My thankful message was intended as a response to the first presentation you posted, for some reason it showed up as a response to the second one. After 25 years of computer forums, one might think these types of errata should not be extant.... cieste la vie   [End]
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Wow, that sure explains a lot of what I’ve observed. Thanks for sharing it.   [End]
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Narcissist, Psychopath, or Sociopath: How to Spot the Differences [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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Surviving the Female Narcissist: A Deconstruction by Richard Grannon [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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yeah, a matter of practical reality. You have a lot to contribute, could do it here, but the e would be nil. Its time investment with no return, maybe youre goodd, but I’m still gathering acorns Be well, thanks for all you shared LM,   [End]
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I'm following your advice Vulcanel, I'm not going to post here anymore.  Actually, I won't be on curezone much at all.   [End]
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Before cz can ever be a viable website again, it would need to do a parasite flush, and remove the repulsive worm in its bowel. Ii’d be surprised right now if it registers 60k a month, whereas previously no less than 300k, b/c its dominated by , the amazing factor that a single whacko can be so powerfully repulsive. Its a great lesson for those interested in online dynamics of human interaction. Until the worm is expelled, suggestion is that better exposure to your helpful ideas find more fertile ground elsewhere. As usual, just my opinion, and I might be wrong.   [End]
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You are brilliant also. I don’t have anything all figured out, maybe some bits and pieces are helpful. I try to be contributory. It is a cold and numb place to be, after these traumas, the person is many times, all alone basically. If the answers were easy, it would have been figured out a long time ago. What always helped me, was to get my mind off the topic, focus on something else. But the negative always creeps back in, like when you rest or lay down to sleep. For me, eventually with time, I was able to shift my attention to other things long enough that the negatives jus ...
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HAHAHAHA!  Actually, I've gone through all those stages, especially the............. How could I have been so stupid phase. Actually, Vulcanel, you are brilliant with the way you have dissected this.  But we'll have to agree to disagree on the healing part.  Some people can go through those phases and then heal on their own.  But, some people can't and they develop anxiety, PTSD, or other conditions that are quite complex.  And they cannot get over it on their own.  They need help.  Now, keep in mind, I am not this help they need.&nbs ...
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We are all victims of someone, or some thing. But, we have the Love of God behind us, and we are free to choose to let the past control our future. Some of us have gotten past what others have done to us. Some others have not. I pray to our Great Father, to help Luella May assist those who haven’t put their past traumas inflicted by others, behind them, so they can move forward with God’s plan for their lives. What a great life we all have, what great opportunities await us all, Lord, I pray, to remove the blinders put on your children by their past experiences, I pray s ...
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:) Glad you noticed that. Its a serious matter for people involved in it. I already shared my ”hard love” viewpoint. Its not so much what I believe, but rather, why I believe what I believe. Being an old person, the why part about it, could take a lot of writing !! First point is, victims need to maybe consider Jesus’ message of Love, forgiveness. Forgive the perpetrator, forgive the narcissist. Maybe that could be the banner message. I’ve seen some claiming to be Christian, who have called me many names. It only shows in reality, they haven’t got Christ’s message, but ...
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Have you read both my blogs and watched my video?  By the way, from my research that has been in depth, only a narcissist will call someone else a narcissist, but don't take offense. I am not going to defend myself and I am not going to explain why I don't show any "wounds" when I write but, if you saw my video, I do show them and describe them. And, by the way, in other venues, I have gotten comments from victims of narcissistic abuse that I am "spot on." If you would like to contribute as to what you have gone through, as a victim o ...
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Maybe you and Luella May can team up, and help people who haven’t gotten beyond the victim mentality. We are all given free will, help others to unlock themselves, there are many existing resources for this. If starting a new forum, maybe look at what some others have done on this topic, so as to not re-invent the wheel. Internet forums are somewhat limited in their effectiveness, but a little bit is better than nothing I suppose. Maybe facebook or yahoo would give you more exposure, have you tried looking on there for any existing, similar groups ? If so, maybe you can join up and ...
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You have not dealt with a narcissist. Its clear by the things you say. A narcissist is more than just a person who is stick on themself. I can’t explain to you what happens when a person ends up in a relationship with a narcissist because I know you wouldn’t understand. Beefing up your ride and going on about your business because everything is just fine isn’t something that you would be doing if you were in a relationship with a narcissist, I promise you. And its not about being a victim. Its about finding someone who truly understands because they have actually gone through it. It is a t ...
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      In today's blog, I am going to talk about the methods a narcissist uses to control you.   Well, first they have to reel you in.   How do they do that? By Love Bombing you     [End]
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hahaha, good luck on the victim thing. Narcissism forum will get nothing but a bunch of crybabies, complaining about how they’ve been ”wronged”. But, I know a lot of women who first would never get involved with someone too much into themselves, and others who walked away or ran, fast. If you think about it, blaming others, is of no value, we all make our choices and complaining about them, only reflects on ourselves. we are not perfect, so don’t take it personally. People make mistakes. Lamenting about it, may be therapeutic in the short term but with time it will pass and ...
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Well, dear ones, this is my very first video on my youtube channel.  I can't figure out how to embed it, so this is the link.  I will be covering all sorts of topics in future videos, involving narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths, and how we can heal from the trauma we have undergone. Oh, this video is a bit dark, but I will fix that in future videos.   [End]
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Oh, Dearest Trapper,   Me too.  And that is why I am starting a blog and a youtube channel on the subject.    In fact, I'm going to put up my first video on this forum in a short while.  I am doing this on other venues too,  I want to get the word out.  Actually, I found out that I have been a victim of narcissistic abuse my entire life through a random video that came up.  Actually, I kind of went into shock for about two days. As to your question.........  Why have you been always drawn to narcissist?  Because you ...
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as a serial victim of narcissists i have to ask myself what it is about me that draws them and makes me fall for them and/or put up with it? recognizing a narcissist is easy, but ignoring them like the piece of wood they see everyone else as is hard. its hard exactly because im not a narcissist. in fact, im the opposite. and maybe thats why they see me as easy prey. be well, kiddo.   [End]
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Red Flags [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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Master Manipulators [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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Advice for Strong Relationships from Jordan Peterson [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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Jordan B Peterson: How to Salvage a Relationship, and When to End It Jordan [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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I went back and read more of your post and you are in deep trouble with this man. You mentioned that you were diagnosed with PTSD, anxiety, etc., and that you’re now agoraphobic. Do you have any ideas of where the PTSD is rooted? NO NEED TO ANSWER on this forum - just sit and contemplate this in your own time. What has happened is that the situation that you married into sounds as if it is a toxic and triggering environment, and this man is playing you against yourself. He is aware of your issues and vulnerabilities because you trusted him and told him. Now, he’s using those vu ...
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First of all, I could not get through your volumes of concerns. It's too long for one post, and this tells me a couple of very important facts about your situation. You are very upset, very afraid, and working like a fiend to keep this ill-fated marriage together. This also tells me that you would benefit from some individual counseling therapy and, perhaps, separate from your spouse while you sort some of this out for yourself.  What he does, what his family does, what his friends do.....you do not have control over any of this.  You only have control over your own ch ...
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I have been with my husband for 4 years. We got married at City Hall 2 years ago and had the big party last year. At first, we clicked because we thought we really shared the same values and vision for the future. We used to joke and brag about never fighting for the first year we spent together. We moved from Europe to the West Coast really quickly, we traveled a lot, supported each other in our career growth. We were really making each other better. I was very career driven and an overachiever before I met him, A bit naive and idealist also. I grew up with Disney movies and was alway ...
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The Development of Aggression, ADHD and Antisocial Personality by Dr. Jordan B. Peterson. [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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Hey, I am in a similar (carbon copy) situation as described by Domino. The only difference is that my Husband of 16 years has failed to see through his family’s antics. He has actually tried to take me for counselling for our ’martial problems’. Unfortunately, it took me 16 years to realize what I am dealing with. I now know that clinical psychology has a name for this family dynamics. However, I am still not sure which way would my husband switch. A loose reference by me to him being manipulated by his family send him into a furious rage. Seems I am riding a blind mad horse and also ...
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This is a very nice video! A lot to learn for many of you posting questions in this forum! 6 Strong Signs You Have Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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Very educational, short video. You may recognize some sociopathic trends in some of the people you know. 5 Signs You’ve Met a Sociopath But Just Don’t Know It [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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Knowing Narcissism. Crucial Information about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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I Let My Husband Rape Me, and Here’s Why… If you consent once, you’ve consented forever, right? I mean, how is he supposed to know if I don’t want to anymore? If someone had told me that just because I’m sleeping in the same room with a penis, that doesn’t make me obligated to have sex with it—or that I could actually say yes one time, no the next time, and yes another time—I would have thought they had lost their marbles. Men have uncontrollable, biological needs. I knew that much. Shortly after, I found out I was pregnant. I didn’t love the guy. I hardly knew him, really, but ...
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7 Things That Terrify Narcissists To Their Core | Conscious Reminder [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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7 Painful Truths Empaths Must Eventually Face About Narcissists [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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6 Strong Signs You Have Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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Why Narcissists Are So Cruel To You But Kind To Everyone Else [Video Embedded Here]   [End]
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By NATALIE SANDERS, editor@waynesvilledailyguide.com There is an army out there serving children who have been abused. This army doesn’t carry guns, wear camouflage, have ranking officers, or even receive a paycheck, but they are a secret weapon, at least for the children who are part of their biker family. Bikerss Against Child Abuse (BACA) welcomes children who have been abused and are navigating the court system into their family. BACA children are welcomed into the family with a ceremony that begins with the roar of motorcycles rumbling down the street. Like a calvary, the group ...
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Hello there! I know this is an old post, but It hit me so hard like a ton of bricks! I cried when I read it last night, I re-read it to my sister just now, and boo hood again!. I am so sorry about what you’ve had to live through. I see my situation so perfectly through your story. A bit of variation of course, each family is different, but on the whole, the same crap I’ve been dealing with for 13 years. The mother (my mother in law) (even though Im not really legally married to my narc), is the supreme ”narc being” in the family. The dad (father in law) is semi narc and has no say i ...
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Thanks so much for the feedback and advice soulful survivor. I do think I need some professional help for sure. I’ve hit rock bottom and feel no emotion anymore, just numb and sadness. Thank God we have no children together...him 2 girls from previous relationships, me, 2 wonderful grown men from previous relationship. I don’t think they much like him too much but try to ”get along” for moms sake. I do not burden my family with my problems but I’m sure they are aware that I’m not happy and a totally different person over these last 10 years. I am going to read all the links you’ve so kind ...
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I’m so sorry to read of your situation. You didn’t mention any children, so it’s a blessing if, in fact, there are no children involved in this relationship. www.thehotline.com www.familyarrested.com http://www.crosswalk.com/family/marriage/step-off-the-jekyll-and-hyde-rollercoaster-ending-emotional-abuse-11601885.html http://www.livestrong.com/article/74291-leave-verbally-abusive-relationship-forever/ https://www.breakthecycle.org/blog/leaving-emotionally-abusive-relationship Ending a marriage with a disordered individual requires hitting the bottom of Life’s barrel. W ...
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Hello, I am new to this forum and really have never done this before, but I am so needing support of people who understand. I’ve been married to my husband going on 10 years...once I found out he was cheating on me(8 yrs into the marriage) and trying to find out why, I come across narcissistic and this is him to a tee. I never even kne what it was and oh my god!!!! I immediately filed for divorce when I found out about the cheating but yea, he put on the charm and reeled me back in. Now we’re going on 10 years and everything is all about him and his world and he just don’t care about me, ...
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Nice! Very interesting read   [End]
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......he wins.  And, that’s all that this fellow is interested in:  winning.  If you are experiencing extreme anxiety from this, it might be a very good option to consider some counseling therapy just to help you get your bearings straight, and to learn coping and management techniques.  Once your confidence increases as you gain management of this anxiety and fear, you response (or, non-resopnse) will be comfortable and he won’t matter. For now, ANY response will be giving him what he wants.  I read that you’re unable to block all of his emails, and t ...
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Domino, I can’t begin to describe how empowering and liberating it was for me to stumble up on this website and specifically your post. This was five years ago. How are things now? I too married into a Narc family and Dear God it’s been hell for the past 11+ years of our marriage. It would be so helpful for me to learn more about your journey since distancing yourself and setting very necessary and healthy boundaries. I did the same--refuse to spend wknd or holidays with my husband’s family about 5 yrs ago and it went over like a lead ballon. It’s bad. There have been two failed marr ...
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www.thehotline.com You are living in an abusive relationship and your children are learning how to be abusive by watching the interactions between you and their father. White Shark is spot-on.  Get out, regardless of money.  Money will not ever buy this man a conscience, nor will it ever buy you and your children safety.  There are agencies and organizations that will help you and your children to get on your feet.  Additionally, avoid ALL relationships for a couple of years after you’ve been legally divorced.  Get involved in some counseling ...
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The best you can do is to totally ignore him and his emails and attempts to contact you. There is no other way to keep him away from you but a court order, and for a court order you need more than just a few emails. WS   [End]
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The answer is yes ... he is a psychopath and a narcissist. He is not a good man, not good to you or to your kids ... and it will get worse. Run for your life while you still have some life! That man is not good for you! WS   [End]
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15 years ago I was emotionally victimized by a sociopath/narcissist after what I originally thought was a romantic relationship. It was a truly horrible experience, but I eventually healed and moved on with my life. But every few years he resurfaces in hopes of reeling me in again. Emails, phone calls. I’ve never picked up the phone or answered the emails but it stirs up my trauma all over again and takes weeks or months for it to subside. I’ve moved away and have a new unlisted number, but due to my career I am very visible on social media and the internet. He is impossible t ...
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Hello. I’m in a desperate situation, married since 6 years with 2 children ( 8 m and 3 y). The life with my husband is at the moment a living hell. I want to divorce him but I can’t because of financial reason( he is the provider and I’m a home staying mom) and because I’m afraid I will loose my children duo his lies and manipulation. I’m also in his country with few friends but no family. His family support him and believe all the lies he is telling them. His parents even have pushed me away in our apartment a few days ago, while having my daughter in the arms. I can’t tell nobody about t ...
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Once again, the "holiday season" is upon us and abusers have available countless opportunities and excuses to perpetrate more frequent and severe episodes of domestic violence and abuse against their victims.  Domestic violence/abuse includes:  emotional violence, verbal violence, physical violence, religious/spiritual abuse, financial abuse, and sexual abuse.  Domestic violence and abuse has no cultural, religious, sexua| orientation, ethnic, or economic boundaries.  There is no stereotype or profile for domestic violence to ex ...
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Weary, I’m so sorry for your experiences.  Its sounds as if there are a number of toxic dynamics going on in this "family," from the MIL to the husband and on to the step-son.  There is absolutely nothing that you can do to "save" this marriage.  You can only "save" yourself.  If, by chance, your own personal changes promote positive effects upon the relationships, then that’s terrific and the marriage may become healthier, in due time.  However, from what you typed, there is a reason that the first marriage ended in divorc ...
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My husband and I have been married for a year and 6 months and it’s been the most awful experience in my life with my MIL, her immediate family knows exactly how she is but like everything I’ve read so far, no they can’t change her. My husband has spoken nicely to cussing and yelling, when he does cuss and yell she’ll ask him why he’s talking to her that way, he responds because you are not listening and understanding only hearing me. She does very nice things for you then uses it against you. She moves everything in our home from where I had it. The biggest problem besides touching thing’ ...
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Well.......I did contact this woman via an assertive (NOT angry) written message to indicate to her that returning gifts and criticizing / complaining about what was gifted is 100% unacceptable in this country.  I also pointed out that grandparents are held in high esteem to do for their grandchildren as and how they can.  I stated that she needed to contact me using her own email account, or Skype account, or even using her own cell phone, but that my son should not be the go-between. I received an outrageous rant, this morning, from this woman.  It was accusatory, u ...
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Thanks so much, BlueRose - it just is what it is, and there is absolutely nothing that I can do.  Even contacting ICE won’t have much impact because they’re legally married, and that’s how she got into the U.S.  She didn’t come over on a work visa, and that’s enough of a red flag, right?  Now that she’s going to have a baby next month, that’ll be the final thing that she’ll need to finish her task. I did a lot of research on this when this woman’s behavior began to change, suddenly.  Of course, I was verrrrry dubious about the whole thing from the beginning, but ...
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Hi, SS I’m so sorry to hear that you are going through this. Another poster suggested contacting the authorities with your concerns about this being a sham marriage. The appropriate agency to call is ICE. Other than that, there isn’t much more you can do. You expressed your concerns to your son and he didn’t take your advice. At least you tried---that’s the important part. ICE tends to take green card fraud seriously. Plus stories abound about men marrying a foreign woman who is only in it for the green card. These women, at some point, try to provoke the husband into as ...
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Thank you for the input, and I believe that I'm sticking with my intuition, here.  In the past 5 years, I've done some serious personal recovery and realignments of my personal beliefs and effort to remain objective.  The facts are the facts, and my youngest son is overwhelmed by the "possibility" that his sister-in-law "could be" a scammer.  He acknowledges that this woman is behaving very badly, and has behaved very badly in the past. Emotionally, I'm very sad about this situation - it's sad on every level and the baby is, indee ...
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Yes, I believe it to be a scam to bring her family over. The baby is probably not your sons anyway. The problem is the law won’t care who’s child it is. Nothing you can do other than tell your son what you think.   [End]
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I have seen this scenario too many times. She either is trying to scam you for money in the future or plans to bring her entire family to the US when she has her green card. In Jordan this happens all the time. You may just have to back away and allow your son to handle this and fall. Then help him stand up again afterwards. Sometimes we push too hard and lose our sons. I don’t get along with my son’s wife and she caused major problems and he like your son will choose the one he loves. It is illegal in the US to marry under false pretense. If she married illegally to just get ...
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To clarify:  after the woman had contacte my younger son, and myself, she deleted both her FB page and her Skype account, and now communicates with her mother in Russia via some sort of Russian Skype Equivalent. Suddenly, after the complaints, everything was wonderful. During the Skype and FB communications, she asked about my eldest son's past and steroid use and clearly stated that they had been trying to concieve a baby, but had been unsuccessful.  THEN, when she came up pregnant a few months ago, my eldest son said that the pregancy was completely unexpect ...
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Right.  I feel that I "know" that there is something seriously wrong, but I’d like feedback and insight just to affirm my intuition, on this. My eldest son has tried to make a turnaround, but he’s still Borderline, and always will be.  After his second marriage ended, he immediately hooked up with a young woman from Russia, online.  He claims that they met on a political chat board, but I don’t believe that any more than the moon is made of green cheese.  Regardless, he went to Moscow on 3 occasions to hook up with this woman and finally brought her ove ...
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Bruised, I’m so sorry that you’ve experienced this.  I would like to suggest that you take advantage of every service available through "Victims’ Services."  If the police were involved, he will face criminal charges that have nothing to do with you.  I would also strongly urge you to file for a restraining order and POA (Protection Of Abuse).  You can do this through the civil court and an advocate from Victims’ Services will help you through the entire process, from filing and everything else.  Lastly, I would encourage you get invol ...
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What Dr.? He’s a Mr. Hyde!!! Sorry you are going through this : ( After this get a restraining order on him, then DON”T take him back. Dump the chump!!   [End]
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First time post on here. I’ve known for probably the last 6 mo that he is a sociopath. Lies, cheating, tries to make me feel insane. About 2 months ago we got in an argument and lots of shoving took place, police called and he moved out. Of course, 11 days later he writes a long email and I took him back. Last night I confronted him over a ”girly” lotion in his car and here we go again. Lies, changed his story...rage when confronted with the truth. Then the violence started. I was punched in the face, bloodied my mouth. Arms twisted, pushed, held down. Then when I ran outside, he ...
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I think you need to seek psychological help. You are judging people with your ego and not the facts. Judging in general is a bad habit exercised by people who are not willing to accept the truth or who don’t bother to find out the truth. There are a lot of Narcissists in the world today. Many more than ever existed. Part of the reason is that people have no defined morale code and no idea of what their life purpose is. These people live free and boundless as if it were all about them. It’s called ”Confirmation Bias”. Meaning that people seek out proof they are right not evidenc ...
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Stay away from them as far as possible. You can’t change other people. All you can do is avoid those who you don’t need in your life. WS   [End]
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How does one deal with sociopathic parents and siblings once you realized they have sabotaged your entire, gaslighting, fake caring amd smearing you behind your back? What do you do once you realize after 50 years that you woke up?   [End]
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#207067, I'm sorry to read of your confusion and angst.  You mentioned that the father and your partner seem to have Asperger's, and I'm curious if either of them have been diagnosed.  Not that it matters, but extreme narcissism can present as various conditions and disorders, and a true narcissist can alter themselves with intensive counseling therapy and guidance, but there must be a personal willingness to take this course.  There is no medication, wish, negotiation, shaman, essential oil, supplement, cleanse, or religious epiphany that will zap someone out ...
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Reading some of the posts on here has made me really start to wonder about my own situation. Wow! I’m dating a woman whose family is incredibly religious, very controlling (although they would never admit it) and seem to be involved in every facet of her life. I came into her life during a divorce, and due to that timing, coupled with the very Christian (Lutheran) background, I’ve been ridiculed ’nicely’ by her father at every turn. He has got to be the most difficult person I’ve ever met: Arrogant, opinionated, judgmental and seems to possess some belief systems that I consider borde ...
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Why would my beautiful daughter Marry a man like this ... And then go on to have three kids he is a narcissist sociopaths he devoured my daughter self-esteem and He is now moved on and doing it to his children she’s left him and is living here with us my husband And I but there has been so much damage to these kids already I don’t know how to deal with my grandkids anymore ! When I used to go to my daughters house to help and visit I was more like the happy go lucky grandma who played with them but now that they are living here I understand what my daughter was trying to tell me that the m ...
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Nothing staying home in the evening but I thought I would come by and bring you present Name Of Stone INFORMATION ON STONE Agate Agate is good protective energy stone, especially for children, and is very calming and soothing. It also can help strengthen the body’s connection to the earth. It can give courage, energy, strength, and dispels fears, all of which increase self-confidence. It can also lessen feelings of envy by grounding the emotions. It is a stone of harmony, and by bringing the elements of one’s being into harmony it greatly enhances healing. Agate also enhances cr ...
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I have just left my boyfriend of 3 full years and my best friend of 5 or 6 and reading this post has been a flashback into the incredible pain and abuse I felt during that time in my life. I am struggling to stay away because I truly, with all my heart, fell in love with their son. It took me this long to realize that he cannot have more than a superficial relationship because of almost 30 years of mental abuse and although I pity him and his inability to separate himself from his family, I can no longer subject myself to this. For so long, he could not even recognize or admit to himself ...
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Dawn! I believe that everyone is choosing his/her parents before they are born. You have chosen her because this is what you had to experience to learn and to grow. This is one of your life lessons and you need to face it and accept it. Acceptance meaning accept the fact but does not mean you have to stay in this. Or i should rather say acknowledgement.. I did vipassana meditation for a while (stopped a while ago because i got my first child) which i started because i had a similar relationship with my mum for decades! After she died in cancer i was left with a lot of emotional impuritie ...
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I’m so , so sorry to hear about all the emotional abuse you are enduring. I was married to a narc for 13 years, and try as I may I was never able to see a clear path until I got out of the forest. No matter how hard I tried to work on myself I just lived in a world of confusion, doubt and crazy until I changed my environment. Best to you   [End]
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This is my family too. I divorced after a 24 year marriage and it was like a chocalite morsel to the deprived. They loved adding to my pain and stirring up drama. I actually moved away and for my own healing, stayed away from all of them. Of course, they made up all sorts of juicy reasons why (none true). It took several years to see from a distance how much stress they added to my life. All mine are ”good church going southern baptists” ..... My faith is me and my Bible, a group of ladies I study with, a few Christian radio programs and that’s all. Still healing from the damage of my nar ...
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I married into a family with narcissists also. And they all attend church faithfully, unless they want to be vindictive towards the pastor, at which point they will try to cancel services. So I understand what you are saying.   [End]
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If your mother and father loved you an any normal sense, and did not beat, starve, scare, give you silent treatment, refuse to share proper affection, micromanage, and otherwise abuse you sufficiently; or if you were not picked on and bullied enough by other children when you were young; then you are probably not to that degree of narcissist which will amount to much. Unfortunately your brand of narcissism is nothing more than compensating for what you lack in other areas of your life. One solution for you might be to team up with a pathological narcissist as a business partner - wasn’t th ...
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Dogo36, I am sorry that you're having these experiences and that a child is involved.  Are there issues of domestic violence or abuse involved in this relationship?  Is this a relationship with a contract of marriage involved?  What are the impacts upon your son with regard to your partner's behaviors?  Is your son acting-out in school? The issues with "narcissism" are myriad and many point to this behavior as being a "symptom" of deeper conditions like sociopath/psychopath.  The revision of the DSM-V has actually noted that &qu ...
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Hi! I have a child with what i believe to be an undiagnosed narcissist/sociopath. i have read tons on the subject and even got so desperate i had a counselling session over the phone and was advised to discuss things with a dr as my childs safety and well being are important and it is better safe than sorry. after a couple more months i again felt i had reached my wits end and took up thiis advice. the first dr i discussed it with was ok and gave me another appointment with the clinics ’mental health expert’ this i attended and while i was giving him the back ground on why i believed my pa ...
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Keep going, Dawn. CE’s are so helpful if you are having such symptoms. Don’t worry about leaching minerals, etc. Keep eating as well as you can. If you can’t afford supplements, keeping your minerals up is as easy as getting some Celtic Sea Salt (gray salt) and having a teaspoon or two over the course of the day with your food, or stirred into some water and sipped with food. Your mother is toxic. She is therefore keeping you toxic. Abusive relationships are so powerful this way. Also, I believe that what happens in our bodies reflects what is going on outside and can show us wh ...
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100% of all women are narcissists, and maybe about half or less of men are. What we see as an increasing trend are sexy thin narcissistic women in the media making all sorts of money and garnering social status while having essentially no skill or traits to offer society. The same goes for some men but to a lesser extent, for reasons to be explained later. So I was wondering today how this came to be from an evolutionary viewpoint, and it seems rather simple. Narcissism must be a survival trait. With nothing to offer except sexy and thin looks, these women must instinctively re ...
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What a nasty and arrogant posture to take when someone makes a suggestion that doesn’t fit into your personal processes. This isn’t about you. Pot meet kettle. Almost everything in you post was projection. The one thing we agree on is she needs to get out of the situation. I do agree though that you have taken a posture, so you might want to reflect on that before giving out advice, or trying to prevent others from giving advice. Also you have now mde this personal by bringing words like arrogant and nasty in, which sort of confirms my suspicion all along that you’re proecti ...
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Iodineperson, you wrote, "Anyway I find it a little disturbing that you would try to stop Dawn's progress," and it is untrue.  I'm not trying to "stop" anything.  Your response is about your being "right," and not allowing for a balance in protocols and personal recovery.  What makes you believe that you know what I have or have not done for my personal health?  How do you assume to know what would or wouldn't be of help to me?  Did you read any of the other responses that reflected a concern that "Dawn" could a ...
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I also believe that you are well-intentioned, but you are off the mark. First of all this was cross posted into the parasite forum. And as such I am going to give my advice whether you agree or not. It’s very good advice and will help Dawn to actually take steps to resolve the situation as opposed to comfort food which you are offering her; it has its place so I’m glad you are supportive in that regard, but it ain’t going to get the job done. I am well aware of what the psychiatric profession is up to these days, which is all the more reason I posted what I did, to support Dawn in a ...
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Iodinelmnop, I believe that you are well-meaning with your "advice," here, but it may be helpful to read the entire mind-body-spirit message of the original poster.  Telling people what they should or should not do are deep waters to tread in the event that we are making improper mandates to people, online.  We cannot see these people with our own eyes - we cannot hear the tone of their voices, view their body language, or palpate their lymph nodes for swelling.  We only have typed words to go by without any actual data to confirm or refute self-diagnosis, ...
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It’s all normal. Keep up with the CE’s. You can always take a break and then go back or change up the frequency to 1 every few days, 1 per week, or 1-2 per day as you see fit. Sometimes people need to add salt to their water to help electrolyte balance. If you have the energy start to formulate a plan to live independently.   [End]
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Please provide evidence that CE’s hurt gut flora or deplete minerals. If anything the opposite is true, since as you say they were designed for cancer patients (which is untrue, just because Gerson used them as part of the protocol it doesn’t mean they were designed for cancer patients - look in the Merck manual circa 1900 and you will see coffee enemas as a veritable cure-all for many diseases). Colonics can sometimes deplete people of minerals because of the volume of water that is involved. Enemas are typically done with 1 - 1.5 liters of fluid, which is not enough to deplete anyt ...
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Seems like she is a dark triad individual. narcissist - self obsession Machiavellian - manipulative psychopath- shallow emotional responses https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dark_triad There are only 2 ways to deal with such a person: 1)walk away 2)fight dirty I highly suggest you leave her and stay somewhere else. Move in with your father, stepmother, brother, etc. Anyone other than her. Just leave her, she doesn’t care about you. Being with such a person is a mental and emotional torture. She is causing you a lot of mental stress which diminishes the body’s ability to heal and ...
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I hear you :-) i personally got burnt from doing too much coffee enemas. They have their benefits, but things to remember - they were originally designed for cancer patients and overtime they can depleted your body from essential minerals as well as hurt the gut flora. I suffered from serious candida most of my life, and the key point for me when I actually started to heal was when I started to keep things simple. The good news is that you have a great spirit and strong passion to heal - that is the most important thing. :-)   [End]
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Hey Soulful, Thank you for your kind, warm response! It’s difficult for me to reconcile that I have two selves: the seeing self who is very aware of her abusiveness, and the feeling self who falls full victim to it. I don’t really know how I can leave. I can try asking my father if he can afford to help me with an apartment while I look for programs and seek a job. I will do this because you have convinced me to try again. About the coffee enemas. Is just one a day excessive, then? I have an extremely toxic body. I expel parasites and Candida every time I do an enema. If I don’t ...
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I am terribly sorry that you've had such a terrible time, particularly with a very diseased parent. First of all, you did not have a choice in whom your parent(s) would be.  You had no control over this and you do not have control over how your mother behaves, treats you, makes choices and decisions, etc.......she is what she is.  You did NOTHING to "deserve" this, either.  It's just what everyone experiences with the Human Condition.  Not to minimize your experiences and current health issues, but it is not uncommon in such an environment of ...
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Hi all, I’m feeling very bummed out and I need all of your help and advice. I’m sorry this is so long, but it would mean so much to me if even one person read it and responded: I’m 19 years old. I live with a Borderline/Narcissistic mother. Even though I’m aware that the things she says and does to me or tells others about me are measures of manipulation used to weaken me and continue exploiting me for attention--my father cried hearing a recording of the true side she shows only me and my therapist said she was ”very sick”--I can’t help but let the things she says fill me with fear ...
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WOW. First I want to say thank you for taking the time to write your experience. It really helps those of us trying to make sense of very similar family dynamics. Your story was so similar to mine that it was scary. I think the thing that people do not understand is how these people totally try and destroy your self image. I came from an abusive childhood. My mother was very abusive when I was young. I feel in some ways it made me strong. I feel very intensely other people’s pain and problems and I find that I am good at helping people. I am however too loyal, WAY too generous and sens ...
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Yeah, my father was a spineless jellyfish too. Not only did he live with a narcissist sociopath (my mother)but he also allowed his mother and sisters to steal his inheritance money, thereby condemning all 4 of his children to a life of destitute poverty! What a fraud he was! sonofagun   [End]
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I agree. It’s unsettling -- when discovering how awful life is with this type. Just plain awful. I chose to stay. For a bit. Now, I am free of him and happy for it. It took a good three years of planning to an extent, to break away. He is a pitiful thing. He is now using our adult daughter to show new ”friends” how normal and happy his life is with what is left of his family. She wants nothing to do with him either. And he just doesn’t get it. He never will. He will be angry with her for not bending to his demands. And that is it. That is what life was l ...
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I don’t agree with you, when one has to go through the pain of divorce life becomes very difficult and one can’t just forgive the partner. I am going through divorce and fighting for justice with the help of divorce lawyer Fairfax, VA and will win for sure.   [End]
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I’m trying to move on with something in my life but can’t figure out how to take steps forward. When I hit high school a close childhood friend of mine went through some rough things including dropping out of school, drug abuse, jail time, foster homes and sexual abuse. I was in a serious relationship at the time still am five years now and this childhood friend of mine had always had a crush on me and while we talked I didn’t feel comfortable being there for him as much as I would have liked too. Things got worse when he was diagnosed with cancer. It was hard because this was years later ...
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i used to like being alone because i didn’t feel safe around others. haven’t had a real friend in abt 30 years. since ~20 yrs of therapy now i’d rather have a real life with friends and normal activities.   [End]
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never going to happen   [End]
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