replying back to: Need Insight

Hi again sslea, Thanks for your reply. You're life sounds like mine. I've been married twice also and divorced twice. And I'm also way to nice in relationships. I think you got a point maybe about being to nice to men. They don't appreciated it - they are not greatful - not in the least. Nice girls finish last also. So I wanted to tell you that I can really relate to your situation allot. Anyways, I was thinking about your particular man problem today and I was thinking perhaps I should have just strongly suggested for you to just cut it off immediately and forget him. It seems like you've given him plenty of time already and he doesn't appear to be changing for the better. After my 2nd husband abandoned me and my boys (boys from my 1st marriage) and I had myself a new boyfriend over the summer and my husband was in tears wanting me back. So I broke up with that boyfriend and returned to my husband (still living separately). Well after that he never included me & my 2 boys to go with him to his families 5-6 hours north of here again. For the next several years I had an off again, on again relationship and I always hoped he would eventually include me and/or me and my kids but he finally admitted "it will never happen" and soon after that I broke up with him for good. And I lost any morsel of a feeling of love I ever did have with the man. And at one time (for years even) I was crazy in love with him, or so I thought I was. But when a man takes you on a ride down the incline railroad of pain and heartache when you get to the end of the line there is no love left at all. If you don't live with this man well I was advised by a very wise woman friend once to be kind of out there (on the internet perhaps) looking for someone new, if you know the relationship you are in is in trouble. The more I think about it, it doesn't sound like such a bad idea. If the man is the one hurting us then perhaps it shouldn't be considered such a wrong (or cheating) thing to do. Tweet