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I agree with you as well and I should be more clear when I refer to *corrupt religion* for lack of a better term. When a religion says to "honor/respect thy mother and father" I believe it comes with an implied duty of parents to treat their children the same way. All things unearned are eventually paid for, and if someone abuses those who show them honor and respect, I believe they will eventually pay for it in some way. With great power (over children) comes great responsibility, and not all parents are responsible.

My focus was that this girl should not be automatically written off as unjustified as other posters stated (some in the name of religion) just because she is the daughter of a parent. There is so much abuse of children and to make all kids feel responsible and guilty regardless of what their parents did or did not do... that's just abusing parental/adult power over powerless children. Parents raise kids, kids do not raise themselves. This girl should not feel guilty for anything that she is not guilty of. She should not carry mental burdens of feeling responsible for things that she did not cause. Only she can judge for herself who is responsible, and she has to live with her decision.

Forgiveness too is a double edged sword. Some people are healed by forgiving others, but for some it just prolongs suffering by not addressing the issue with the wrongdoer. It can give them excuse to repeat the wrong because they expect that they will be forgiven again. Some people forgive themselves. Some move on by saying "I do not and will never forgive you for what you did to me. I am moving on and am leaving with you the burden that you placed on me. I am free and I hope (or not) you can get through your burden" Bottom line is I think forgiveness has very different meanings for different people, and each person's interpretation dictates how it can be used to heal them. This also applies to the wrongdoer - a wrongdoer may see forgiveness as weakness or as a reason to not change their wrongful ways.
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