Oh one more thing, just popped in my mind as I was (yet again) reading Lissa's response from the earlier thread: my wife doesn't really want to do something to get better. As opposed to Lissa who was actively persuing anything she thought would help, my wife is avoiding that like a plague. The only reason she ever went to a therapist was beacuse I asked her to. She did buy one or two psychology books which were quite good, but never absorbed much from them.
Probably the most amazing thing is that she can get some new knowledge, some revelation and within days she forgets all about it- like it never happened. If we talk about something and I help her, the very same day she's back to her old ways and unaware that she made some decisions earlier. If this is brought up, she gets really angry.
She also told me that she can't keep concetration while reading a book. She says pages can go in front of her, and she wouldn't know what she read... and she'd come back to read them again, and again, but the interest in the subject is not great enough...