Re: I want to leave my Narcissist.

Hello Dragonfly,

The gals on this forum have been so helpful to me in the short couple of weeks I've been posting. You might go back and take a look at them because they mention what to do if children are involved. I think the hardest part for me at first was that I thought he really loved me but now that I know he is not able to feel empathy I know that he can only love me the way he loves another possession such as our house, business, his bike etc. I often wondered how he could love his dog so much and at the same time threaten to kick someone else's dog in the head if it came near ours. I thought that he just loved animals in general but that statement contridicted it and it makes much more sense now that I'm educated about narcissism. I think that educating yourself a little more about narcissism will help you too. Lately I have been thinking back to things he's done in the past and realizing his actions were motivated by his disorder. We know a woman who is also a narcissist and I've always wondered why she could live her life without love and that she would take money and material things over love anyday. I want true love in my life!! I've also read that some people who are married to a narcissist are inverted narcissist and they have to feel the punishment of the narcissit in order to feel alive. I don't think that is me but I don't want to toss the thought aside because I really do want to have a better life and if that's the case I'm willing to fix myself. I just don't want to get out of this relationship and get into more of the same. Everyday I am getting closer to a plan and everyday I see him do something narcisstic (believe me that's everday) it helps me to understand that I am making the right choice. Recently I've noticed that a lot of the people we associate with are other narcissit; I don't understand how this is happening if they aren't attracted to other narcissist, could someone clarify that for me? Does a narcissist dating a narcissist last long or what's the deal with it? Why are they surrounding us?

Dragonfly, I wish you all the luck and safety in the world!!! Tweet