So what are you saying? That your relationship is platonic? Platonic is just unacceptable to most men.
How often do you have sex? Very few men are willing to just hold hands and really need to reach ogasm on a regular basis. Some men can be happy with once a month, others need sex several times a week. Everyone has a different libido. It is important for partners to match their libido's.
I am 72 yrs old & the wife is 68, and we both need sex 3 or 4 times a week. If my wife refused my sexual advances, I would soon be on a dating website to find a girlfriend. Most men are just not willing to give up sex to please a woman. That is just the way it is for Manly Men.
If a woman is unwilling to service her man, then perhaps a like minded female partner is in order?