Re: Sibling molestation

Getting help is a good advise. My mother, now 89 years old, was almost raped by her brother in her teen years. She menaced him of telling their father so he would let her go... but she did not tell. In those days they had a family business, a bakery. Her brother was the first baker and their best one. She thought the business could not do without him and that their father would throw him out of the business and out of home. She could not "do that to their father" . Noone is irreplacable in a business, but all can learn. Who did she really hurt? Their father had responsibility over his household... Her brother did not learn anything from his action that could build him into a real man and later into a better father himself...

And Mom, she still hurts at 89. She still talks about this incident over and over again... and beleives people think of her as a whore... She married being still a virgin. Dad told me. Sexual morality is one of her strenghts but her pain is a weakness she carried for 60+ years. It distorted her self esteem. Objectively: she protected a wrongful person. She protected the bad. This protection never served her brother, on the contrary. Help and discipline, it is true, does not seem, in the present, to be a subject of joy, but of sadness; later on though, it brings to the ones that it has formed peace and justice. Tweet