"when a couple makes love there are usually no boundaries, (or very few)."
really? i mean....really? thats not how it works. boundaries are important in all relationships, they DEFINE how we relate. to say that just because you are having sex with someone all boundaries go out the window is really silly. now YOU sound young, if your not you still have a lot to learn.
haven't followed this whole thread, and haven't read all the message, but that statement of yours i felt needed a response.