Re: Sibling molestation

So, I have now read every single response on this thread. It horrifies me how naive some people are about this situation. May I please give a suggestion. Do not give into the simplicity of denial. That is the easy road. Have the strength and the courage to walk through the storm. By trusting in God only to heal your children and by letting it slide and hoping they will forget your are just fooling yourself.

Your son knew it was wrong. He told her not to tell. That is a sure key of a problem. You have to be strong to save your son's and daughter's life. Get them help. Don't be afraid, don't forget God also gave you a plethera of therapists and self-help groups that deal with this situation. If you sweep this under the rug your daughter could end up feeling unworthy of your love. I still to this day hold resentment with my Mom because when I first told her it had happened I lied and said it only happend once, she listened to me, but did nothing. When I finally told her it happened over the course of 8 years (by the way my brother was 13 when he started raping me) that's when the help came.

You are her parents. You are supposed to protect her, you couldn't then, but you can now. Get her the help that she needs before the wound begins to fester. Don't wait until she has a drug problem or commits suicide to realize you did the wrong thing. And the same with your son. Get him help and if that means he has to go to a boys home to get counselling 24/7 (and not all of them are bad). Your insurance will pay for it. My brother was in therapy for 4 years. It it was the best thing my parents ever did.

Please, trust in God, but also trust in common sense. Get your children help from a trained professional, please before it's too late. Tweet