Sex goals for a woman are totally different than sex for a man. Men are happy with humping for a few minutes. Women get frustrated with intercourse.
Women need hugging, kissing, massaging, and finally manual stimulation of her clitoris. The Clitoris is the female equivalent of the Penis Glans. Contrary to internet lore, there are no "Spots" in the vagina to give a woman her ogasm. Intercourse does not give most women the Big O. Some women claim to get ogasms from intercourse, but less than 25% and this is said to be indirectly to the clit.
The Big O depends on oral or manual stimulation of the clitorus. Sex toys such as vibrators can also be used on the clit. ( my wife does not like sex toys and prefers my magic fingers).
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