people offered suggestions on how to approach your problem with this kid and you took every helpful remark as a personal insult and threw up defenses because you believe that you have all the answers and used the forum as a vehicle to complain about your stepdaughter. it's not the kid that has the problem. you hate this kid so much that its shameful and clearly comes across even in your posts. it's one thing to dislike someone but your hatred and loathing of this kid is thick enough to cut with a knife! and her own father could care less about making sure she gets help that she needs and is waiting for someone else to take care of his responsibility. why did you marry this guy in the first place knowing that there were suicide and bipolar issues with his exwife? if you are as educated as you insist you would have considered what his child might be suffering from before you got married knowing that bipolar disorder and Depression can be genetic. my god this kid is eight years old. didn't you make behavioral mistakes when you were that young or were you textbook perfect? where is your compassion for this kid? i have to guess that this kid is not what you bargained for when you married your husband and now you're having second thoughts about your decision.