Re: replying back to: Need Insight

HI 40885! You know, I think it is just the world we live in. I don't want to say all men are that way, but the majority are. I don't know if it's that they think they have you so they take you for granted or they plain don't know how to communicate. That goes for just about anyone in general these days actually, women as well! I was thinking last night and I have actually thought this several times, that maybe women like us tend to get ourselves too involved too soon and get attached instead of getting to know the person first and then cut the ties if the red flags start coming up. I think my problem is, and I derived it from invincible, that I don't have enough confidence in myself to not put up with certian issues that most women would probally run from. It's just my loyal nature to stick by someone. I need to find balance and realize that my feelings are just as important. I have always been patient and tried to think of the other person even when they didn't think about my feelings. I would make excuses like "they'll come around" etc, etc. Well I am going to try to get out of that pattren. It's better to be alone than be with someone that makes us miserable and leave our lives open to find someone more compatable. There is even a song about that, how two is the lonliest when the other person is there physically but not emotionally. I don't like dating and tend to grab on to a guy that I am attracted to physically and try to make it work, and that is why it doesn't, because you can't change someone and they have to want what you want as well. I felt the same way about my first ex as you described about your love for your ex. I tell every one he destroyed my love with his animosity. Once I get enough, I am DONE. There was a time I would have done any thing for that man. I am getting to that point with my current bf. A person can only take so much rejection and hurt.

I am just going to go day by day and keep my eyes open. I don't know your situation right now, but I wish you the best! Keep in touch. Tweet