No, you are not overreacting!

I agree with The Continuum Force! I can't believe the responses you have gotten! You have the right to say 'no' to sexual acts. You made it clear that you were not interested in sex that evening. He had no right to take your hand while you were sleeping and use it to spank the monkey. I completely understand you feeling violated.

The big thing you have to decide now is how to respond in the long run. I would suggest that you sit down and talk with him about it. Tell him how you felt when he did it and how you feel about it now. Hopefully he will gain understanding about how inappropriate it is to use your body for sexual activity without your consent and you can move on with your relationship. If the conversation goes well, do your best to release any resentment or anger you feel about the situation as it will hinder your relationship. If he doesn't understand, it might be time to move on.

As for the other posts from forum members, some of you should be ashamed! This is supposed to be a place where people can find healing. I can't believe some of you think that it's ok to engage in sexual activity without your partner's consent! I guess we've got A LONG way to go in regards to personal rights and responsibilities.