Hey thanks for not being mad at me for sort of slaming your bf. But he does not deserve you feeling sorry for him. And if his Xwife really wants a man like him back - tell her to "go for it & good luck cause you're gona need plenty". Hopefully you don't feel sorry for him anymore and you are starting to get angry. From here on out see the real picture of just how badly he is treating both you and your girls. I was thinking about your next to last message of how you said he doesn't kiss you when you make love and he won't even hold your hand. Do you realize he isn't even making love to you at all - he is just screwing you I'm very sorry to say. It sure sounds this way to me. You seem like such a loving woman, you deserve so much more then you are getting. Don't waste your life away on a man like him or should I say a boy like him. He almost sounds like one of those men who hates women and he degrades women anyway he knows how. Please take your girls and break away from him somehow, someway. I know it's hard. It's painful. Just be looking for someone new. Better yet just tell him you've had enough. Don't let him in your door anymore - no matter how much he pleads and begs. You've given him enough (plenty) of chances and he's failed you (failed your girls) miserably. I mean what kind of a step day would he make for your girls? He would make you and them just miserable. So please you sweet loving gal get away from him and find a fine, descent man that you so well deserve. And "do it now, what are you waiting for" That's 2 lines in " for Arnold S (gov of CA that he says in his movies lol). One more thing - a woman should never have to ask, beg, plead, or coach a man to give her affection. This guys a real "no brainer" a real emotional mess. If I were you I'd even be afraid of him. He's abusing you mentally now -later it might turn to physical also for both you and your girls. Get out while you can.