Men are in a damned if they do, damned if they don't position...
If they care about a woman's ogasm, women say men are only interested in giving women ogasms so they can feed their own egos and get erections from fantasizing that you are wonderful lovers.
If you act like you do not give a hoot about whether or not a woman cums, then you will be a accused of caring about nothing but your own pleasure, which we know is not true. The human sexual condition is pretty pitiful at this stage of evolution.