can be a narcissist. I had friends who were narcissists. It was hard for me to see it because they were very clever and I always thought that NPD was reserved for husbands and wifes and boyfriends and girlfriends. It was also hard to get to the bottom of their giving things away and helping. At the time I had no idea that I was being set up by these people and I have to question the motives of other people today to avoid the same problems. Friends, family, bosses, religious leaders, and all can be narcissists. Wasnt Jim Jones a narcissist?