Re: Women: open to non-sexual relationships?

I've had first hand personal experiences that have convinced me mutual simultaneous ogasms are a very realistic possibility, if I could ever find a man with enough courage to relinquish his sense of entitlement, stop counting coup, commit himself to attainment, and go through with it.

It was not ordinary sex, however. It was all day long luxurious lingering body nurturing massaging walking talking intimacy. And we did not need any lube. Not even the time when I was over 50.

I am sixty. Lube is a huge red flag to me. I only used it when I was in a hurry to get sex over with and the men I was sexing were in a hurry to have it with me. Those days are gone, thank GOD. Being in a hurry to make sex happen conveys a sense of urgency that is as much of an obstacle to sexual satisfaction as is a sense of entitlement.

Sure I can have an ogasm with a cock inside me while I apply the vibrator to my hood, if the man can be still and keep a hard on. But a cucumber is more reliable.

There is also a way for a man to tune into my sexual energy, and vice versa, if we can align his sexual energy with my twitch, and stroke and pause tenderly, gently and persistently, checking in with each other to make sure we are still together and both ready, holding back if the other one is not ready, then a mutual simultaneous ogasm can be coordinated in a call and response fashion like a football player saying up and someone tossing the ball.

It is also much like surfing the wave of sexual energy. You have to stay connected to it or you will fall off. Most men don't even ever get on, and they are so excited to be inside a woman that they eagerly thrusting way to hard and way to fast for her to keep up. The vagina has to go numb.

Most men cannot get or keep a hard on without vigorous thrusting. It is great exercise, but it is like using a bull dozer in an archaeological dig. And you destroy the evidence of an ogasm, even if it occurs. If you have a small enough cock that the thrusting doesn't hurt and turns her on, she will be left in a miserable state of tumescence. The best that can happen for the person enduring is a sense of relief that it's over. That is why I am not interested in most men.

Men with big cocks tend to be a lot more gentle than men with small cocks because they know they can hurt a woman and she will want to stop if that happens. I had some hope when I was young and of child bearing age, if I could find a man with a big cock, who seemed like me might be courageous enough to stay on task until the job was done. But saucer eyes when I started juicing up and getting ready to cum precedes abandonment of the task.

Now that I am post menopausal and I cannot handle a big cock any more from all the scar tissue left behind from an STD being dumped into me, I would feel nothing but assaulted by all these little guys who are trying to compensate for their dick size by pounding like jack hammers. So I don't want to do it any more. It is truly pitiful. Tweet