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my husband for 10 years plus 2 boys together, i meet him in AA 10 years ago... i was there part of my program in college, i dont have drug,alcohol problem, my husband was sober when i met him, got marriage within 3 months together.. i notice he has some issue anger issue and being teretorial to me... i kinda like it first feeling wanted but then he started to become violent. to make a story short he was on and off of crack/coccaine for the intire marriege,violence come around but being young and naive thinking he is my husband for good and worst so i stick around.. conning, betrayal,stealling, lying,cheating, lately violent got of hand, almost killed me i went to the hospital. he got arrested, he got off bond went to see me...violated hes protection order, for couple of days we were okay then he used crack again. became vilolent so i reported him to police..now the state of nyc put five years of no contact protection order on him not to see me... i cried endlessly because he still my husband.... i love him dearly... as if they put a gun on my head to say. divorce ur husband.... i'm still hoping that if he clean up and become sober he can change.... and learn from hes mistakes.... but wondering if he feels the same way to me. if he cares for me... or love me...... i just deppessed and need a lot of networking... dont know where to start..... i dont want to be alone...- Re: husband of 10years 2 kids is a c... BlueRose
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MoreThis is a reply to # 1,917,820You start here:
http://www.nar-anon.org/Nar-Anon/Nar-Anon_Home.html
Look for a Nar-anon meeting near you.
Also, here:
http://www.coda.org/
Look for a Codependents Anonymous meeting near you.
These are good first steps. Meetings are free of charge. However, donations are welcome. So, when you go to a meeting for either of these 2 groups, if you are able, donate what you can.
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Blue Rose offered very sound suggestions and websites. Get involved so you can heal from this.
To address your concerns at the end of your post:
* If he can change and pull his life together, that's great, but you are not responsible for his happiness, success, sobriety, or anger issues
* He does not feel the same way about you that you do for him, and he likely never will because, at this moment, he is incapable of caring for anything other than feeding his addictions - you and your children are not only secondary, but you're all in the way of what he wants to do
* You don't want to be alone? Sometimes we must be alone so that we can learn about who we were meant to be. Being "alone" doesn't have to be a punishment - it can be a time of discovery and liberation
The order of NO CONTACT is probably the kindest and wisest Order that could have been rendered. In order for you to get your head out of his addictions and into caring for yourself and your children, No Contact is the only way to get that started and keep it going.
Finally, ask yourself this series of questions: Do you want your children to grow up and choose people who will harm them the way that you've been harmed? What is it that you truly "love" about your husband? Do you "love" his honesty, truthfulness, dependability, unconditional love, support, encouragement, etc? Of course you don't - he doesn't provide any of these things to you or, more importantly, your children. What do you think that your children are learning by watching this disastrous relationship? Are your children learning how to engage in a healthy, loving relationship, or are they learning how to become victims?
Having emerged from a horrific marital situation, myself, I will offer you this with the deepest love and sincerity: IT WILL NEVER GET BETTER and you are responsible only for your own success and happiness, and that of your children. Redeeming your own soul and helping your children to heal from their traumas should be your first priority. Period.
One more website for you to check out, and I strongly recommend this to you: http://www.lovefraud.com
Brightest blessings to you on your healing path.
- Re: husband of 10years 2 kids is a c... ruby claire
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MoreThis is a reply to # 1,917,820Are you feelings sad because you don't want to loose your husband or you don't want to be alone ?
I mean common, i agree that you love him but it does not mean that you should bare so much of pain from him. After all you are also a human being and you to deserve to live a happy life .. if you continue same then just think of the kids and your future...- Re: husband of 10years 2 kids is a c... jurplesman
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Your attachment to your brutal husband may be due to your low self-esteem and lack of self-regard that prevents you from taking control over your life. This low self-regard may stem from a similar metabolic disorder that gives rise to your husband's behaviour and your own submissiveness. To see what you and your husband may have in common, read:
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This is a reply to # 1,917,820sound familar except I have daughter sounds familar with mom too except she had sons and I sum it up to they loved themselves more there crack beer sex c**k suckef ect ect than they love there family and children like Rick james put it best cocaine is a powerful drug. just pray and hope for the best for yourself from now on. No need for toxic zombies in your life they will eat you brain.Stay strong also
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