That sounds a little unrealistic and selfish...no mater how old or experienced you are.
self-gratification is perfectly healthy and not all men would agree that the same ol thing is the only thing that can ever turn them on.
I'm not going to sit here and tell you that I expect my man to find me, and only me attractive, not even women that I find to be more attractive than myself, before I ever agree to marry him or truly love him.
That's just ridiculous for a woman to commit to delusions of granduer as such.