One more thing I want to say to that I just posted, I have two other children, did not experience that with either of them ever. Our lives were ripped wide open and apart from the destruction my youngest brought into our home, it was not that he was not understood or not given special time etc. He would try to manipulate the whole family to the degree my other two left home as soon as they turned 18 because they couldn't handle the stress of the situation, however, they were both always involved in visits and counseling as much as they could for the support of their brother, they love him very much.