end to the madness and to take back control of our own lives, thoughts, feelings, and actions.  Technological "contact" with the toxic person is a self-inflicted injury when we choose to view their online social profiles and posts after we have discovered that the person in question has deliberately caused harm.  Certainly, the toxic individual isn’t going to post anything truthful, and playing out the aspects of one’s life through technological means is causing human beings to literally lose thei ...
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NO CONTACT is the first rule of recovery from toxic relationships.  Especially in cases of sociopathic behaviors and abuse, the source targets (or, victims) feel the need to make the toxic person hear and understand what they’ve experienced.  The harsh truth is that the spath doesn’t care, didn’t care, and never will "care."  They don’t.  And, they won’t.  So, trying to "fix" things or educate the spath about what they’ve done is a waste of time and keeps the victims connected to the toxicity. Going "No Contact" is difficult, b ...
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SunflowerGirl1121, before you react to anything about this man, just read the articles and posts at www.lovefraud.com.  It could save your life, literally. These people engage in "gaslighting" and brainwashing - they take away what we have:  empathy, goals, ethics, and our own sense of self.  They do it for money, sex, control, and personal entertainment.  They do not have empathy.  They do not have a conscience  They do not feel remorse or pity.  The damages that I’ve experienced from over 12 years of marriage to a sociopath destroyed ...
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You are so young. Live your life and forget about him. Co-dependence is hard to get over. You have to realize that is part of that problem with constant thinking of him. How long have you been without him or another man now? I am not expert but, I have figured out what I want in life and it isnt a man who controls me but one who uplifts me and encourages me to do things on my own. I wish you a lot of luck and if you feel like anything I have said helps I know some more. I am not expert. Just recognize the reason you need the other person in your life.   [End]
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I found this incredibly eye-opening. He is a scarily intelligent man who spends most of his time trying to figure out the truth behind the government and most of history. He makes me feel like he is the only person I can trust for valid information. He has cheated on me, insists that I have cheated on him (when we first started seeing each other he had specified that we should be sexually exclusive, but i didn’t realize he meant that i shouldn’t go on dates with other people. later this turned into a massive argument in which he claimed i was incapable of feeling real emotions and form ...
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SunflowerGirl1121, I don’t know if you checked out the website that I posted, above, but there are numerous "Red Flags" that are screaming, flapping, and waving about your situation. If I read your post correctly, you indicate that you are a pathological liar.  If I read wrong, then, please accept my sincere apology.  If you are a pathological liar and you know that you are, then you have a choice to either sort it out, or not.  There are 2 reasons for pathological lying:  a> lying out of fear of rejection/abandonment, or  b> lying to contro ...
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I have made some very bad choices that I am really afraid of. I’m a 23 year old girl who broke up with my fiancé of three years about three months ago. He was kind, caring, sweet and dependable. He was always willing to listen and put me first. For some reason that I do not understand yet, the relationship started to get boring for me. He was a nice man but he didn’t do many of the things I wanted to do at the time and my friends said he was a little controlling and overly emotional. I thought I would find more happiness if I called things off. Things went ok for a while until I st ...
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Good podt. These terms are now conffusing a lot of people. Where is the line between being codependent and helping? I guess noone knows that for sure now.   [End]
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this is getting far too crazy.... from: http://www.wakingtimes.com/2012/08/23/the-new-slavery-pigs-are-tigers-and-farmers-are-felons/ The New Slavery: Pigs are Tigers and Farmers are Felons August 23, 2012 | Caleb Hart, Contributing Writer Waking Times In “A Critical Mass for Real Food,” Anim Steel began with “The old logic of the slave plantation is still the logic of our industrial food system, 500 years in the making.” The idea that a slave mentality is still woven into production of food showed up as well in an article referencing the KKK. It describes the similar ...
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 Your attachment to your brutal husband may be due to your low self-esteem and lack of self-regard that prevents you from taking control over your life. This low self-regard may stem from a similar metabolic disorder that gives rise to your husband’s behaviour and your own submissiveness. To see what you and your husband may have in common, read: Treatment of a Low Self Esteem Drug Addiction is a Nutritional Disorder   [End]
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Are you feelings sad because you don’t want to loose your husband or you don’t want to be alone ? I mean common, i agree that you love him but it does not mean that you should bare so much of pain from him. After all you are also a human being and you to deserve to live a happy life .. if you continue same then just think of the kids and your future...   [End]
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This Awareness suggests that there is an important associated topic which this Awareness wishes to address at this time. It is what may be termed a kind of philosophical ”fad” that is going around, which began with concepts that were themselves relatively valid, which came out of the philosophical therapy concepts for dealing with drug and alcohol abuse, namely the concepts of co-dependency and the idea of rescuing others. This Awareness indicates that in the alcohol abuse programs and drug programs, and even in family counseling programs, these concepts of co- dependency and th ...
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Mira, thank you for your vote of confidence - I’m not all that confident, right now, but it’ll come back in due time. As for finding a partner, that is NOT going to happen, ever.  I won’t allow it, I won’t imagine it, I won’t entertain the notion on any level.  The carnages that the exspath inflicted are myriad, and I won’t ever, ever, ever seek or allow another "partner," again.  I have chosen two very, very bad people in a row.  I need to fix what ails me, and be happy without a partner.  And, no....I do not miss Mr. Bondage, whatsoever.  H ...
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attention: troll alert.....troll alert.......troll alert....!!! may peace be with you! light   [End]
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ATTENTION: I know who you are....your insecurity and fear of your own power is clear. It appears you feel very limited and intimidated by others who appear to you as....evolved or advanced. And this frightens you, because you doubt your own strength and ability, that is why you insult others and attempt to de-value them and try to show that you know more than the so called ’enlightened’ beings on our planet. It is like a child, who tries to convince themselves that they are a grown up and have already been through the trials and tribulations of life....while ...
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I just happened onto your post, SS. You are clearly a caring, strong, and insightful person. I’m so sorry that you’ve had to go through this. Your honesty in sharing your situation and the courage you display in dealing with it are inspiring. What impresses me so much is the way you’re facing the cold, hard truth instead of playing ostrich and sticking your head in the sand. Yet you’re not letting bitterness take over your life. I think that we can easily project our hopes and dreams and ideals onto another person and some of us are easily fooled by manipulators who use us for ...
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To clarify this, he married me strictly for money, as I discovered after he left.  My attorney has said this in exactly those words.  My counseling therapist has said this in exactly those words, and so has just about everyone else that knows my situation.  That he compartmentalized activities that I find disturbing was a shock, to be sure.  And, yes - I accept that consenting adults may engage in whatever sexua| interests they want to, and they do, including expensive whirlwind "sex tours" in Southeast Asia that includes taking the virginity of 8-year-ol ...
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This is a supplement to your nice little note that you sent to me.  Here’s a better, higher level picture of your chakras that all ’enlightened’ beings know about.  As you can see the 2nd chakra has no connection with the 4th chakra.  Those who think that it does have been programmed by Western religions. Everyone has at least seven major chakras.  Even animals have chakras.  It’s part of the spiritual energy system that goes with a physical body. Edited to put in the proper link for the site below. http://www.psychic-experiences.com/psychic-art ... [Image Embedded Here]
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If you’re really a "Teacher of Light" then why did you cross post a message on "love" in the section  on "sex?"  There is no connection between the two.  If in your enlightenment you truly recognize the chakra system that each and everyone on the Planet has you would know that love is a 4th chakra energy while sex is a 2nd chakra energy and the two have no connection. It sounds as if you’ve totally absorbed the programming of the religionists who try to teach that the two are same in spite of the fact that they aren’t.   [End]
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Now, to express genuine love is a genuine appreciation and knowing of whatever you perceive. How you express that is to be becoming more intimately familiar with yourself and generating an acceptance of yourself and of your beliefs, allowing for your own expression of freedom in association with your truths and your preferences, and generating an acceptance of differences. In that, as you become accepting of difference, you also open the door to allow yourself to appreciate and to generate a knowing in association with difference, and that becomes the expression of genuine love: knowing an ...
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I am sorry for your problem but my suggestions like the other readers is for you and him to go to gambler anonymous meetings. Also, if you tell on him at work, he might loose his job or disciplinary action be taken and that not good for you as you can not support yourself without him at this time.   [End]
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You shouldnt have forced him to go back to GA....that was a big mistake..   [End]
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I Honestly wouldn’t know what to do if I experienced something like this. I would probably just feel sick, because something like this is sick. Not the whole ”BDSM” part, but him engaging in something like this without telling you about it.. However you can’t blame or try to put down someone for something they enjoy.. & Frankly, he’ll probably never quite enjoying or acting in these activities.. It’s what he likes and what he’ll probably enjoy for the rest of his life.   [End]
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What if you were in relationship with co-dependent addict, but were also an addict? seek2clean   [End]
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Greetings, grad student!  Is your research only limited to codependents of substance abusers, or are you including codependents of sociopaths and Cluster B’s?    [End]
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Hello, i am a psychology grad student doing research on substance addiction and relationships. i am looking for participants who are in (or have been in the past) a relationship with a substance abuser (alcohol and/or drugs) to take this survey which consists of several questionnaires (approx 20min). It is completely anonymous and you can be entered into a raffle to win 1 of 2 $50 visa gift cards. You must be 21years of age or older. Please click on the link below to start the survey thank you!!!! your time and participation is very appreciated! https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/LJPCZT6
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Blue Rose and Fledgling, I want to thank you both for your words of support and encouragement.  I am going to emerge from this, and all of the fears and shame are being faced down with as much courage as I can muster. The blessing in all of this is that I had the resolve to realize that the marriage was a sham from the beginning and that no amount of effort would heal a relationship that was based upon deception, from the word "Go."  I knew it was over when I found that nasty bag, and after he left I was on a mission to uncover the layers of his betrayals.  He w ...
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Blue Rose offered very sound suggestions and websites.  Get involved so you can heal from this. To address your concerns at the end of your post: *  If he can change and pull his life together, that’s great, but you are not responsible for his happiness, success, sobriety, or anger issues *  He does not feel the same way about you that you do for him, and he likely never will because, at this moment, he is incapable of caring for anything other than feeding his addictions - you and your children are not only secondary, but you’re all in the way of what he wants to d ...
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You start here: http://www.nar-anon.org/Nar-Anon/Nar-Anon_Home.html Look for a Nar-anon meeting near you. Also, here: http://www.coda.org/ Look for a Codependents Anonymous meeting near you. These are good first steps. Meetings are free of charge. However, donations are welcome. So, when you go to a meeting for either of these 2 groups, if you are able, donate what you can. Good luck to you --- and please get going!   [End]
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my husband for 10 years plus 2 boys together, i meet him in AA 10 years ago... i was there part of my program in college, i dont have drug,alcohol problem, my husband was sober when i met him, got marriage within 3 months together.. i notice he has some issue anger issue and being teretorial to me... i kinda like it first feeling wanted but then he started to become violent. to make a story short he was on and off of crack/coccaine for the intire marriege,violence come around but being young and naive thinking he is my husband for good and worst so i stick around.. conning, betrayal,steal ...
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He may be a lawyer and 15 years younger than you but that doesn’t mean you’re ”screwed”. You just need to find the best lawyer and hire him/her. In the meantime, document everything that he has said and done. Have your kids do the same. Stop feeling defeated (that’s what he wants you to feel) and get going! Best of luck to you.   [End]
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