Re: Women: open to non-sexual relationships?

You bring up a very good issue. There is a wonderful book by Sally Tisdale called Talk Dirty to Me. She is an anthropologist who makes a very strong case against traditional p 0 r n. But surprisingly enough she says there needs to be more p 0 r n, not less. She says that the vast majority of the p 0 r n available is made by men for men and the people starring in them are professional sexual athletes. Normal people can't do it. Sally says women need to be making p 0 r n and really cumming so men can get a grip on reality, instead of jacking off to fantasy in LaLa Land.

Lucky is the man who has a woman that will try to duplicate that stuff with him. And/or desperate are the women who are willing to indulge them. Watching that stuff gives ordinary men the impression that is what sex is supposed to be like. It caters to their fantasies and wishful thinking. It causes them to think something is wrong with the women they get involved with, who can't do it. Male p 0 r n stars have huge penises. The men watching p 0 r n, and wishing their girlfriends would have conniptions like the p 0 r n stars, do not.

I know a lady who told her husband that she would be happy to get all excited and make love like the woman in his p 0 r n video, if his cock was as big as the guy who was in the video. When I tried to get my p 0 r no friend to make a video of me really having an ogasm, he said it was boring and nobody would pay to watch it.

The bottom line is, in order for men to get hard, stay hard, and get off, they need for women to put on a show and act like it's a great big deal. But it's not. I can have an ogasm in less than three minutes. I don't make any noise doing it. I barely even move. I have to be very still, concentrate, find the spot, apply the right amount of pressure, and hold my breath. That's all. Men have no interest in strumming their fingers and watching while I do it. That would be too boring. They'd rather watch TV, read the paper, or talk to a buddy on the telephone.

When I let men help, they start jiggling me. I can't keep my finger on the spot. They prevent me from cumming by trying to get me to have a conniption that will turn them on. Sex is all about turning men on and getting them off. To hell with what women want and need to get off. That's too boring. There is nothing in it for women except relief from the grouchy bear who wants his penis touched now, or else he will deal out some consequences. It is disgusting.

And men wonder why so many women would rather not have sex unless they get paid. It ought to be obvious. But men are in denial. I use to think it was an old wives tale that men are interested in one thing and one thing only, their own pleasure, because they always wanted to perform cunnilingus and watch me flop like a fish. Believe me it is a performance. They are after atta boys. If I let them do it, I have to flop like a fish, because they are doing it way too hard and way too fast. It is a dodge pain game. It is exhausting.

May God forbid that a woman be very still, feel for the spot, and apply the right amount of pressure with her clitoris against his tongue to really cum. But women can't do that because men will get bored and tired. Men need action to prove they are fabulous lovers. They will put their hands under your hips and start jiggling you around, trying to get some action going and say that you are frigid if you don't like it because they are interfering with your ogasm.

Man's desire to perform cunnilingus is just a desire to prove they are fabulous lovers and boost their own egos, so they can get it up for themselves, keep it up, and have a powerful ogasm. It is NOT about pleasing women and really making them feel good. If a woman's pleasure was of any genuine interest to men, there would be a demand for self-gratification p 0 r n that produces real ogasms. But there is not market for that. That would be boring.

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