Re: distance varies with excitement level.

Why don't you relax and not worry about it? No one here knows who you are...I certainly don't...and I'm not trying to find out.
I respect your privacy.
Everybody talks about sex today...it's no big deal. Lighten up. If you got a problem, it needs to be solved to your satisfaction. Many other guys have your identical problem, but are afraid like you to discuss it and will never find the answer..

Here you are talking to ANYBODY. That includes me. I could be giving you bogus information. I'm not, but with her, she screens every message so you are talking directly to her.... a trained professional....not to somebody who might think it's a joke or not take it seriously..
It's much more private.
I think her site is absolutely, without question, the finest on the planet. Her goal is to help people. She is a very special humanitarian and is well known in the US. Your private information in a chat goes nowhere. She respects your privacy. You remain anonyous. I'm proud of everything she does.

This is almost 2005...and it's time you knew all the options.
You owe it to yourself.
You don't have to tell her about your long distance goals, only that you're just dribbling. If she doesn't know, she will research it in depth.
Talking about sex is no big deal. She will tell you the same thing. Start off slow with simple questions and then ease into it. You will see that I'm 100% right. Nothing to it.
If you trusted me, then you can trust her. Guaranteed.Go for it.
What do you have to lose?