First, I commend you on your spiritual beliefs and your faith.
Is your husband of the same faith? If he is, have you spoken to a
priest/minister or counselor in your church who can approach your husband for
counseling? If that is possible, that is one way to go. Perhaps
coming from another source it would be more persuasive.
Another but a long shot way to go is to go to www.drphil.com
and submit a request to be on the show. There are categories there for
those requests and one is "explosive" anger. By submitting your
story, you may not get on the show but you may get some guidance from him or his
staff.
Many blessings for knowing where you are at. Many women in your
situation have just had to grit their teeth and bear it but you appear to have
your head on straight and seem to want to take whatever is necessary to get your
life together.