Re: replying back to: Need Insight

Hi,
Thank you sooo very much for your reply.
It happened twice once in June and once in August. He said it was just "sex" nothing more nothing less. I want so badly to believe him, but understandable that is difficult to do right now. I know it was partially my fault. I cry alot and he holds me alot. I'm NOT going to leave him, I do love him with all my heart and soul even after the fact. In the past 5 days (since I found out) our relationship has improved 100%! I know that may sound odd and believe me it feels odd.
Him and I have been through so much in 11 years. The death of a child (which also made us stronger)all the abuse I was getting from the parents, shit runs down hill so he caught his fair share of it too. It's been a very rocky road, we are blessed with a beautiful young teenage daughter (whom I would NEVER keep from him in the event things didn't work out)
he says it will take time for us to heal. I know he's right but all I want is to go back in time and changeit so it didn't happen. I know I can't so I must move forward. We are going to go to marriage couseling (his idea) just to give me the extra help I need to get through this. He really is a great man, that's why I'm having such a hard time understanding how it could of happened in the first place. Maybe, your right it may turn out to be the one of the best things that ever happened to us. It's so hard not to take your spouse for granted, we all get caught up in our own little worlds and sometimes forget we are not REALLY alone in them.
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