No it is not in the wrong place. You have to connect with the energy first, and then use sophisticated sensual conversation to earn her trust and coax her into surfing your energy to an ogasm. WE have to condition ourselves to cum together the way Pavlov conditioned a dog to salivate when he rang a bell. But it is mutual conditioning. Yes you can become one of my students. I am writing a book. I have several more in mind. I also need editorial suggestions and help getting it published. My website address is http://www.intimatewisdom.com