Re: Maybe if I explain it one more time

When my brother died (suicide) it was a very horrific time in my life. As shattering as it was, I could work it out and understand how he got to the point that he did to take his own life. He was very sick, just lost his job, had no money, creditors were after him, etc. I was able to grieve, come to an understanding. That is what I think the healing process is about, you come to an understanding and you can move on.

With NPD there is no understanding, I am always beating my head against the wall, why, why, why and never moving on. I have copied and pasted from soulfulsurvivors post the following........

Sometimes, there is no answer as to, "Why?" someone chooses to inflict the damage that they do. Sometimes, the only reply is, "Because." As human beings, we really don't like that answer and, all too often, we get caught up in "searching for the truth" with regards to other people's behavior. We spend entirely too much time trying to "figure out" what caused someone to choose to behave in a certain way and, in spite of neurosciences, psychology, psychiatry, and spiritual lessons, there is no bona fide, reasonable explanation.

With no real answer as to why, its like the equation isn't finished, you had dinner but no dessert. You have a car, but no keys. It eats me up trying to figure this out and in a way my sister is still winning her ugly battle even though I have had very little contact with her.

I am going to read daily soulfulsurvivors comment and just maybe *I will get it this time*, lol



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