Re: Am I wrong for ending it?

Before I read further, you, typhoon, missed a few important points from her original post:

1. He gambled and spent their money without her knowledge
2. He did buy the house together with her (she can't force that on anyone; she may try to manipulate, but that's his responsibility as much as hers - he would then allow to be manipulated. however, in this case, it is highly unlikely that she manipulated him)
3. When things got bad, and she walked out, it's not like he was spending his time thinking how to put things in order again. He actually went strait to a strip joint! Now that may mean nothing to you, but for me, and I am also a father and a husband, going to a strip joint is not "just fun", it is the last thing someone who is going through separation would do. Maybe not against any law, but it's akin to going for a big party a day after your wife has a bad car accident. Just doesn't give an impression he cares for her, and I am sure, that's the case.
4. To make it all even worse, when confronted - he said "take it or leave it". That's opposite of love, trust and commitment. Not a loving husband at all.

Now, since you seem to be diving so deep into things untold, why don't you try to see if you are perhaps identifying with this man as you are quite persistent in trying to defend his actions. You wouldn't do it if you didn't recognize a familiar pattern.