Re: What would you do - part II

I think this type of behavior occurs 1)because you allow it 2)because she is angry/upset/sad/worried about something that she keeps a secret. I think men who are more giving and more forgiving than their wives tend to be put in this situation. I'm sure when she first started acting this way it was much less intense and the anger subsided much quicker. You probably didnt call her on her irrational behavior and over time she turned into a monster. She probably hasnt been able to keep herself in check because you didnt set her straight in the begining. So now like a child gone astray she needs to relearn proper behavior when she finds something disagreeable or needs to vent about something. She needs to be told right on the spot when she acts this way that you do not deserve to be treated/talked to in such a way, that if she would like to discuss the issue like grown adults you will oblige otherwise she can act like a child by herself and leave you out of it. Ask her how she would feel if you acted that way to her. Next I would ask her if there is something else in her life that is making her angry/upset/sad etc this can cause people to release their frustrations onto other people without realizing it only because there is seemly no solution to the other (hidden) problem. If you can continually not stand for her behavior this can ulimately bring you closer because women usually disrespect a man who does not call them on their crap. Women need men to be the strongest (ie leader)in the relationship. Just my opions of course.