Re: New to this and need help

Hi Hilare,

You somewhat remind me of myself. I was also independent when I was your age. It is tough when others rely on you for emotional or financial support. It seems to me that you feel a sense of guilt if you say "no" and I think you seek emotional support from others too. In a way, you are all in need of each other. However, there comes a point where it is going too far. Both people should benefit from a relationship and it seems that you aren't. This is when you need to remove yourself from the person. If they don't value you and appreciate you, then this is unhealthy for you and is affecting your happiness.

At the end of the day, your happiness is the most important because if you aren't happy then you can't make others sincerely happy. You need to think of yourself and do what makes you happy. As suggested, yoga is so good for self reflection and inner healing. Your are an independent woman and I bet you take pride in that and you should! You must love yourself more than anyone else because your emotions has to be strong. If you are not confident in yourself or emotions then you will not find the right person for you. Once you seek inner happiness and confident then you will attract the type of people that are similar to you. People that will not take advantage of you and appreciate who you are, because you do that for yourself. True happiness comes from within and the good things will follow. Tweet