NO one is being harsh to her. She asked a question and we a answering it "Honestly" based on OUR opinions. If she wasn't perpared for people to disagree with her maybe she shouldn't have posted it.
I personally think it's a bit odd... Nor do I see the big deal. I'd be more angry at my partner for waking me up not trying to get a little lovin. So what she said no, maybe he was thinking he could put her in the mood that way?????? It's not like she woke up tied to the bed post and gagged, then I could see how she would be upset and kick his butt out.