Re: serious...need help

As a practicing Christian, it is my firm belief that MAN makes the "rules" of interpreting the Word as a method of control - politically, socially, "morally," etc. 

As a Survivor of domestic violence and abuse, I know that God (or, whomever one calls their Higher Power) does not intend for human beings to endure torment at the hands of another.  Divorce is not a dirty word - it's just a legal proceedure to sever ties within a legally binding contract.

You have several options, here.  You can choose to remain with this abusive person, continue begging for him to attend counseling with you, and devolve into a shell of a human being.  You can choose to remain with this person and allow your children to learn to evolve into perpetrators or victims, themselves - and, from personal experience, that is a fact, not a warning.  Or, you can choose to save yourself, and your children, if they can be helped, and evolve from a victim into a Survivor. 

But, whatever you do, please, consult the Narcissist/Sociopath Forum, here at curezone, AND visit every link listed.

Sorry, but contacting Dr. Phil and requesting to be on his show is tantamount to visiting your local palm reader and hoping to win the lottery.  Your decision must be YOUR decision - for your Self, and for your children.  Whatever happens to the perpetrator of domestic violence is not a priority to a Survivor. 

One last suggestion:  do not share any insight with your abuser, as they will twist and pervert anything that you offer as a possible solution into a TOOL to INFLICT MORE MISERY.  Check out the sites, and best of luck to you!