Thanks for your response, I think you are totally right. It must be Gods will that you came to this forum because I've talked to you before on the Christianity Forum and you always help me there. My husband and I did explain to our son about how damaging his behavior is and can be. We explained to him the consequences of his actions if he does this as an adult too, and what happens to adults in prison for hurting little children. We also have ways to check every website that has been visited on our computer, and ways to block those p 0 r n sites, so if he has seen them, they are not from our computer. I will continue to wrestle in prayer with God for my heart to change. I hate feeling bitter and angry, and at the same time I feel love and compassion ( its very hard to describe). I ask that you keep our family in your prayers too. Thanks for your input and God bless!