Re: replying back to: Need Insight

Hi again Sslea, It's so nice to hear from you. You said you go for really good looking guys - correct? And it sounds like your bf fits this picture. Well, when I was much younger I tended to look at looks allot more. But in recent years since I've been in my mid to later 40's I've more looked at a combination of assets about a man. Like for instance a good combination of cute & interesting looks, intelligence, personality, sense of humor and educational background. My bf pretty well has all these save for the thing about the money which could very well be considered one of the fatal flaws. But I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt and think of it more like he's afraid to spend his money rather then that he is very selfish. At least I'm hoping that is the true case of things. I'm only the 2nd woman my bf has ever had believe it or not. He is very quiet (the shy type) except I can get him talking just fine. Me and him we have great conversations together. He is one of the most sweet and pleasant persons I've ever had the pleasure of meeting - well save (except) for him not wanting to spend any money that is. lol (not really very funny) :( anyways getting back to you girlfriend - Did you ever perhaps think of going for a more nerdy type man like a couple of those really cute, intelligent looking but nerdy movie stars - you know that kind of look - the slim, masculine look - not the real medium or large muscular look on a man. My bf is only like 5'6" or 5'8" (to me he seems like he's more 5'8" yet he says he's 5'6"). But to me he's just adorable. He's just divinely proportioned in his face and his body. He's slim and masculine and he's got those beautiful slavik features, beautiful shaped eyes not to mention his eyes are beautiful blue also. He's body is just so damn sexy. We may hardly ever go out on dates but I just love to just hang out with him no matter if we are in his room, or downstairs watching tv or in his lab working on his paper. I mean these really good looking type men it seems like other women are always wanting them. And the more nerdy, intelligent types with the cute/adorable faces underneath the glasses and the slim/masculine bodies - they are the real sex pots - the real sexy dudes. Oh and I noticed you feeling sorry for your officer of the law again. Now how long you been putting up with his BS? Has it been a year? Has it been over a year? I was thinking you or this other woman that gave you advice said 1.5 years and if that's true you need to drop him like a hot potatoe. I'd say even if it's been going on for 6 months it's been to long. If you really love this guy that much ask him if he'd be willing to go for couples' counseling. And if he isn't willing and if he makes no progress towards change for the better and very soon - for your own sake and your girls please leave him. You seem so nice and so loving. Don't you think you deserve so much more? Do you mind if I ask how old you are? If you attract these real goodlooking men just how pretty or beautiful are you if you don't mind my asking - do you got a pic online anywhere I could view and that way I could better let you know what kind of guy I think would suit you and the kind of guy you could get and that you should go for? Sorry if I ask for to much sslea. Take care and God Bless you and your 2 girls. The thing that really worries me is that in the long run since he apparently has something against women, he might potentional, maybe abuse your girls in some way, shape or fashion. Girlfriend you deserve a man who will hold you and cuddle with you and kiss you and make sweet, beautiful love with you. Tweet