What I would suggest is to learn self-hypnosis and use that to see how it may
assist you. There are a lot of books, CDs, DVDs, available. I used
it many years ago before I discovered meditation. There are many psychiatrists,
counselors and others who would love to hypnotize your problems away.
Avoid them at all costs. They program you and leave side effects that must
be addressed. Doing it yourself will allow you to go at your own
pace. Read as much as you can about self hypnosis before trying it.
If you develop other problems while doing this such as excessive alcohol
consumption, relationship problems, etc., discontinue your self hypnosis
immediately.
I would prefer to direct you to psychiatric or psychologist care, but you
said you don't wish to do that. If you do use a counselor of any kind -
avoid allowing them to hypnotize you because the vast majority don't do it
correctly. Hypnosis is a very powerful tool when used correctly.