Re: DO IT-he'll never get better

Hi Jade,

Thank you for your insight. I was a single mother for 13 years before my husband and I married; so my son is my husbands stepson. I don't feel the need to tell my son what's going on just yet. Actually, I don't even feel the need to tell my husband yet. It's so funny that you mentioned that your father is better than my husband because I have noticed that out of all the forums and all the posts I've read it seems mine isn't as bad as some; that helps me to realize I need help. I truly don't believe now that one narcissist is better than the other and if I did it might just keep me here. While I've been going through this I discovered that one of the reasons I've been so afraid to lose him is because I imagine myself in a bad place after it's over and I imagine him getting everything. I'm not sure that's really a correct way to think about it and I realize I have to have a little more faith in myself than that. Heck, I've always been the planner and I'm goal oriented and not afraid to reach for the stars but my husband has been my right hand man at helping implement my ideas and strategies and together we have been successful. However, he tends to trick me as we go to benefit his ego and does his best to make sure I stay behind my desk so he can take the credit for all we've done and hold me back as well. I've heard many people say to start socking away cash and cash only because I'll need it until the divorce is final. Maybe this is something your mom can do also. In addition, there are some pretty nice retirement/nursing homes that have all the amenaties and/or there are people who are willing to be a live in -In home care person, in trade for room and board. This is just an idea but I don't think it would be all doom and gloom for your mother and I'm sure with your help and research you both can make a plan to ensure her happiness after life with your dad. It's gotta be tough in your position because you don't want to hurt your father and you want to help your mother at the same time but your dad will ensure his own happiness no matter what.

Thanks again for your insight and hopefully mine has helped you too! Tweet