Re: Women: open to non-sexual relationships?

Me and my sweetie have been together for the better part of 15 years. We still adore each other. The sex part was fairly busy at first, by it slowly dwindled. We've checked with each other and basically felt it made little difference, and gathered it was just a function of age.

I was so not interested in a relationship based on sex, even back in my forties, and right up front I made it clear--if he was having urges, it was his responsibility--if I had them, same same. We needed to deal with them ourselves. No prostitutes though, as if he'd ever, but I didn't know him well yet. We'd be free to ask, but any pressure that indicated to me it was my obligation or something and out the door I'd go. He was free to do the same.

But in the end, it never was an issue for us, and it makes me adore him even more. I had a number of quite unsuccessful relationships pretty much based on sex, in my Marine Corps days, and saw how meaningless those relationships became after the first rush.

We still hold hands, snuggle and kiss (not the drill for gold in your tonsils kind) but enough to still feel connected and loved. I worked hard emotionally to become this kind of person, who when he finally showed up 1) I appreciated his amazing ability to be kind, and 2) I wasn't 'looking' for the right person. I was doing my best to be the right person. If you honestly don't love yourself, but expect others to love you, it kinda ends up that Groucho Marx saying, "I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member.' Why would any one else really want to stay, much less join?

So to answer your question, from my experience, it's totally possible. Tweet