Re: am I over reacting?

This situation may be a little different. The only time my boyfriend and I don't have sex before we fall asleep is when HE is not interested...and I've wanted to wake him up to me giving him head in his sleep, but if he wasn't interested before, then I wouldn't do it. The farthest I've gone is rubbing and jerking him off a little bit when he had a hard-on in his sleep. If it would have gotten to full size then I would have done the oral.

But like I said, this is a different situation. My boyfriend makes me go to bed unpleasured every now and then even when I beg for it, but I'm not going to use his fingers to pleasure me while I sleep...if I did that, he'd probably be appalled just like this girl was. If anything, I'll spank the monkey right next to him while he's asleep and it makes me feel as though I'm getting back at him for not sleeping with me...because he has a beautiful girl in bed right next to him ready to go and she's pleasuring herself instead of him doing it for her. I'm not going to get back at him by using his hand while he sleeps! That's disturbing!

Not only that...but at 5 months, I wouldn't even dream of playing with yourself, spanking the monkey next to him while he was sleeping. Using someone's limp, sleeping hand to jerk himself off is just uncalled for. He's got two of 'em!

Granted, maybe he loves the softness of yours...or maybe he was hoping to wake you up and have you see it as a turn on. You never know. It's all about communication...especially when it comes to sexual misunderstandings, that's where people get the most testy and close-minded. You can't just throw out someone you claim to love without knowing the full story. I don't agree with what he did, but...I want to have sex all the time and don't have it nearly as often as you said you do...so if I woke up to my man using my hand to jerk himself off, I'd probably be turned on by it...but he usually wakes me up to go at it or gets on the computer and goes to 89.com.