Re: I want to leave my Narcissist.

Jusme, I would strongly urge and encourage you to find another counselor as well as seek out the best divorce attorney that money can buy.  This is imperative for your case because you will have documentation of the conditions that you have existed in for all of these years - I can't stress how important this is!  I chose to try to do it, alone, and I made some very serious errors in judgement.  There's no way to diagnose a malignant narcissist - there's no psych "test" that can conclusively determine if a person is, indeed, a malignant narcissist.  Even face-to-face encounters can come up negative, such are the ways of malignant narcissists.  BUT, a wise, dedicated counselor can definitely see the symptoms of NPD, and the affects that it has had upon you, the client.  Along with an attorney, a good, strong, wise counselor will only be an asset for you through your proceedings

The p 0 r n issue is very, VERY common among N's, particularly with the advent of internet access.  The one-upmanship is a screaming symptom - you're sick?  Well, let me tell you how sick I am...etc.  If it walks like a duck, and talks like a duck, chances are:  it's a duck!  The more you learn, the more you will recognize.

My best wishes to you.